Life Hack #35 – Lost?

“Follow the yellow brick road,” they say.

“Take the road less traveled on,” they also say.

But, whichever you decide to follow or travel on, does not guarantee finding your way. This is because no matter who you are, how successful you are, your gender, your race, or your age, we all, as humans feel lost.

There is a certain aspect of the unknown that comes with being alive, which leaves us feeling full of busy minds and uncertainty.

The truth is that no one really ever feels like “they have been found,” and that we are all lost.

As humans, we love to make appear as though we have it all figured out, but even the most organized and successful individual is struggling to find their unique destination.

We are all in this together, as we all continue to battle figuring out the mysteries of life, our life purposes, how to find our place in this world, etc.

No one really knows what they are doing. Some days, we are taking chances. Some days, we stick to what is comfortable. Some days, we wonder what we are doing. Some days, we are wondering if what we are doing is what we really want to be doing. Some days, we feel stuck

This happens to everyone at every age. We are more alike as humans than we even think!

We all want to live our best lives and get to a place in our lives where we feel complete and utter stability. For some reason, the idea of stability is closely correlated with a life, where one is not, or will not feel, lost.

The destination of “found” is once again an imaginary, utopia that our society has created.

There will always be days, months, or even years where you will feel lost.

In order to supress feelings of uncertainty and feelings of being lost, human beings react by distracting themselves, either by getting involved in the community or activities, picking up hobbies, getting a job, going out to bars and making friends, using applications, such as Tinder, Bumble, etc., attending school, and even by engaging in self-destructive habits and negative coping skills.

The feeling of feeling lost, not belonging, and feeling completely and utterly confused, is not a very comfortable feeling. We all react towards these feelings differently, both negatively and positively, depending on the individual and the nature of the situation.

The future and the constant pressure that society, as well as yourself, put on yourself to find a place in society, in order to feel secure, is sometimes so intense that it becomes immersing your world.

You truly begin questioning yourself and struggling to find the confidence to make your way through your life, without constantly being clouded by pressures, doubts, anxieties, stressors, and situations.

The most comforting feeling to me, who constantly finds myself feeling lost and trying to find my purpose in life, is knowing that this feeling is something that is familiar to everyone.

I have learned to take advantage of finding various outlets that allow me to be able to connect with others, feel involved, and make me feel good. Doing these things and doing them as much as often allows me to somewhat alleviate these feelings of uncertainty.

Utilize the buddy system in life, and bond, connect and find outlets with other humans, coping mechanisms, and hobbies, that can allow you to feel apart of something that you enjoy.

We are all just trying to find our place in the world, and we are struggling to combat these feelings of feeling lost.

Whether you chose the yellow brick road, or whether you take the road less traveled on, you will stick find yourself lost.

The real question is where is our destination?

And, is there really a final destination that we are all going to reach sometime, even if we have decided on a destination?

Let me know what you think in the comments below ✨🌟🌙

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

Life Hack #34 – Take Notes

I love taking notes, and then color-coding them, and then perfecting them to the closest thing to perfect.

I tend to only be this meticulous with taking notes and absorbing information when I am in class.

Taking notes, and I mean literally writing, or typing, down notes, reminders, or information that you should retain is especially important.

Outside of class, there are a million reasons why you should be taking notes, mentally, but most importantly, physically taking notes. Beyond the fact that human beings are incredibly forgetful, human beings are incredibly talented at making mistakes, and even ignoring important details. Taking notes can save you from a lot of stress, inconveniences, and trouble, all which are things that we do not enjoy.

My favorite way to keep track of my life, and every aspect of my life, is to jot down a to-do list. I also love to use planners and calendars, and the more, the merrier. I own at least three calendars and a handful of planners that I love to use, mostly for fun.

I did not used to be like this.

In fact, a few years ago you could not catch me taking notes or using a planner, especially for fun. There was a time when I thought all these tasks were simply unnecessary and a waste of time. Boy, I was wrong!

Beyond to-do lists, planners, and calendars, when I am absorbing directions or instructions of any sort, or am receiving important information that I would like to access and be reminded of easily, I am quick to grab a pen and a pad of paper. If the information is successfully transferred onto a piece of paper that I keep somewhere safe, the information is able to be accessed with ease. Most importantly, the information that you are accessing is correct, accurate, and untainted.

All human beings, including myself, are guilty of lying to ourselves that “we will remember that thing that we thought kind of hard about writing down.” This results in more stress and more problems, as you are forced to construct a semi-accurate version of the information. Your version of the information is simply based on how much you absorbed the information, your ability to listen intently, and your memory. The chances of your almost-accurate information being correct is more often low rather than high. While your version of the information is not a lie and may convey “the same idea,” it is not and will not be correct. Most commonly, while the big picture of the information may have been received, individuals tend to miss the details, which are the important parts.

Taking notes is especially pertinent for those trying to pay attention to details.

Details are hypothetically smaller than the bigger picture. Human beings are all guilty of forgetting the details, or ignoring the details. But, the details are just about the only time that we should be paying attention. Instead of absorbing the details, we tend to focus on the bigger picture and are unable to appreciate, or even acknowledge, the importance of the details. Not knowing the details of any situation you encounter most often  results in mistakes, more trouble, etc.

We are all human, so we are allowed to make mistakes. But, do not let that be your excuse for not paying attention to the details of anything. It is important that you learn how vital it is to recognize the magnitude of importance that details, or skipping details, play in our lives.

Accuracy and meticulous tendencies, such as taking notes in important, information-filled situations, is extremely beneficial things that one should practice.

Even with meticulous tendencies and over-alert awareness for paying attention to the details, one can forget the details.

Can you blame them, though?

Details are just so small, and our society celebrates and promotes the concept of “the bigger picture.” Once again, the small, minute details of an otherwise bigger picture are overlooked, as if they do not play a huge role in the creation of a bigger picture.

Within a bigger picture, one can find one big picture. One can also find hundreds of small, minute details that come together to create the “bigger picture,” in which you are staring at. Without the small, minute details, there would be no bigger picture. Or, the bigger picture would just be a blank, white canvas that looks just like the others.

From experience when I am beginning a new job and am learning all my job duties, and all the details behind my duties, I always grab a pen and paper to jot down any notes, or information, that I find important, I feel is emphasized, or I feel as though I may forget.

Let’s just say that I take a lot of notes.

Just because you are taking down notes does not mean that you do not have a good memory, or that you cannot handle life. It just means that you have accepted the fact that our ability to go beyond listening, or pretending to listen, to information and actually proceed to process, acknowledge, remember, and implement every single task correctly without any reminders, or without forgetting, is not as great as we would like to believe.

We all would like to remember every little thing without having to take notes, or make reminders, details and all. But, this is simply not realistic.

Write down everything if you so please, especially if it is going to assist you in retaining information accurately. Our brains can only remember so much!

Most of us have had our entire lives, minus our infancy, to practice taking notes.

Let’s take it outside of the classroom, how about that?

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

Life Hack #33 – Patience & Persistence, My Friends!

Words that start with the letter “p” are generally quite silly, like poop, party, play, penis, and pajamas, but two words that start with the letter “p” that are far from silly, include patience and persistence.

Patience and persistence are two qualities that are not only important to learn, acknowledge, and practice in life, but are the keys to success, eternal happiness, and fufillment.

When I think of success, patience and persistence are the two words that follow the idea behind success.
In a utopian world, success would be something that was much more attainable and accessible to all, allowing people to achieve success without even having to endure hardship, hardwork or failure. Success could be attained in a blink of an eye, without having to master the qualities of patience and persistence.

It does not matter how long I have lived, or been around the block, patience and persistence are genuinely rare qualities to find in people, as many people do not initially possess the qualities of patience and persistence. I do not believe that these qualities are innate, but rather are learned, practiced, and acknowledged over a period of time.
Sometimes, I truly believe that individuals have no idea what being patient even means, let along persistent. Patience and persistence take years, sometimes even a lifetime, to truly master, or to truly engage in regularly.

In a society that prioritizes the ideal of success, I am here to tell you that success comes to those who truly are patient and persistence in their art. Change, or even desireable results, do not happen overnight. In fact, it takes weeks, months, and even years of persistence and patience to often produce the favorable, successful results that you yearn for so bad. Even then, you may never see the favorable results that you were always expecting and dreaming of.

While the answer to achieving success does not ONLY involve patience and persistence, these two qualities are some of the major factors that play into the level of success that you can achieve.
Patience is necessary, because as I mentioned above, growing success, or success, does not happen overnight. Sometimes, success can come to you all at once, allowing for an enormous amount of growth and successful results, however, a constant rate of growth and success is just not possible. At some point, the progress may seemingly come to a halt, as the amount of success that you just experienced is something of the past and the results that you work so hard for are just not cutting it. You may feel like you hit a plateau, as you find yourself stuck with the same, or similar, underwhelming results day-in-and-day-out.
Hardship, or times that seem unfavorable, are necessary for individuals to learn the quality of patience. You need to experience struggle, frustration, anger, or some emotions, about a situation, a business, a statistic, etc., in order to fully grasp the concept of being patient, or else you are not doing it right.
The idea of patience is that no matter how frustrating, difficult, or uncomfortable things may get, or may seem, that you are able to keep trying and keep working hard every day, understanding that you will not experience the benefits of your hardwork immediately, despite the fact that you may be frustrated, uncomfortable, and emotional about the way that things are turning out. Patience truly tests you, as the idea of patience encompasses maintaining consistent reactions to both good results and bad results.
Instead of immediately giving up on my blog when I did not see the results that I wished for, only after three weeks of creating it, I learned that with patience I could slowly begin working towards more favorable results, by continuing to post regularly, or iregularly, and simply giving it time.
As we all know, Rome was not built overnight.
Patience combats the idea behind satisfying your ego immediately, and instead forces individuals to work and to wait for the satisfication. In a society that thrives on immediate gratification of one’s ego, patience is often forgotten, not practiced, and not understood by the majority of the population. This is ironic, as life is all about learning to patient, with situations, with people, with life, with education, etc.
Patience can be applied to every aspect of your life, from health, to careers, to success, to learning, to education, to relationships, to friendships, to pain, to hardship, etc. It should be applied to as many aspects of your life as possible!

Perserverance is another very strong “p” word that resonates very highly with my soul. Perserverance is the act of keeping pushing on, despite any bumps, dips, or potholes in the road. Despite what life may throw you, deciding to keep trying is the definition of perserverance. I describe perserverance as “fighting the good fight.”
Perserverance is SO important to learn, practice, and acknowledge in your lifetime, as it can be applied to every aspect of your life.
Life is infamous for throwing people curveballs that come from left-field, and while we cannot always prepare for the worst and prepare for battle, learning to practice the act of perserverance is a very important lifeskill that you do not want to miss out on.
Perserverance, while similar to the idea behind patience, is different than patience, in the sense that perserverance encompasses the idea of “continuing to take stabs at something,” no matter what the circumstances may be. Patience more focuses on maintaining a sense of calm, without complaints, or loss of temper, despite how outside forces may be erupting or affecting your life, your mood, or patience.

While patience is more closely associated with maintaining a cool temper and overall demeanor, especially during times that seemingly make you want to completely want to give up, and perserverance is more closely associated with acting persistently, despite any hardships, difficulties, etc., patience and perserverance sometimes seem like they could be the same thing! I believe that these terms are so closely associated with each other that you can not be patient without persistent, and you can not be persistent without any patience. They truly go hand-in-hand, especially when expediting the journey to success! With patience and persistence, an individual can truly reach their potential, and then some, as these two traits are the fundamentals for achieving success, or even simply achieving a goal.

It sometimes may seem like throwing in the towel, or otherwise getting upset, irritated, and losing your temper, may be the answer, or the easier answer. But, easy does not get you very far in life and produces results that are less fufilling than results that one has perservered and been patient for.
The phrase, “Finally, all the hardwork paid off,” comes from a lifetime, or maybe less, of engaging in perserverance and patient behavior.

Practicing patience and practicing perserverance is not easy by any means, and for someone who has been told that I am patient and a fighter, I even know that I could be A LOT more patient and perservere through so much more than people give me credit for. Personally, patience and perserverance have been some of the most difficult qualities to emulate, because it requires a lifelong commitment and lifelong practice.

Even the most patient and persistent people find themselves engaging in inpatient and inpersistent behavior, during times of hardship, struggle, and discomfort.
While we are all not perfect and will fall victim of throwing in the towel, I encourage you to actively and genuinely make an effort to practice these two values! They will serve as beneficial in the long-run, and you will not regret it!

P A T I E N C E  &  P E R S E R V E R A N C E  A R E  M Y  V I R T U E S .
What are your virtues that you like to go out of your way to practice and embody?

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

Life Hack #32 – Music Often

I know that word on the street is that math is the universal language, but I would care to argue that music is also a universal language.

The greatest part about music is that there is an excess amount of music available for individuals worldwide to access and to enjoy. Similarly, there is always new music being produced and being made available daily for listeners to indulge in.

There is certainly no shortage of music in our world. But, sometimes there just does not seem to be enough.

Music provides a lot for individuals, including providing entertainment, providing noise, providing a coping mechanism, providing distractions, providing an opportunity to create, explore, and enjoy, etc. Music is a universal language in the sense that music is incorporated into cultures everywhere worldwide, as it is a way for individuals of different cultures to express themselves and get in touch with their creative side. Music can also serve as a

Music also has the incredibly powerful ability to unify individuals across the world, which not many things can possibly do. Music has the ability to bring individuals together, especially for those who may share similar taste in music, or for for those who enjoy the same artist, band, DJ, etc. Just by the power of music, people of different cultures, or even oppositional cultures, could find themselves coming together for a unified cause; to enjoy music. The power of music is so incredible that it even is able to unify strangers from across the world, just because individuals may enjoy the same band, artist, or song. That is saying a lot more than many political treaties that have come forth, in the attempts to unify, or attempt to bring peace, into two warring nations.

Another universal aspect of music is that people in cultures every way enjoy music, regardless of the genre. Each culture’s music is influenced by other cultures, their music, etc., so they all sound different and are unique to each culture.

What is incredibly awespiring about music is its’ ability to relate and to speak to individuals. A song, a band, or the beat of a song can have the ability to truly move someone. In fact, a song, an album, a band, etc. can be a source of refuge for those struggling with the hardships of life. It is extremely comforting to find a song that completely describes your current life situation, your mindset, etc. These songs that you can personally relate to, based on experiences, allow you to relate with your emotions with another person. Sometimes, you may find yourself completely misunderstood and find yourself struggling to relate with others around you about the situations you are currently dealing with.
When humans cannot seem to provide you the escape and comfort that you need, you can always count on music.

Music is a powerful force, as a result it has many powerful benefits to listening to it. According to past studies, listening to music that you enjoy that your brain releases dopamine, which has the ability to assist in positively affecting your mood. Music can therefore assist in the regulation of one’s mood, all while creating happiness in one’s daily life.

For those work-out junkies, what is a good workout without some good music running, hiking, or even eliptical-ing, behind you? It is not a work-out that is for sure. Studies have shown that music has the potential to boost aerobic exercise, boost mental and physical stimulation, and increase overall physical performance.

Similarly, music has the ability to decrease stress and decrease anxiety, especially music with a slow-tempo, lo-pitch, and little vocals. Listening to this calm, slow-tempo music has also been found to help those suffering from insomnia. In the study, individuals suffering with insomnia were able to fall asleep with calm, slow-tempo music playing in the background.

I enjoy many types of music. I cannot say that I truly enjoy one single genre of music over the other one, as I enjoy listening to music of all types of genres, sub-genres, and of different influences. It is truly facisnating to explore different cultures music, and it never makes for a boring day. I come across brand new music multiple times every day! Similarly, I listen to a wide variety of music every day. I can listen to anything from classical music to techno music to hip-hop/rap music to electronic music to funk in an entire day, which leaves me not enough memory or storage on my laptop to explore and uncover musical hidden gems.
Growing up, I played classical piano, somewhat competitively, for ten years, which only expanded my passion for music.
All I can say is that I like something with a good beat, or “anything that is good.”

The genre that I dislike has to be country music, as I never was exposed to it growing up and never found myself going crazy for country music. It just happens to not be my glass of wine, or my cup of tea.

Discovering new music has been made much easier and much more accessible for our society, as we have things such as YouTube, Soundcloud, Spotify, etc. that allow you to discover music of all different genres at the tip of your fingers. It is incredible how much new music you can find when you are mindlessly clicking on any of these music discovery platforms. All of a sudden my library of music suddenly expands by 30 songs, just simply by exploring and discovering new music on these various music platforms.

Below is a playlist of new songs that I recently discovered and have found myself enjoying to the fullest:
(You can find all these songs on SoundCloud)

Fa-la-la Playlist

  1. I Want You Back – Jackson 5
  2. Bones (feat. Tilli) – StéLouse
  3. Fuck Your Money – ELOHIM
  4. RØMANS – Happy Love (SAINT WKND Remix)
  5. Gettin’ Jiggy Wit It – Will Smith
  6. Manila Killa – Youth (Feat. Satica)
  7. BTFU (Mommy Issues) – Mark Johns
  8. Silence (feat. Khliad) – Marshmello
  9. Call On Me (Ryan Riback Remix) – Starley
  10. Lift Yourself – Kanye West
  11. I’m God – Clams Casino
  12. Play Catch – Rockwell Knuckles
  13. Wet Dreamz – J. Cole
  14. Dysfunctional – Tech N9ne
  15. Colours (Xaphoon Jones Remix)
  16. Sick Of Love (Blush Remix) – Lucian
  17. I Fall Apart – Post Malone

Do not let the beautiful gift and sound of music go to waste.
What are your favorite songs? What is your favorite part about music?

Bump your sick beats and blast your headphones so the guy next door can hear. Discover the beats, then share the beats with the world!

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

Life Hack #31 – Take A Walk In Someone Else’s Shoes

Our society is driven by the value of self-preservation, or looking out for oneself, and while this is very important, it is just as important to take care of those around you.

Our lives are distracting, busy and stressful and it is easy to forget to consider the feelings of others amidst your own life. This does not make you a bad person at all, as we are all guilty of being selfish and putting ourselves ahead of others. It is incredibly important to always be taking care of yourself, but part of taking care of yourself involves taking care of those around you, whether they are loved ones or strangers.

Everyone’s feelings, realities, circumstances, struggles, etc. are all valid and it feels good to have these things acknowledged by others.

You never know what someone is going through – you have probably heard this phrase before. You have probably also heard that you should treat others how you would like to be treated. Both these phrases are extremely pertinent in understanding and recognizing the importance of understanding and being compassionate towards others around you.

It is not always easy to take others feelings into account, or what they may be going through. This is especially the case when I find myself irritated with someone, as I often only take into consideration my own hurt feelings into account. More often than not, I find myself directly placing blame on things, people, circumstances, etc. for things that are not directly their faults. Sometimes, it may even seem as if I am not capable of attempting to understand why things have happened and the role that I have played in the situation, circumstance, tussle, etc. that may be occupying my busy brain.

Most commonly, when I am experiencing a case of “being butthurt,” or being #offended by a situation, I do not ever take a walk in other people’s shoes. When my feelings are hurt, I never think about what I may have done to contribute to contribute to my feelings being hurt. I find myself holding my feelings above others, but rarely bother to take account other’s feelings, circumstances, etc. Often, people may act out, or out of character, as a result of circumstances within their own life. This is called displacement of anger, and individuals often do this because they are dealing with unresolved hardships within their lives. It is important to realize that we all act and react differently towards life. While it is easy to pass judgement, or act rude towards others, because you may not agree with someone about something, this kind of attitude and reaction will not get you anywhere, or very far.

When was the last time that someone acknowledged and validated your feelings? I truly hope that it was not too long ago. Our society lacks compassion and empathy towards others, and the struggles they may be facing. It is an incredibly amazing feeling to feel acknowledged, validated, and loved, especially by others. It is not every day that someone is willing to look past the ugly, accept and celebrate you, and show compassion, love and empathy towards the misfortunes, or hardships, that you may be facing.

Everyone needs and deserves a good friend such as this, that is simply willing to attempt to understand you, your reactions, your decisions, essentially your entire being, and love you regardless.

Whether you decide to simply just be a shoulder to cry on, or an ear that they can confide in, embrace others and try to be a friend to them.

Every single person that inhabits this Earth is struggling, in some form or another. We all mask our troubles differently, but in way or another. It is easy to forget this, as we often are blinded by our own struggles.

I do not know about you, but sometimes I get bored of addressing my own reality and my own hurdles that I need to jump, that it is refreshing to take a dip in someone else’s pool of problems.

This type of empathy, compassion, and kindness can go a long way. Beyond this, practicing being a more impartial individual, and practicing being more empathic compassionate and loving, will teach you a lot about patience, including learning to be patient with yourself and to be patient with those around you.

Yup, the world should not only revolve around you. Your world should revolve around numerous other worlds.

It is important to take care of yourself, but do not forget to take care of others, just in case, other people forget to do it. It is our civic duty to take care of other people, because no one else can take care of people the way that other people can.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

Life Hack #30 – S/O To My Squad

Celebrate and shout out your fellow cheerleaders, or your support system, and do this regularly! You can never celebrate and uplift your personal cheer squad too much, as their existence in your life deserves infinite amounts of celebratory praise and appreciation. The more that you continue to acknowledge and to truly appreciate the positivity that their existence brings to your life, the more love and the more growth that friendship will begin to experience. Similarly, the more love and the more appreciation you begin to show the members of your personal cheerleading squad, the more that this individual will begin to shine and the more that this individual will begin actively exuding their best qualities, whether you notice this or not.

Everything about displaying appreciation for your support system presents positive benefits, even if these benefits may not be clearly visible for you to see.
Individuals tend to exude their best qualities and be the best versions of themselves when they are presented with positive, kind reminders of the great things that they bring to the table. In short, individuals tend to react much more positive to positive reinforcement, which can come in the form of compliments, daily reminders, etc., than they react to negativity. This is self explanatory, as human beings are programmed to respond and react in a more positive way when they are offered incentives, such as compliments, gifts, etc.

While it is nearly impossible to actively address every single one of your personal cheerleading squad with appreciation every day, however, it is incredibly important to enforce acts of appreciation for your support system, at least once a week. Tending to your support system is similar to tending to a garden; if you do not water the plants in your garden regularly, or proceed to take care of this garden, the plants in your garden will slowly begin decaying. If you continue to neglect taking care of your garden, it will result in a garden full of feeble, weak, unstable, rickety, and fragile decayed plants, which are far from accountable, let along desireable. Further neglegance over the care of your garden will result in a environment full of weeds, which will only further complicates your life by adding unnecessary clutter that you do not even want to deal with. The goal of a garden is to create an oasis, in which all of the plants are happy, healthy, strong, and stable, which are all adjectives that should describe the members of your support system. Just like your garden, you want your support system to consist of accountable, hearty, and unwavering individuals, as a strong and capable support system allows for the best opportunity for an individual to flourish and to blossom.

The foundation of one’s success rate begins with their support system, or their personal cheerleading squad. The stronger the foundation, the more stable and powerful the support system is.

A support system does not come together in the blink an eye. In fact, casting cheerleaders for your personal squad can take years and try-outs are held numerous times a month, sometimes a day. Try-outs are relentless and you will come across many desireable members for your squad, however, not every member that you cast will end up sticking around. Some cheerleaders that have made the cut for your squad initially may possess the skills and the foundation to be an excellent member of your squad, however, not every individual has the ability to mesh well with your cheerleading squad. As a result of extensive the selection process that goes into the casting process of your permanent cheerleading squad, you will encounter many temporary members, who may cheer for your team only for a short amount of time. This means that you will often find many individuals to quit the cheerleading squad, only supporting you for a temporary amount of time. These individuals are not necessarily “bad,” however, it just means that this individual just may not be the best fit for your cheerleading squad. As a result, their long-term participation on your cheerleading squad is simply out of the question. Some members of your cheerleading squad may serve shorter sentences than others who may hold a more permanent place within your cheerleading squad.

We are always changing, as our lives, so it is only natural that only a small percentage of the potential squad members are able to make the squad every try-out, as the nature, essence, goals, and priorities of the cheerleading squad is constantly changing. The permanent place-holding cheerleaders possess the qualities, patience, acceptance, and attitude to conform, and furthermore, support the cheerleading squad with their utmost ability. Not every cheerleader will possess the skills to successfully mold into the needs of the cheerleading squad, all while providing other benefits to the cheerleading squad that help the squad grow, succeed, fail, struggle, and fight. The ones that possess the love, patience, acceptance and support to hold a permanent place on your cheerleading squad time and time again are the individuals that you should never forget to shower with love, compliments, kindness, compassion, joy, and support. These people that constantly drag their booties to every life event and stand on the sidelines constantly rooting for you to succeed and to win are a rare breed, and should always be kept close to your heart.

Just like your cheerleading is constantly looking out for your best interest, it is important that you reciprocate the favor, by also tending to their needs, wants, and their best interests. After all, you do want your squad at their best, mentally, physically and emotionally.

I guarantee that all the members of your personal cheerleading squad will personally appreciate it, as it is not only polite and kind to treat people as they treat you. People will begin to lose motivation to actively work their bodies to ground for someone who either fails to acknowledge or appreciate all the good that you are doing for them. Within every functional relationship, the idea of a two-way street is always evident. It does feel nice to be recognized for your kind deeds and honest intentions, even though kindness and honest intentions do not require acknowledgement.

It is very important to get to know your personal fan-base. You should seek to form relationships with each and every member of your current squad, as knowledge serves to be a beneficial facet of building the most successful squad for your current reality. By forming personal and intimate relationships with every member of the squad, you can identify strengths and weaknesses, personalities, etc. within your squad. With this information, you can further work to mold your dream squad to showcase their utmost strengths.

Intimacy within a team of any kind functions at its’ most effective pace when members are motivated to work together. A motivation to work together sprouts from knowing, and therefore, trusting the people that have your back. It is safe to conclude that one’s ability to actively and effectively work with others closely is an important aspect in concluding whether or not they are fit to be apart of your squad. Members of your dream team should feel comfortable working with other members of your cheer squad to further benefit you, or otherwise solidify their support system.

It is much easier and comfortable living your life, knowing that you have an entire cheerleading squad behind you, rooting for you and supporting you, in sickness and in health. While it is fundamental to find support within yourself, individuals tend to experience more successful outcomes when they have a strong support system that is willing to work with you, and all your unique needs, wants, comfortability, strengths, weaknesses and your personality and behaviors, to develop a unique, effective cheer routine that caters to your unique existence, your current priorities, needs, and wants, in order to execute the routine in the most successful and most accurate way that they are able to, in order to make you happy, support you, and bring you success and happiness.

You should treat the members of your hard-working cheer squad like they are your family. Your cheerleading squad does not always have to include members of your family, however, it is important to recognize that your cheer squad is your non-biological family. They are very important forces in your well-being, happiness, etc.

No amount of reciprocation of kindness is ever too much. Throwing a themed party to celebrate and appreciate all the members of your metaphoric backbone, or spine, should be mandatory for all individuals, as we do not celebrate people’s existence nearly enough within our society. Your spinal chord, or your support system, is a very important part of your body, as it holds more responsibilities than the President of America. It is so important to take care of your spinal chord – I would even recommend spoiling your squad, especially the good ones. You know who they are!

Pampering and spoiling those you love is not a crime. Showing someone how much they mean to you speaks louder than words, and you should never take advantage of these permanent members of your cheerleading squad. These permanent place-holders on your squad do more than tolerate your existence. In fact, being apart of someone’s support system, or truly caring for another human being, is a full-time job. Their time is so valuable – do not waste their time and energy failing to acknowledge how much they do for you, whether you notice the good that they bring or not.

The way you choose to express and to celebrate every member of your support system is up to you. The size or the grandiosity of the gesture hardly plays a role in how thankful that individual be with your graceful act of appreciation. A little does go a long way, in this case.

Do not be afraid to celebrate, to enjoy, and to appreciate all the good humans that work very hard to keep you happy, healthy, and strong.

SPOIL YOUR RIDE OR DIE HOMIES. IT IS NOT A CRIME!

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

Life Hack #29 – “I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom ever follow it”

Alice from Alice In Wonderland infamously states, “I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom ever follow it.”
This may be one of the most relatable quotes from a Disney movie that I have ever heard.

The issue that Alice is addressing is the issue that our wisdom and our advice often is correct, however, as humans, we often avoid implementing and acting on our advice and wisdom. It is not fair to say that we often waste our advice on ourselves, as we often steer clear from ever listening to ourselves even though we would like to help ourselves.

We are often full of good advice and valuable wisdom that should be utilized to further better ourselves, further better our lives, further better our perspective, etc.

Implementing the piece of advice that you have set forth for yourself, or for others, is much easily said than done.

I do not know about you, but I would rather be giving advice, useless or useful, than actually going out and acting upon these realizations.

Acknowledging the advice that you have either received from yourself, or others, is the first step towards making changes, so one can eliminate the issue that required your unsollicited advice. However, if you just stop at acknowledging how much your life would get better, if only you would just follow through with acting on your advice, you may find yourself at a standstill.

Advice requires action, or requires one to make adjustments and changes, in order to fix or change the part of our life that required us to seek advice in the first place.

“Practice what you preach,” is a relavant phrase for those to acknowledge, especially those who are often found handing individuals, or themselves, advice, solicited or unsolicited.

From an outsider’s perspective, individual’s who are often caught handing out their advice seemingly appear like they have all the answers in the world, or possess some sort of access to this unlimited wisdom that allows them to live their seemingly perfect lives, with the utmost composure. It almost seems like they have all the answers in the world.
Yes, they may be flawed, but they are able to present themselves in such a way that makes them seem like they can handle any situation that life throws at them with grace, without the assistance of advice.

This perception of “wise individuals” is highly incorrect, as we all struggle with life, we all seek advice, and we all have so many unanswered questions. Life is an never ending lesson and we will never stop learning, growing, and gaining more insight into life.

As a blogger that often gives out advice, or shares life experiences, I am often faced with the perception that I always know what to do, how to handle myself, and that I know my way around life a little better than most. This is far from the truth, as I am constantly learning, growing, and seeking advice.
Furthermore, while I truly attempt to follow my own advice and be the best version of myself, I am a great example of someone who fails to actively take their own advice, especially in times of need.
Sometimes, it honestly feels better to throw yourself a pity party than to actually follow through, or even listen to, your own advice. Ignoring my own advice is something that I find myself struggling with at least 100 times a day, which is a lot of time spent ignoring rather than simply just listening. Out of the 100+ times a day that I ignore my advice, or the advice that others give me, I only listen to advice, help, etc. of any sort only 3% of the time, which is a small percentage of the time.

Why we chose to often ignore our advice truly depends on the situation, the person, the person’s willingness to change, self-doubt, the idea that ignorance is bliss, etc., The reasons are extensive and unique to each and every individual, so it is incredibly difficult to pinpoint the exact cause of our ignorance.
Sometimes, we even bask in the glory of engaging in our own pity parties, without making any attempts to make changes, even though you may be aware that something within your life needs to change.

I am full of good advice, old and new clichès, and life lessons from personal experiences, my peers, and the Internet. With all this access to advice and wisdom, it is truly a surprise how adamant we are on not listening to the advice and wisdom that is so clearly abundant within our own lives. Advice and wisdom can be found in even the most random of places, and you would be surprised how much wisdom and information you are able to soak up in just 24 hours. You are constantly gathering information and making observations about life, other’s lives, and your life, both consciously and subconsciously. We are much more wise and intuitive than we even know, or can even conceptualize.

Making judgement calls about how to handle the advice that you have been given, and possessing the ability to closely examining how the real life situation can be altered, or otherwise improved, with the assistance of some outside wisdom, requires an individual to know “right” from “wrong.” Our definitions of “right” and “wrong” are unique to each and everyone of us, however, there are a handful of things that are considered either “right” or “wrong” that are universally shared within communities, or religions, or cultures, or societies. Actions that are considered “right” are celebrated by society, and actions that are considered “wrong doing” result in punishment. These ideas of “right” and “wrong” are upheld by society, the government, etc., and these ideas are constantly being enforced and reaffirmed, whether we realize it or not.

When applying a judgement call to a situation, it is important to recognize what parts of a situation are working for you, or bringing forth benefits, and which aspects of the situation are only bringing negativity into our lives, or otherwise making our lives much harder than it should be.
Judgement calls are often done without even consciously realizing it, as the concept of “good” and “bad” are engrained in the way that we think and make decisions. Some situations may require more thought and consideration than other situations, but once you are able to properly assess the nature of a situation that may be troubling you, a quarter of the battle has already been won.

A lack of awareness of the way a situation may be affecting you, either positively or negatively, can be dangerous thing, as situations that are negatively affecting you may suddenly take a shape of its’ own, without you even realizing it. Even if life seems to unfolding right in front of your eyes, I have found that it always seems like everyone, but you, are able to thoroughly identify how a situation may be affecting you. Your peers, or an outside perspective, are able to actively witness and observe from a distance, however, often when you are right in the heart of a situation, it is incredibly difficult to truly grasp a thorough understanding of the severity that a situation is affecting you.

Often, we may blame our lack of motivation to make changes, or accept advice, whether it is solicited or unsolicited, on a lack of awareness. Most of the time, I have found that individuals often exhibit a lack of willingness to accept a situation for what it is, or pretending to prefer existing in a state of denial, is the most popular reason for individual’s ignoring advice and wisdom, even if it is coming from ourselves. As human beings, we are much more intuitive and sensitive than we even give ourselves credit for. A state of denial is incredibly dangerous, as individual’s become set on fighting their current reality. It is very easy to fall into a state of denial, as many situations that we are often in denial about are situations that are somewhat personal to us, or spark some sort of emotional reaction within us.

Most individuals are great listeners and truly attempt to implement the advice they have received into their current reality. In fact, most individuals have the best intentions, but get tripped up when it comes to the actual implementation of the advice. Every person will interpret advice differently, as advice can often be applied to more than situation. As a result, the way that an individual incorporates the advice they have been given in order to make changes in their life, differs from every individual. Similarly, an individual’s levels of enthusiasm to implement changes to their current reality, all while taking into account the advice they received, varies from person to person, as well as from situation to situation.

I believe that most individuals do not actively mean to ignore advice, but what we fail to realize is that, for an individual to fully recognize the advice that they receive, the advice must be relayed to an individual more than a handful of times.
Throughout your entire life, you could hear the same advice, or thoughts that others have about ways that you could grow, learn, and improve, but you could also go your entire life without even accepting, and therefore, implementing, the advice.
There are many reasons for this lack of ability to fully utilize a piece of advice, but the main reason is that often other aspects of an individual’s life are distracting them from processing the advice. Another reason behind a lack of implementation of advice includes that other facets of an individual’s life are more important to them, and as a result, this piece of advice that is repeated to them their entire life is never truly acknowledged, SIMPLY BECAUSE IT IS NOT THAT IMPORTANT TO THAT PERSON.

Advice and wisdom from outside sources should always be taken with a grain of salt. Sometimes, advice and wisdom comes from a place that does not look out for your best interest, or is based off of dishonesty. The source of the advice and the wisdom is a factor that one should take into consideration, all the time. The advice and the wisdom, if it comes from a dishonest place, may not serve any benefits for you, and may even end up hurting you.

Do not shut your ears and your eyes off to the advice and the wisdom that life constantly offers us, even when we do not want it, or are not seeking it. It may end up being more helpful and useful than you could ever imagine.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade