Life Hack #31 – Take A Walk In Someone Else’s Shoes

Our society is driven by the value of self-preservation, or looking out for oneself, and while this is very important, it is just as important to take care of those around you.

Our lives are distracting, busy and stressful and it is easy to forget to consider the feelings of others amidst your own life. This does not make you a bad person at all, as we are all guilty of being selfish and putting ourselves ahead of others. It is incredibly important to always be taking care of yourself, but part of taking care of yourself involves taking care of those around you, whether they are loved ones or strangers.

Everyone’s feelings, realities, circumstances, struggles, etc. are all valid and it feels good to have these things acknowledged by others.

You never know what someone is going through – you have probably heard this phrase before. You have probably also heard that you should treat others how you would like to be treated. Both these phrases are extremely pertinent in understanding and recognizing the importance of understanding and being compassionate towards others around you.

It is not always easy to take others feelings into account, or what they may be going through. This is especially the case when I find myself irritated with someone, as I often only take into consideration my own hurt feelings into account. More often than not, I find myself directly placing blame on things, people, circumstances, etc. for things that are not directly their faults. Sometimes, it may even seem as if I am not capable of attempting to understand why things have happened and the role that I have played in the situation, circumstance, tussle, etc. that may be occupying my busy brain.

Most commonly, when I am experiencing a case of “being butthurt,” or being #offended by a situation, I do not ever take a walk in other people’s shoes. When my feelings are hurt, I never think about what I may have done to contribute to contribute to my feelings being hurt. I find myself holding my feelings above others, but rarely bother to take account other’s feelings, circumstances, etc. Often, people may act out, or out of character, as a result of circumstances within their own life. This is called displacement of anger, and individuals often do this because they are dealing with unresolved hardships within their lives. It is important to realize that we all act and react differently towards life. While it is easy to pass judgement, or act rude towards others, because you may not agree with someone about something, this kind of attitude and reaction will not get you anywhere, or very far.

When was the last time that someone acknowledged and validated your feelings? I truly hope that it was not too long ago. Our society lacks compassion and empathy towards others, and the struggles they may be facing. It is an incredibly amazing feeling to feel acknowledged, validated, and loved, especially by others. It is not every day that someone is willing to look past the ugly, accept and celebrate you, and show compassion, love and empathy towards the misfortunes, or hardships, that you may be facing.

Everyone needs and deserves a good friend such as this, that is simply willing to attempt to understand you, your reactions, your decisions, essentially your entire being, and love you regardless.

Whether you decide to simply just be a shoulder to cry on, or an ear that they can confide in, embrace others and try to be a friend to them.

Every single person that inhabits this Earth is struggling, in some form or another. We all mask our troubles differently, but in way or another. It is easy to forget this, as we often are blinded by our own struggles.

I do not know about you, but sometimes I get bored of addressing my own reality and my own hurdles that I need to jump, that it is refreshing to take a dip in someone else’s pool of problems.

This type of empathy, compassion, and kindness can go a long way. Beyond this, practicing being a more impartial individual, and practicing being more empathic compassionate and loving, will teach you a lot about patience, including learning to be patient with yourself and to be patient with those around you.

Yup, the world should not only revolve around you. Your world should revolve around numerous other worlds.

It is important to take care of yourself, but do not forget to take care of others, just in case, other people forget to do it. It is our civic duty to take care of other people, because no one else can take care of people the way that other people can.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

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