Bullies, Bullies, Go Away!

Why do you find joy in taking innocent people and finding a way to be mean to them?,” Keaton Jones exclaims.

Recently, a video of a young 11-year-old boy named Keaton Jones’ went viral, as his mother filmed a video of Jones addressing the issue of bullying and his personal experiences with bullies.

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Jones explains how his peers have bullied him relentlessly, calling him ugly and pouring milk down his down during lunchtime.

The video received so much attention from streetwalkers to high-status figures, including celebrities, such as Justin Bieber and Demi Lovato, to name a few. The video was all over the news, social media, and received much more attention than what he even anticipated.

Bullying is an incredibly important issue, and we do not need a video to show how relevant it is in our society. Constantly, kids are being brought down, ganged up on, and humiliated by bullies, who tend to never get reprimanded for their actions. As we have reached the digital age, bullies have found new ways to torment those around them, using social media platforms as an outlet for their unhappiness. Not to mention, many kids are afraid to stand up to these bullies for they fear for their own consequences, if they were to go against the bully. So, many kids stand in fear for their own safety and self-preservation, in order to avoid the problem overall.

The effects that bullying has on one’s mental health and inner peace is extremely serious, and an aspect that should be taken seriously. While we all cannot encounter the nicest people, repetitive bullying and bully-like actions should never be condoned. Most often, kids, or adults, who are being bullied or harassed in some way, often feel alone, and are prone to developing lifelong mental health problems. Many individuals who experience bullying feel like they are silenced for the fear of upsetting someone who is already harassing them, and this should not be the case.

Unfortunately, it does not seem as though the bullying problem will go away any time soon, however, our society needs to adapt to the controversial social issue that’s taking place all over the world. These individuals need to be able to have outlets where they can speak openly about these problems, without it costing thousands of dollars, and without having to feel embarrassed to speak out about it.

As someone who has experieced bullying to a certain extent, I, myself, resonate with Keaton Jones’ video and want the world to know that they have a friend in me. It is one of the toughest experiences to go through and the reprucussions of long-term bullying can be detrimental some days. Most days, it takes courage to stand up for yourself, but I always remind myself that this is a reflection of them, not me.

Often, bullies are unhappy individuals themselves, with their own underlying issues and stressors. They find some sort of release in the act of bringing people down. unfortunately, oncethey find a victim, they utilize their victims as their real-life punching bags. Tactics that are often used are with the intention of humiliating the victim, and generally, they enjoy an audience. As if, experiencing it is not already enough.

While the video circulated spread a powerful message to those around us, Keaton Jones reportedly never returned back to his school in Tennessee, after receiving some backlash. While Jones appreciated the worldwide support from friends and celebrities alike, the issues did not go away. This is another problem. No action was truly taken by the school, leaving Jones to feel more vulnerable and succeptible to more harassment for speaking his mind. No one should ever feel this way, and whether it is after being bullied, or while you are being bullied, individuals who are directly experiencing harrassment tend to avoid school, have trouble adjusting back to school, and develop a whole lot of psychological issues, as a result of the lack of action.

When one is experiencing bullying they feel exposed, helpless, weak, and vulnerable, because that is the way that these people want you to feel, generally because that is how they feel. This is an example of severe displacement of anger, and often, these bullies know no boundaries. It is scary!

The only advice that I can personally give is learn to be your own best friend, mind your own business, stay focused on your goals, kill them with kindness, continue living your life to the best extent, and do your best to not think about it. I take it day-by-day, as this is something that I am currently struggling with. We are our own biggest enemy, and while the fear and embarrassment is understandable, realize that you ARE NOT enaging in this demeaning behavior and their actions are not your fault.

Instead of celebrating ourselves, some people choose to willingly blame others for their misfortunes, as a way to get a immediate release of stress. They continue doing this, because the fufillment only lasts seconds and they need to keep getting their fix. At some point, this will leave them more miserable and potentially cause trouble in their lives.

Okay, let’s be real…they are the ones obsessing over you and physically going out of their way to try to lower your self-confidence and defeat you. It is a lot of work and will not serve as a useful long-term life skill; the quicker you ditch this “hobby,” the better.

Now, while they are obsessing over harassing you and humiliating you, know that you are exerting your energy in a much more productive way, simply by not doing what they are doing. Ignoring bullies is the best way to handle the situation, as they seek to get a rise out of you. After a while, even you soon will begin to wonder how much more time and energy they are willing to spend on attempting to “ruin your existence.” Honestly, every time you wake up and continuing to live your life, they are getting more and more intimidated by you. It irritates them.

Of course, when the boundaries have been crossed, and you have attempted to take measures to make solutions, always try reaching out to an adult-figure that can be trusted or close family members. While these bullying may not stop, your loved ones can offer you some good words of advice, and some kindness and love. These bullies need all the love and kindness in the world, but take care of yourself first ♡

Honestly, the bullies themselves should be look themselves for help, as their behaviors, actions and emotions are considered abnormal. I am not saying that everyone is completely sane and perfect, but personally, the bigger issue is the mental state of the bully themself. Society always focuses on those getting bullied to seek help, when we should truly be advocating for those who are engaging in active bullying to be seeking help.

Instead of letting these cruel actions or words cloud your memory, ask for some words of encouragement, love, and support from family. Even listening to an anecdote or simply speaking to someone who truly loves you can help alleviate the pain from the situation.

The goal for withstanding bullying and perservering past it is to find solutions to alleviate the emotional, physical, or mental burdens of these actions. While you can run, you cannot hide. So, finding solutions, avoiding situations where you could encounter bullying, keeping busy and doing your best to not let it cloud your brain, is the only advice I can give. Surrounding yourself with truly good-hearted, loving people, who appreciate you is always a wonderful solution.

In some instinces, you may be forced to stand your ground. This part is one of the more painful and difficult ones. But, you need to keep in mind: everyone, including yourself, deserves happiness and inner peace. This even includes the bullies that you encounter. When you stand your ground, no matter what they say, do let them feel like you do not deserve these things, or are any less than you. Disregard these comments, as they are ways to manipulate you into thinking that you are not worthy of these things.

Try to remember the less attention you give the situation, people, etc., the more exasperated the situation will become in your head. The last thing you want is these irrelevant people thinking that they are relevant enough to occupy some of your precious time and thoughts that they have become negatively affecting you. Try to waste as little time on these individuals, who have not found hope, happiness, and confidence within themselves, or been able to move past and accept their flaws, past, inner demonds.

Always protect yourself, but understand, that these individuals are extremely unhappy people, with demons that they do not want to face. Forgive them, and keep the love alive, by hoping that they find the love, happiness, confidence, and inner peace, they so badly need.

The topic of bullying has become more and more relevant in popular culture, and thank goodness for that. This an issue that should not be ignored and be taken much more seriously in our society. Keaton Jones is just one of millions of individuals, who suffer from these painful experiences.

According to PACER’S National Bullying Prevention Center, more than out of every five students experience bullying every day. Now, let us take into account those, who may be experiencing bullying, but are too afraid to report it, or too embarrassed. According to a study conducted in 2010 by the Regional, Educational Labratory At Education Devlopment Center, 64% of kids been bullying did not report it, only 36% of students did. These statistics are concerning, as they are flawed to a certain extent and contain some statistical errors, with potential for statistical manipulation.

While it is difficult to pinpoint an exact statistic for the exact number of individuals, who may have or are experiencing bullying, it is well-known knowledge that a multitude of individuals suffer every day from this. Why is it not getting enough attention? And, what can we do to make a change? This cannot happen overnight, nor do I think the problem will ever go away completely, but how can our society make it easier for these individuals to access help and allow them to feel safe? It should not take the death of a student, or individual, as a result of bullying, for our society to recognize the issue.

While with more and more advocates and support groups, the social issue is beginning to get some real recognition, as it should. Many support groups and advocates help in focusing their efforts to those who are students, as bullying at school is one of the most popular settings for it to take place. There needs to be more action and attention received on this issue.

Bullying is never ok, under any circumstances. Do not settle for this kind of behavior and do your best to keep your head up every day! Bad days will come, but look for the good. Try to sound out the haters and realize your self-worth. Stand up for yourself, because you are worth it!

If you are ever feeling in a state of crisis, there are many outlets online specifically for your use that work 24/7, so they are there whenever you need it.



Here are some resources for you below:

  1. Crisis Call Center
    800-273-8255 or text ANSWER to 839863
    Twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week
    http://crisiscallcenter.org/crisisservices-html/
  2. Crisis Text Line (U.S. only)
    Text HELLO to 741741 or message us at facebook.com/CrisisTextLine to chat with a Crisis Counselor.
    Twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week
  3. CyberTipline
    800-843-5678
    Twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week
    http://www.cybertipline.com
  4. HopeLine
    Call or text 919-231-4525 or 1-877-235-4525
    https://www.hopeline-nc.org/



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https://www.stopbullying.gov 

This is one of the best resources, as well to utilize for your advantage. The site includes facts about bullying, the laws and policies around bullying, solutions, scholarly journal information about bullying, ways to protect yourself, and how to handle a issue of harassment, when it is not being adequetly handled properly. Know your rights and get familiar! One of the best ways to stand up for yourself is be to educated about the topic, and know that there are solutions.


Keaton Jones’ video was a great reminder for our society to start focusing on major social issues, such as bullying. It was heartbreaking for me to watch and no one deserves to ever be unhappy, or brought down. It also breaks my heart that the responses and conversations towards the video have steered away from the major issue of bullying to other issues, such as his mother’s intentions, his parents being racist, etc.

Whatever the motive may have been to release the video, the concept is still clear: BULLYING IS BAD. SOMETHING NEEDS TO BE DONE OF IT. LET’S BEGIN ADDRESSING IT RATHER THAN IGNORING IT. Yes, it is uncomfortable to talk about, but we have to start somewhere. It should not take someone taking their life, as a result of bullying, or suffering endlessly, for it to be taken seriously as a social matter.

End the cycle. Support your peers!

♡ To see Keaton Jones’ heartbreaking video, click herehttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a49beT37Bc0  ♡

♡ For those who are struggling, or may not even be struggling, know that you always have a friend in me ♡

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

 

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