Monday, June 25, 2018, marks the first day of a very eventful and highly anticipated road trip. I will be making the journey from Boulder, Colorado to Milwaukee, Wisconsin with one of my dearest friends, Bria Schlossmann.
While our main mission is to drive her Jeep back to Milwaukee, we decided to use it as an excuse to spend time together, adventure, and finally execute a trip that we had always entertained for five years. This year it finally became a reality!
Bria is from Wisconsin, however, I am a Boulder native, who has left the Boulder bubble, but not enough. I figured if I could figure out arraignments for my obligations that I could experience the world just a little more. The world contains so many magical, all natural gifts and treasures that are begging to be recognized, admired, uncovered, and shared.
Our first day was quite eventful, as we crossed the Colorado border into Nebraska.
We also made a pit stop at Fort Morgan, Colorado. Fort Morgan is a fairly small farm town and it seemed fairly traditional! There is something about those small towns that are charming, because they contain their own local gems that give the town a personality.
Of course, as we were leaving Colorado and entering Nebraska, we could not help but grab a picture at the “Welcome to Colorful Colorado.” This ended up being a little more of an obstacle for us, as I forced Bria to get off at the nearest exit and go in the opposite direction that we were supposed to be driving in JUST TO GET THIS PICTURE.
We did not skip a beat, proceeding to grab pictures at the “Welcome to Nebraska” sign, just because we can.
Staring at endless fields of corn, wheat, grass, etc. has always been fairly soothing for me to look at. Man, these fields sure do make the Earth seem like it could possibly be flat, but only part-time. The landscape is beautiful in its own unique way, and truly depends on perspective. Colorado and Nebraska had a surplus of endless fields, and luckily these fields looked far from dry, but very green and lush! This made me very happy and grateful for the rain that our nation has been receiving.
The sky was what was up!! The clouds were so breathtaking to look at, as they seemed to be just as endless as the fields, as you could see them for miles. The clouds also seemed friendlier than usual, appearing to hang lower and closer to the ground than normal. The sky was captivating to be around
On our second day, we made our way through Nebraska, Iowa, Illinois, and finally made it to Wisconsin.
The entire time we found ourselves chasing a storm, and at some points, the rain was so heavy that we could not see the roads.
I saw lots of wind farms….
and lots of beauty!
I also found a new appreciation for the sky and the clouds.
My two day road trip excursion was extremely exciting, full of laughs, good memories, and good conversation.
My vacation is only beginning, however. I will be spending some time with Bria and her family in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, as well as Elk Point, Wisconsin. I am looking forward to be spending time with them, and exploring Wisconsin in all of its’ glory.
What Summer trips do you have planned?
Drive safe, but trip road often!!
While sweatpants, hair up, chillin’ with no makeup on may not to be my most attractive look, I have learned over the course of my lifetime that you simply cannot dress and look your best every day. Whether you cried the night before, are exhausted, or are stressed, sometimes life gets to us, and therefore, does not allow us the desire and/or time to look our best, as we would rather be comfortable and work with what we got.
Our society places an emphasis on upkeeping your outward appearances, in order to capitalize on a societal norm that the more attractive you are, the more successful, approachable, accepted and happy you will be. These are myths, but our society is quite brutal when it comes to judging others based on what they look like on the outside.
As human beings, we may not even consciously realize that we judge strangers and others around us based on their outward appearance, but we all do it all the time. This does not leave much wiggle room for those who just enjoy dressing comfortably, even in public.
The belief that one must “change,” or “get ready,” to go out into public is overused and overemphasized. While dressing nicely, or how you feel, should be an activity that you enjoy and are doing for yourself, we all once again unconsciously find ourselves in the routine of fixing ourselves up prior to going out into public.
Disregarding the entire act of upkeeping your hygiene, or maintaining some sort of beauty routine, is not something I would recommend, however, when the upkeep becomes more than just a small routine, realize that, as a human being, you should feel comfortable every day.
Above anything else, you want to be happy and comfortable in your own skin, as well as the way you choose to present yourself on any given day.
Even the biggest celebrities you know have their off-days and more than you know. Not to mention, they have the assistance of a team of elite beauty assistances, trainers and a stylist to assist them in overcoming some of the insecurities and burdens that as “normal folk” seem to encounter, YET THEY STILL HAVE OFF DAYS, or days where they may not be dressed in the most fashion-forward outfits, or have a full face of makeup.
It is hard to face scrutiny for your personal appearance, even when you are dressed in what seems like our best outfit to date and are wearing a full face of makeup. If anything, it hurts worse to face scrutiny when you are dressed in what seems like a “best dressed” type outfit, and when you have a full face of makeup. At least when you haven’t exerted any energy towards your outward presentation, you are aware of the obvious fact that you do not care to essentially “try” to primp yourself, and therefore, you are less susceptible to feeling hurt from any backlash you may receive for simply choosing to place your energy and time towards other things.
Primping yourself can be a fun, feel-good activity, as you should put on makeup if you want to, or even cake it on IF YOU TRULY WANT TO. In addition, if you want to whip out a risqué, or trendy, or a feel good or fashion-forward outfit, then you should do so. I am in no way trying to downplay the notion that one should always at least attempt to do things that will help them feel good on the inside and outside when they are out in public, or if they are feeling down.
“Trying,” as the millennials call it, is not a bad thing all the time. If you may not be feeling your best, attempting to primp yourself out and “actually get ready,” or make yourself look good (to your own standards), can help uplift your spirits, worries, or stressors. If you cannot beat them, dress better than them.
When you begin placing too much energy towards the aspect of appearing to look your best, or present yourself in a pleasing manner, becomes a central priority in your life, above your career, friends, family, health, etc., it can truly become detrimental. Usually when your outward appearance becomes such a big concern, looking and feeling your best has probably become more focused on the way that others perceive you, rather than how you perceive yourself. Getting caught up in this kind of comparison, and placing this much energy towards your outward appearance in order to please others, should never be your priority, as you will find yourself in more problems than you can conceptualize. You should take care of yourself for yourself, and you should also look your best, inside and outside, for yourself.
Beyond this, it is incredibly important to address the notion that beauty is not defined by the way that you outwardly appear, dress, or beautify yourself when one is out in public. Even in sweatpants and no makeup, you are beautiful!
If your mind is blown, then you need to reread that last statement and realize you are just as beautiful when you are in sweatpants and have no makeup on. Though you may not feel like it, beauty, while it is somewhat measured by your outward appearance, is and should never be strictly defined by one’s outside.
Do not be so hard on yourself for appearing how you normally do when you are just chilling or hanging out at home, in the privacy and in the comfort of your home. While some circumstances, such as work, job interviews, formal occasions, may require one to adjust their outward appearances accordingly and may have a more formal dress code, do not let your days be filled with the anxiety and fear of not looking your absolute best.
At this point, we all want to accentuate features of ourselves that we enjoy and look nice for ourselves, and others to a certain extent, however, you cannot hide your TRUE self from others forever. At some point, your family will see you looking “not so shabby,” and likewise, so will strangers, friends, acquaintances, ex-lovers, boyfriends or girlfriends, professors etc. This is something that you will need to get used to in order to begin embracing yourself.
Speaking for myself, I have nailed the “no makeup” part, as I was never formally taught to do makeup and genuinely do not wear makeup daily, or ever. For some reason, makeup was never introduced to me, so as a result, even as a 22-year-old, it was never included in my primping routine. I focus more on the fashion, the hygiene, the health, and the hair side of looking my very best. Just like any other individual, I have taken my outward appearance too seriously unnecessarily and find myself beating myself up for not being my best, even if it meant outwardly.
Maintaining your very best is tiresome more often than not. However, not outwardly appearing your best out in public is a sort of initiation that every human being has to endure, in order to realize that beauty, especially in our own eyes and the eyes of others, can be found even within the most oversized sweatpants, within the most bare naked face, and within the slightest bit of fat on your body.
No one is born perfect – nope, not any aspect of a human is perfect. This applies to their outward appearance, as well.
When you find yourself over analyzing your looks and outward image, just realize that we are all human and that it is okay not to exert very much effort on your outward appearance when it is not necessary. Just like many things in life, you cannot win every battle, especially looking your very best. But, it never hurts to attempt to look your best during every battle, even if you lose. It truly may make you feel better.
Sometimes the pressure of life gets to you, and once again, that is quite alright This pressure may result in one neglecting their hygiene and personal appearance, in order to cope, to heal, etc. You can try to fight it as hard as you and fight the good fight, but do not end up fighting yourself over something as insignificant as your “outsides,” or outward appearance.
As the celebrities say, not every day can be a red carpet day.
Be human. Be comfortable. Be happy. Because, you are beautiful.
Your sweatpants, hoodies, leggings, oversized t-shirts, and baggy attire are beautiful.
Your natural beauty is unmatched.
Get comfortable with your “normal” self, or your essentially naked, or most raw, or most vulnerable self, by allowing yourself the freedom of “not trying very hard” when you are getting ready. Look at yourself in the mirror. Breathe.
You are still alive. You are still breathing. Most importantly, you are still beautiful.
You can never hide genuine beauty, as it always manages to find a way to seep out from nowhere.
At least if you are ugly on the outside, you can redeem yourself by being beautiful on the inside 🤙🏾 Just kidding!
All jokes aside, allow yourself to truly embrace the “chill” and “I am too lazy to care” life. Let your soul and your outsides radiate with all natural beauty. Begin loving a pale face, sweatpants, and a low-maintenance look. Try to embrace an all-natural and untouched look, because there is no reason anyone should ever feel like they should hide their most natural, their most comfortable, and their most naked self.
Do not forget every once in a while to go out of your way to celebrate and express yourself with your outward appearance. You deserve to treat yourself, even if it means spending a little more time in front of the mirror crafting your perfect look for your day.
Whether you decide to glam it up, or play it down, you are still beautiful to me 💝
Simply put, if you like it, or feel like it, wear it!
I am feeling very cleansed, after I let go of some dead (hair folicle) ends, literally. Sometimes, you just have to let go and lighten your load.
With the new year in full swing, I let go of about 5 inches of hair, along with some toxic energy that came with the hair.
Snipping your hair folicles figuratively imitates the act of cutting the excess toxic energy as your life and can serve as a somewhat therapeutic action.
Change can be great.
And. sometimes all we need is a new haircut to give us the change we need.
New Year, New Hair What changes do you plan on making on your hair this year?
Charcoal face masks and face washes have become the new rage these days. Women and men alike have begun gravitating towards this trend to hopefully get the dream, clear skin that they have been pursuing their whole lives.
My experience using charcoal face products has been quite extensive and successful, as well. I began using charcoal products in high school, so about five years ago. Honestly, at this point in my life, I had tried just about everything on my skin, except skin-clearing medication. Hoping to give something new a try, I hesitantly began using charcoal face wash and face masks.
Charcoal products did a wonder to my skin, which cleared up within a week of using it. Not to mention, I received many compliments about how my skin looked amazing, clear, and glowing. My daily regiment included simply washing my face daily, either in the morning or night, and using a charcoal face mask twice every week. I could even notice the difference after it’s first use.
These products make your skin feel great!! While I would recommend this product to many people, finding the right charcoal face mask for your skin is very important. You can find charcoal face wash at places such as Lush, if you’re looking to invest. The Body Shop and Sephora often carry charcoal products as well.
Charcoal works like a sponge by gathering all the germs and gunk in your skin, and absorbing it. Now, you can truly wash all your worries away. It also does wonders for your pores, and is an excellent choice to help get rid of persistent acne scars. It is the same idea for charcoal face masks. Once carbon is able to come in contact with your skin, it works quickly to soak up all your impurities. For some people, scarring can be very intense, and sometimes, the acne itself is very intense, as well. Though not all people are genetically inclined to have a severe acne or scarring, charcoal products have been noted to make most users skin look younger and youthful. I noticed especially that the acne scarring around my cheek bones and along my T-Zone became less noticeable. At one point, my acne and scarring was something I was insecure about and slightly less severe. Now, I barely have acne or scarring, so there are many benefits to long-term use.
Though charcoal face masks can be a bit uncomfortable, the face masks twice a week assisted in clearing up my skin even more. Most charcoal face masks are ones you need to peel off, as you let it dry on the surface of your skin for about 10-15 minutes. I would not recommend using the face mask more than 2 times a week though. The result of pealing off the face mask is that your pores will be uprooted, making your face look softer and clearer. Not going to lie though, it does hurt a little bit. But, beauty is pain, right?!
Combining the use of the charcoal face mask and charcoal face wash lead to noticeable differences in just a three uses. My scarring from my old, acne slowly began becoming less noticeable, my acne began clearing up, my pores got smaller, and even my acne became less sever, when I had breakouts. Not only did my skin become something I was no longer insecure about, but it also left my skin looking younger, softer, and fresher.
For anyone looking to try charcoal face products. I would recommend it absolutely. I still, to this day, swear by it and use it daily. If you actually want to experience the sensation of your pores tingling, give charcoal products a chance.