Growing Pains

Oh, the pains of growing up. What does growing up even mean?

Since turning 21, I have realized that the concept of growing up is absolutely absurd, and extremely difficult, especially in your early 20s. The early years of your 20s are some of the most uncomfortable, yet fufilling years of your life, as you try to navigate through all the bullshark that life ends up throwing your way. Even your parents slowly become distant figures in your life, as they push you to try to make you the most independent version of yourself. You may even find yourself having multiple panic attacks about experiencing quarter-life crisis’s, and will definitely find yourself facing more challenges.

Your early 20s are spent figuring out and discovering that the world is not so black-and-white, and things are never always in your control. Not having control over every aspect of your life is something that you need to realize quick, as you may grow apart from friends, experience anxiety about your future, etc.

Spending time by yourself, just trying to figure yourself out is one of the best ways I have dealt with my uncomfortably, awkward anxiety attacks. Honestly, I did not even have my life mapped out for my 20s, as they always seemed so far away.

With that said,

  1. Speak your mind and utilize your voice.

    The best life advice I have received of coming of age is that you should always speak your mind, and speak it well, and intelligently. Lauren Conrad wrote a similar article on her blog stating 10 things she wished she would have known in her early 20s, and speaking your mind is one of the most efficient ways to maintain healthy friendships, standing up to bullies, etc. Your voice should be used to be heard. Do not let anyone or anything silence you, asking for what you need and want is far from a crime. The worst thing that could come out of asking for something and speaking your mind, is the answer “no,” or a negative comment.

  2.  Spend as much time alone as possible.

    This seems counterproductive and a little depressing, however, the positive benefits of hanging out with oneself plays such a huge role in the process of growing up.

    Finding what you like and what you do not like are some things that come out of hanging out with yourself. Finding independence in a society that places the utmost importance on co-dependence is almost a freeing experience. You are no longer held back by the fear of doing stuff alone, rather you crave doing things alone and find solace in your daily activities.

    Induce your creativity and find new hobbies to partake in. No matter how old you are or how awkward it may seem dating yourself is one of the best ways to make the growing pains a little less painful.

  3. Place importance on your education and obligations.

    Whether you’re in school or not in school, and simply just working, it is important that you make these things a priority in your life, as they play a huge role in your life outside of school. Attend work and school obligations on time and realize how much working hard at aspects of your life will result in ultimate happiness.

You may not be happy, in the moment while you are working hard, however, in the long-run many opportunities may present themselves.
Whether it is setting yourself apart by cleaning the bathrooms at work, picking up coffee for the administrative assistant that you work for, seize every opportunity to set yourself apart from others. Being self-motivated is one of the best attributes to attain, when you are going through the process of growing up.

   4.                             Grasp every opportunity for success that you may come across.

This is incredibly important, as life does not offer too many free lemons for you to make unlimited amounts of lemonade. After a while, the opportunities stop presenting themselves, if you keep denying them. Whether you are grasping an opportunity to make a new friend or grasping a job promotion, work hard for it, try to say “yes,” as often as possible. You do not want to be left with the question “what if?” that will constantly haunt your mind.

5.                          Forget the drama, and do not even leave it for your mama.

Literally, you may fight every one of your so called “good friends,” while you are facing life’s biggest challenge of growing up. Yes, your group of friends will downsize considerably, as you begin to realize that most of the friends you made over the last few years, have become distant enemies or acquaintances. This is quite normal and perfectly alright. However, when it comes to drama, leave it alone and let it be. Do not pay any mind to it, because in a few years, your name will be nothing but an old ghost town. Drama is pointless and a distraction from what really matters. Try to avoid it as much as possible. Leave rumors alone, and do not entertain them.

              6.                              Start a bucket list

Make a bucket list full of your biggest fears, dreams, ect, and most importantly, start checking off the activities you have completed. Bucket lists can almost serve as goals you want to achieve, or just can include fun activities that you can participate in when you have the time. Things like, cliff jumping, graduating college, bungee jumping, starting a blog, traveling to Iceland and finishing a whole entire coloring book are things that are on my bucket list.

           7.                               Find new hobbies or join a club

Forget the partying, after you hit your early 20s, no one even cares to go out every night of the weekend, due to circumstantial obligations. New hobbies, other than partying, can serve as healthy activities that you can utilize when you are feeling super bored. This is not to say that you should not go out at all, but to find a balance between having fun and hobbies. Partying should NOT be your only hobby, as this will not get you very far.

Journaling, coloring, hiking, blogging and shopping are some of my favorite past times, as I try to engage in healthy hobbies every day. Find something you like, and stick with it. If it makes you happy, who cares what you are doing.

Joining a club can also serve as a positive outlet to meet new people and form new friendships. Volunteering is also a fun way to assist your local community, all while spending time doing something positive.

NOTE TO ALL: YOUR EARLY 20s ARE SOME OF THE MOST UNCOMFORTABLE YEARS OF YOUR LIFE. EVERYONE IS GOING THROUGH SIMILAR EXPERIENCES DISCOVERING WHO THEY ARE, WHAT THEY WANT TO DO WITH THEIR LIVES, ETC. We all deal with the uncomfortable growing pains of life. Learn to embrace them and find ways to combat your uncomfortability. This is a crucial time in any individuals life, as we are all learning how to come of age, how to be mature, and how to be independent. Do not let life discourage you. WE ARE ALL GOING THROUGH QUARTER-LIFE CRISES, it’s up to you how you choose to handle it.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

 

 

Sensitive?

Lose the sensitivity to a certain extent, and learn to stop taking life so seriously.

I struggle with sensitivity and find myself being overtly sensitive towards situations that are quite petty. For some reason, all the small things always seem to matter, and I will not forget about them.

“Shake the dirt off your shoulders,” says Jay-Z. It is not quite as easy as he says though.

Life is personal, and as a result, sensitivity is inevitable and a human emotion that we all visit every once in a while.

Hey, a comment here and a comment there builds character. Thick skin is necessary, so try to lay off crying in the corner, and take every insult, and crude comment, and use it to your advantage.

Some techniques I often use to manage my sensitivity, includes not talking about others behind their back, trying my hardest to stay as unaware of the mean, malicious comments, or I simply just ignoring them. Try to store these comments in your short-term memory. Entertaining your sensitivity by embracing all of your triggers is the best way to handle a situation.

Not everything in life will go your way, including friendships, jobs, your education, what others say about you, and what people say to you, learning to ignore and walk away from these situations is essential.

Understand that life makes every single human being sensitive, and we universally share this emotion. Similarly, most individuals like feeling susceptible, vulnerable, and naked and afraid. This is all okay, just retrain from internalizing every comment that may bother you.

So, listen to Jay-Z for once in your life and just shake the dirt off of your shoulders. Spend more time listening to yourself than others. Do not sweat the small stuff!

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

Call It An Autobiography

Simply put, I am an anonymous 21-year-old blogger, who is so curious about this world that I felt the need to share all my thoughts and feelings online. I entertain myself with blogging, hiking, coloring, working, discovering new fashion trends, and just about anything that soothes my soul (this list never ends). Some would even say I am boring or too eccentric, but my boredom and eccentric attitude are what have landed me on this page. I have made this blog, because, as Jonah Hill once said in 21 Jump Street, “this is my temple. This is where I come to find peace.”

Now that you know some surface level details about my life, I also would like to say that I live in Boulder, Colorado, attending the University of Boulder, Colorado, pursuing a double degree in Advertising and Psychology. I am a locally grown native of Boulder, Colorado and have yet to get sick of the beautiful views of the Flatirons.

Normal, eccentric, friendly, crazy, and bored are all words I use to describe myself. I will go a little bit deeper and disclose my deepest, darkest secret…I have been diagnosed with six types of ADD, ADHD, OCD, social anxiety, generalized anxiety disorder, panic disorder, and post-traumatic stress disorder. My diagnoses generally turn people off, as they often complain that they are scared of me, scared to trigger or enable me, or treat me differently than they normally would if I had not been diagnosed.

Though I have been labeled with these diagnoses, I do not want to hide the gifts or hide the unique biochemical makeup of my efficiently functioning brain. Though many individuals, including society, have stigmatized my “mental illnesses,” I’ve decided to not let this hold me back.

With that said, I embrace life. Perspective is the key to success, and one of the best ways I cope with my anxiety. Society spends so much time masking and shunning those who are considered “disabled,” when in fact, these labels are not disabilities, rather they are powerful abilities that I have been blessed with. Stigmas are the world’s Miracle Whip (no one really likes it).

My life can be difficult at times, but happiness is not hard to come by for me. In fact, I choose happiness; I do not look for it or try to locate it. The happiest times and the most memorable times are the times in which I’ve practiced mindfulness and perseverance.

At times, my gifts have served as a disadvantage for me, as it has been used against me time-and-time again. Lemony Snicket’s A Series of Unforunate Events could be viewed as an actual representation of my life, as it is a constant trainwreck, where I am always adjusting to change. My life may mirror A Series Of Unfortunate Events; society even foresees that my life will be an eternal train wreck, but I beg to differ.

Despite all these stigmas and roller coaster rides, I have decided to make a blog, in order to let people in and show how normal those who have been diagnosed are.

Things that are important to me are as substantial as non-materialistic items, such as family, positive, meaningful friends, pizza, art, nature, photography, making memories, practicing kindness and patience, and the small surprises that life throws my way.

It has been a hard journey to find comfortability and love within myself. I am not talking about just spreading love to others, just like you spread peanut butter and jelly on bread, I am talking about finding self-love. This blog marks the day that I have decided to let everyone know how much self-love was hard to come by and that I finally love myself. I love every single gift, every single “flaw,” even though I hate the word “flaw,” and fragment of myself.

Every day that I choose life, I am also choosing to beat the statistics. In fact, on average 98% of PTSD patients commit suicide. This statistic is a very important statistic for me, because it proves that anything is truly possible if you set your mind to it, this even includes self-love.

Self-love is never taught in school, though I personally believe it should be. Celebrations, including celebrating life and yourself, are not held frequently enough, especially in our society. Society has become toxic, constantly thriving off of the failures of others. We are all human, however, and deserve to celebrate ourselves, because we are all connected in one way or another.

I love humans, I love meeting new people, I love making new friends, and I thoroughly enjoy getting to know everyone. I also love celebrating people and their successes, especially in a society where we constantly forget to pat ourselves on our back, let along acknowledge one another.

The reason I love talking and meeting people is because we can all learn something from every human being we encounter in our lives. Whether the human is toxic or a positive force in your life, every human being has something substantial to offer and has good qualities. If you just look hard enough, you will realize how much good there is in the world and in every single human being. Though you may clash with many individuals in your life and you may have some hate left for certain people in your heart, no human is truly bad to the bone.

Seeing the world in just black-and-white, just as good vs. bad, is a clouded, and distorted way to view your life. You miss out on opportunities to forgive, opportunities to make more memories, expand your horizons, and most importantly, miss out on truly finding love within yourself and finding love with others. It is always easy to blame others for your own faults, trauma, anxiety, etc., however, humans shape the world and make the world go round.

When you break it down, every single human being is molecularly and genetically unique from one another, this includes personality as well. I believe it is important to encounter every single human, including yourself, in order to truly live a life filled with love and passion.

Getting to where I am today was difficult, and full of many bumps in the road, as I still continue to struggle to be a better version of myself every day. I had to spend over 21 years dating myself, encountering people who I altercated with, finding hobbies, becoming self-aware, and becoming self-motivated.

As a child, I was enrolled in a Montessori school, where I learned the importance of kindness, respect, independence, celebration, schedules, having hobbies, and learning to be an inclusive human being, who should get to know everyone. Most importantly, I was taught the importance of kindness, how to be kind, to always forgive those around you that may have made a mistake, and to celebrate everyone’s uniqueness. I also learned how much I love art, how much I love to travel, and how much I still practice these lessons I learned to this day.

I am no longer discouraged by societal norms, as I found that basing my self-love on what others think of me more toxic than ocean water after an oil spill. Every day I live is another day that I can better myself, smile more, laugh more, and make more memories. It has become essential for me to take a moment out of every day to realize and count all my blessings, and to realize how rare the gift of happiness is. Taking a minute every day has allowed for me to realize that every day is, and should be, a blessing and celebration, full of surprises. Every day is full of presents for me, and I have realized that the more that you look for and acknowledge the simple, synchronistic, and beautiful things in life, the more life will gift them to you.

I face fear every day, however, my fear used to be based on what others thought about me. Now, I face more rational substantial fears, involving how much more I can challenge myself to make my day better, whether or not I am budgeting enough, whether or not I should call in sick to work, what I want to wear today, or whether or not I should even finish college.

I strive to be the most raw, real, and resourceful human being to those around me. My curiosity for the world is what combats my six types of ADD, ADHD, OCD, generalized anxiety disorder, panic disorder, social anxiety, and PTSD. All of those words put into one sentence brings fear to not only me, but to my team of therapists. I, unfortunately, am asked on a daily basis how I am able to wake up every morning and simply just live. This question is mind boggling, because living can be as simple as just breathing and opening your eyes. To me, when you break everything down, life is the simplest gift that has graced my presence. I choose to live, because I am afraid of not living.

The definition of life is very interchangable. Personally, “living” involves daily adventures with myself or my friends, engaging in constructive behavior, going to work, being responsible, passing on kindness, and being a support system for someone else.

The only fear I face is the fear that my mental diagnoses will be used as a hindrance towards my success, or may stop me from living a “normal” life. I can not say my life is not difficult and/or hard at times, because it truly is hard to live with my unique biochemical makeup. In fact, it took me years to figure out how to live with such an active mind and how to manage my stress when I truly do have more issues than Vogue.

Instead of hiding in the dark, I’ve finally decided to test my own courage by releasing my biggest secrets to the public. It’s not quite opposite day, and I can not take this blog post back, just like I can not take back my mental diagnoses. These labels no longer define me, but are used as tools to my advantage.

My life motto is, “life is life, you have got to face reality.” You can not choose the cards life hands you, but you can take the cards life hands and try to find solutions to make it better. Trying is better than never trying at all, as “what if?” is a constant question that runs through my brain. Choose life and give me a chance to let you into my complicated, distorted, adventurous world.

~Always remember that no one, but yourself, defines you. No one but yourself can dictate your happines!s ~

~Even if your cheerios get peed on in the morning, eat it well and eat it all! ~

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

Things To Do When Bored

I get bored so, so easily and have had to come up with some things to when boredom hits me harder than the bricks on the Great Wall of China.

  1. Coloring – Coloring and anything related to art therapy helps soothe my anxiety and assists with stress management. I love coloring and have about nine different coloring books, which are also manufactured for those adults who are interested. They are sold everywhere from your local bookstore to 711. Barnes & Noble is also a great place to find a variety of them. Do not just limit yourself to just using colored pencils, try crayons and pastels as a fun new medium.
  2. Crafting – Coloring and crafting are the two C’s that I thoroughly enjoy. Crafts and DIY’s are my absolute favorite. I personalize and distress my own clothes, and often craft things in my room. My next mission is to be able to make a white and sea foam green dream catcher, with florals and sea shells as ornaments. Crafting can include things, such as, origami, basic DIY’s, tie-dye (one of my personal favorites), plant crafts, crafts to put on your wall, drying out flowers, etc. You can honestly find DIY videos for everything these days, as YouTube and the internet have become so accessible to us. Making jewelry is also something I am trying to learn. Many crafts are fairly easy, but require many items in order to make them. JoAnns, Hobby Lobby and Michael’s often carry amazing supplies and materials, as they are crafting enterprises.
  3. Photography – I may not have a professional camera, nor do you need one, however, I love photography. Nothing makes me feel better than when I finally get “the shot.” “The shot” takes me one million hours to get and about 40 photo bursts on my iPhone, but hey, whatever gets the job done! Channeling your energy into capturing memories is a fun way to exert some positive, and creative energy. Fuji Mini Instax Polaroid cameras are a fun way to get a great photo and have the photos developed instantly. Polaroid cameras are easy to find and retail at places, such as Urban Outfitters, Amazon, Walmart, etc. They are a great investment and the polaroids are a great decor for your walls!
  4. Hiking – Any form of exercise really helps with boredom. You are actively able to exert energy outwardly and forget about all your troubles. I choose hiking, because yoga, cycling, etc. are too much for me to afford. If you are a college student, you usually have a gym included, however, I have never been to mine in the four years of attending the University of Colorado Boulder. I choose the outdoors, because the therapy that nature gives me is unlike any other. Not going to lie, I am a little spoiled with the Flatirons and do not nearly spend enough time exploring all the hikes in my area. I am also a little more spoiled, due to the amount of hikes there are in Boulder. Sorry to toot my horn, but I know there are plenty of places to walk or hike everywhere! Spending time outside getting some Vitamin D is important for your physical health, as it is an essential to keep your immune system running properly. Similarly, when you workout and/or exercise, keep in mind that extra endorphins are released, giving you the ultimate high that is thoroughly enjoyable. Kickboxing, yoga, hiking, cycling, zumba, or hitting your local gym are some extra fun ways to exude your energy and forget about your boredom.
  5. Interior Decorating – Want to make your chill space better? Then, do it! I love spending time mindlessly tacking up every single magazine clipping that I find visually stimulating, and have all my walls decorated with tapestries and drawings.Similarly, I love spending time doing more than just decorating my walls, but other areas of my room. I display candles every where, and try to get amazing decor from local decorative stores in and around the Boulder area. I also love mandalas, so I have plenty of tapestries to cover my walls, as well. For a fun, sophisticated touch, try covering your ceilings or walls, by putting up some Christmas lights. They add a beautiful touch to a bland room that has yet to be decorated. HomeGoods and Target both have eclectic decor that matches the taste of a wide audience. They also have so much variety, including minimalist decor, extravagant decor, etc. These items are also all very affordable to the public. Stop by your local HomeGoods or Target and take a peek at their selection! Chances are you will walk away with something!
  6. Retail Therapy – Hey, I am the worst at budgeting, but love to spend cash. Any one else the same way? Whatever forever is my motto about that. I love spending money on clothes that I absolutely adore. Fashion is always changing, so my taste in clothes is always adapting to the new, and current trends. Shopping, whether it is for groceries or clothes or gifts, are all good fun. It is a great way to get out of your living space, and hopefully treat yourself or someone else.Cash deserves to be spent, and if we are spending money, are we not helping the economy? These are the things I think about, while I mindlessly spend my hard-earned $300 paycheck in a matter of seconds.
  7. Free Events – If you look hard enough or are bored enough, looking up events in and around your area is something fun to do. It’s cheap…dirt cheap. Free events are always happening, and there’s generally not a shortage of things to do. Usually, finding a local bar, coffee shop, etc. assists in the process of finding free events. During one of my most recent job hunts, I visited a local coffee shop and eatery that held events, like karaoke night, slam poetry, etc. This is something fun to do! Similarly, if you attend a university, there are always free events, with free food included. And, the best things in life are most definitely free! Get to know your campus a little more, and look for local listings for free events. There are usually posters for fun events, or announcements in your classes. Free food is too hard to pass up on for a broke college girl like me!
  8. Volunteering – If you are into helping out the community and society, I think that volunteering may be right up your alley way. Volunteering for local homeless shelters, the local Humane Society, retired living homes, etc. are great ways to spend time helping others, instead of being bored. It also allows you to have a perspective on how blessed you truly are, and I am always counting my blessings when I volunteer. Helping out the community not only helps others feel better, but most importantly, makes me feel better. Talk about another head high! It is amazing the people you will end up encountering, during your volunteering. Plus, you can get a good recommendation or two out of it. Whatever helps, right?
  9. Get a job – This is what your parents want from you, right? What does being self-sufficient even mean? My parents have allowed me to learn really quickly the value of a dollar, as I am personally responsible for outward expenses, such as clothes, rent, food, events, etc. I am financially responsible for myself, except for my tuition and part of my rent, which my parents pay. Getting a job not only builds character, but helps you develop essential skills, such as being respectful, being a team player, being outwardly kind, being punctual, and allows you to have a sense of responsibility. Though I moan and groan about having another responsibility on my plate, I love working hard for my money. Spending my money and saving it feels ten billion times better when you have made it yourself. If you are trying to find new outlets to make a new social group, a job will definitely help with that! While working with your coworkers, after just a week, you already feel like you have known them a lifetime. Slowly but surely, they become one of your support systems and friends, just through simply working with them part-time, or full-time. Work is not supposed to be fun, but you can make it fun! Having a positive attitude and an uplifting work environment is hard to find. I usually challenge myself to find a job that makes me feel comfortable, happy, and holds me to a high standard. I also love having a great manager or managers, depending on where you work. This makes all the difference in the world! So, to sum this up, getting a job is one of the biggest blessings and most efficient way to actively combat your boredom. If you are trying to make your parents proud of have gotten cut off financially, take a stab at taking on a career as a responsibility.
  10. Education – Focus on your school! For crying out loud, you are probably not even bored…you probably are just avoiding your homework! Do not just settle for your grades, work hard for them. Attend classes, take notes diligently, get to know your professors, and make friends in your classes. Friends are easily made in class, seeing that you are all on the same boat – trying to pass with the least amount of effort exerted. Studying and school can be incredibly boring, this is why I am currently taking a year off of school. I love double degree in Psychology and Advertising, however, it is a lot of work. Be realistic – every day, if you set aside one or two hours from mindlessly watching television, you could study, revise, and review your notes, instead of feeling crammed and stressed, by the end of the week. I have found that planners help me stay on top of everything and not forget assignments. Also, reviewing your class syllabus is one of the most important things you should do when the class begins. You will then have a more general understanding of the class, and will not feel bothered and stressed when your professor gently reminds you that you have a test next class. Rewriting notes is one of the ways I try to understand concepts from class, and I generally rewrite them the day after the class. This has helped me retain all of the information into my long-term memory, as opposed to cramming and losing all the information. Finals are no joke, and to do well, you need to also be attentive during class. Concepts can be hard to understand, especially when you are vigorously writing notes, however, I found that listening and writing down examples that professors give on concepts assists me in understanding the overall concept. Examples to big concepts allow me to understand the concept more than memorization. In college, tests test beyond just simple memorization, and were created to test your thorough knowledge of the topic.
  11. Journaling/Blogging – With all these technological advancements, I have found solace with blogging and journaling all my thoughts and emotions. Journaling is what led me to making a blog, as I wanted to let my creative ideas out on more than just paper. Journaling has a way of being extremely therapeutic and has allowed me to mature, by using it as a way to identify problems in my life, solutions to problems, ways that I can grow, and a way to celebrate myself and my accomplishments. You do not need to write in it every day, or really at all, I also color and doodle in my journal, because it is your journal and you can use it any way you like it. My journal is something personal to me, and I have already accomplished filling out on whole journal with my thoughts. I used to journal every day, and for hours. The amount of anxiety and stress we, as humans, feel every day is tiring and rigorous. Journaling is where I vent, and is my imaginary girlfriend. Instead of venting so negatively about others to others, journaling is a great avenue for venting about small, petty stuff about your “stupid friends” who are annoying you. Better out of your system, than kept bottled up in your system. I would not spend so much time “venting,” as I use it as a way to make solutions, but I do have a full novel of things I have written about all my wonderful friends. Trust me, I do not need it released to the public. Journals keep you out of trouble with friends, drama, and help with stress-management and self-awareness. Honestly, it is also something to be proud of. Apple Inc. has even released a basic journal application that allows you to take pictures, while simultaneously allowing you to journal about the photograph. Journaling is very accessible these days. Try the old school way and write, if you are really feeling adventurous.
  12. Conquer A Fear – Whether it’s a piercing or a tattoo, it is always good to push yourself out of your comfort zone. My fears of heights and deep waters were tested this past summer, when I went cliff jumping for the first time. The cliff was tall, and was about 40 feet tall. I had about a 16-person audience that would not stop calling me a “pussy.” This went on non-stop for about 3 hours, when the sunrise had slowly begun. So, I just jumped to a song called “Twenty One” and took a leap of faith. Mind you, I was completely and utterly sober. I blacked out for the whole experience, as I hit the water hard. It was cold, not to mention I was under water for longer than everyone had told me. But, I was safe, so who cares, right? After the jump and after I got warm again, I realized how good I felt. I finally had done something that was on my bucket list, and I had done it without the use of any alcohol. My emotions reset themselves and I immediately felt a trillion times better about myself. I also just really could not stand being called a “pussy” any longer, and a bunch of middle schoolers had just pulled up to the scene. I did it for myself, if you look at it from my perspective. Just kidding! Either way, if you are doing it for others or youself, do something fun and adventurous. I would love to recommend cliff jumping to everyone, though I will never do it again. But, things, such as zip lining, skydiving, and scuba diving are all on my list of things I would like to do. For some reason, all of these activities involve my two biggest fears of heights and deep water, but I am always willing to get out of my comfort zone. Be brave and be bold!
  13. Pampering Yourself – When I pamper myself, I usually indulge in a long, hot shower and a face mask. I also get it on with nail polish, constantly changing my nail colors, according to the season and my mood. Similarly, I try to dress better, in order to pamper my ego and feel good. My ego is almost non-existent, but my clothes are endless. I love dressing better and being passionate about taking good care of myself. This obviously goes beyond just dressing nicely (and when I say nicely, I mean what ever makes you feel best)! It goes as far as getting enough sleep, hygiene, exercising everyday, eating better, drinking lots of tea and water, getting all of your nutrients, etc. These are all vital to pampering yourself and being at 110% everyday. Because, we are all functioning at 100% at this very moment, as we are currently the best versions of ourselves to date. Pampering also includes practicing self-love, self-awareness, isolation to a certain extent from stimulation, and engaging in healthy habits. I like to spend most of my days simply pampering myself, and think my overall wellbeing has improved simply from pampering. If Pampers’ diapers pamper babies, why can we not make our own imaginary Pamper’s and pamper ourselves?  I do not think anyone, but yourself is holding you back.Now, do not get too crazy about over-pampering yourself, because hard work is necessary to get places in life. And, the real world is cruel and will not spend time pampering you very often.
  14. Make a bucket list – I call mine my “YOLO list,” aka the things I want to do before I die. I have accomplished quite a few since turning 21, seeing that I did not plan to even make it to this age. I would even go as far as to say that I have only completed about 1/10 of the things on my list. My list includes traveling abroad in Australia, New Zealand, and Asia, going to Europe, meeting a koala bear, which is my spirit animal, going to the Blue Lagoon, going to the white sand dunes, going to a SuperBowl game, attending the Grammy’s, going to the Salt Flats in Bolivia, exploring all the national parks, like antelope canyon, hiking all the trails at Rocky Mountain National Park, getting a nice Nikon camera and a GoPro, zip lining, competing in an eating challenge and winning, sky diving, graduating from college, getting a job in the fashion industry to do fashion marketing and advertising, going to a music festival, landing an ad campaign with Kendall Jenner, Cara Delevigne, and Gigi Hadid, learning to become self-sufficient and responsible, etc. The list honestly continues to grow every day that I am alive, but it makes me feel great once I have accomplished them. One of my things on my bucket list was making a blog, and actually blogging. I finally have gotten around to doing this and it is one less thing I have to do before I die? Bad joke? Probably.
  15. Cooking & Baking- This one is NOT my front running skill, but I still take a stab at it once in a while. I wish I was better at cooking and baking, but this is a great mechanism to learn to kill boredom. Recipes are online everywhere, making it easy for even a beginning to learn how to cook some chicken and pasta. Tasty and Spoon University are two major foodie online websites, that feature videos and short tutorials on how to make amazing recipes.
  16. Text/Call/FaceTime friends & family- Your friends and family are your ultimate support group. In fact, you rely on them more than you know, especially when you are bored. One way to kill boredom is to take a minute or three hours to go through your contacts and text, or call, or FaceTime your loved ones. Random calls and texts from others that you love can only do one thing: warm your soul up. Recognize the role they play in your life and thank them for blessing you with their presence. See, Christmas can be every day? I try to envision myself as Santa Clause. Just like Clause on Christmas Eve, I deliver messages and gifts to my loved ones, just so they know I care. This is a very effective way to stay in-touch with your friends more often, who you probably do not see or talk to enough. Use your technological devices to your advantage!

Boredom feeds my soul, but finding new hobbies also feeds my soul, because through boredom I find new hobbies and activities that I can engage in, in order to live my life to the fullest.

Versatile Velvet

‘Tis the season for velvet! I am not just talking about just one shade of velvet, but all shades of velvet. Red, blue, green, black – you take your pick this season!

Not only is velvet an essential transitional piece for the spring, but you can make a statement with a new material.

It’s smooth and sophisticated feel will help glam up and spruce up your outfit this season, as it has become a statement piece for many celebrities, such as Vanessa Hudgens, Zoe Saldana, and Gigi Hadid, to name a few. This trend has even been spotted on runway shows, including Balmain, Marious Schwab, Christopher Kane, and Gucci to name a few.

Velvet has become such an essential this season that you can find it in every shade and in every style, including dresses, crop tops, jackets (as spotted on Gigi Hadid), pants, and skirts. Additionally, you can dress it down or dress it up, depending on the occasion.

This season velvet’s versatility has become a “must have,” so grab your essential, versatile velvet attire and sport it this spring.