Trippin’ Road

Monday, June 25, 2018, marks the first day of a very eventful and highly anticipated road trip. I will be making the journey from Boulder, Colorado to Milwaukee, Wisconsin with one of my dearest friends, Bria Schlossmann.

While our main mission is to drive her Jeep back to Milwaukee, we decided to use it as an excuse to spend time together, adventure, and finally execute a trip that we had always entertained for five years. This year it finally became a reality!

Bria is from Wisconsin, however, I am a Boulder native, who has left the Boulder bubble, but not enough. I figured if I could figure out arraignments for my obligations that I could experience the world just a little more. The world contains so many magical, all natural gifts and treasures that are begging to be recognized, admired, uncovered, and shared.

Our first day was quite eventful, as we crossed the Colorado border into Nebraska.

We also made a pit stop at Fort Morgan, Colorado. Fort Morgan is a fairly small farm town and it seemed fairly traditional! There is something about those small towns that are charming, because they contain their own local gems that give the town a personality.

Of course, as we were leaving Colorado and entering Nebraska, we could not help but grab a picture at the “Welcome to Colorful Colorado.” This ended up being a little more of an obstacle for us, as I forced Bria to get off at the nearest exit and go in the opposite direction that we were supposed to be driving in JUST TO GET THIS PICTURE.

We did not skip a beat, proceeding to grab pictures at the “Welcome to Nebraska” sign, just because we can.

Staring at endless fields of corn, wheat, grass, etc. has always been fairly soothing for me to look at. Man, these fields sure do make the Earth seem like it could possibly be flat, but only part-time. The landscape is beautiful in its own unique way, and truly depends on perspective. Colorado and Nebraska had a surplus of endless fields, and luckily these fields looked far from dry, but very green and lush! This made me very happy and grateful for the rain that our nation has been receiving.

The sky was what was up!! The clouds were so breathtaking to look at, as they seemed to be just as endless as the fields, as you could see them for miles. The clouds also seemed friendlier than usual, appearing to hang lower and closer to the ground than normal. The sky was captivating to be around

On our second day, we made our way through Nebraska, Iowa, Illinois, and finally made it to Wisconsin.

The entire time we found ourselves chasing a storm, and at some points, the rain was so heavy that we could not see the roads.

I saw lots of wind farms….

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and lots of beauty!

I also found a new appreciation for the sky and the clouds.

My two day road trip excursion was extremely exciting, full of laughs, good memories, and good conversation.

My vacation is only beginning, however. I will be spending some time with Bria and her family in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, as well as Elk Point, Wisconsin. I am looking forward to be spending time with them, and exploring Wisconsin in all of its’ glory.

What Summer trips do you have planned?

Drive safe, but trip road often!!

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

The Cheapest Form Of Therapy

What does therapy mean to you? To me, it means making and creating art.

The cheapest form of therapy is art therapy. Art therapy, includes crafting, coloring, drawing, painting, pottery, etc., and is one of the most beneficial hobbies you can pick up.

Inspiration is everywhere, if you just look hard enough. After looking hard enough, I discovered my vivacious enthusiasm for the art of coloring.

To this day, I own about 12 coloring books and am in the works of finishing a full coloring book. I find that through coloring I am calm, cool and collected; much cooler than a cucumber.

Coloring simply allows me to be mindful, and allows me to zone in on the art at hand, rather than the extra white noise happening all around me.

When I first began coloring, I found it extremely difficult to stay on task, and I also found myself frustrated by how long and intricate some of the coloring books were. Since then, I have noticed my senses heightened, my attention span lengthened, a better attention to details, and an increased awareness of mindfulness. It also has helped me quit some of my bad habits! After about six months of effortless coloring, I am finally proud of where I am at with my own new set of creative skills. Slowly, but surely, I found myself coloring quicker, much more intricately, and much more detailed. It was not an easy feat! In fact, picking up coloring as a hobby was one of the biggest challenges I faced this year. Now, I color every day and make it a goal to finish at least one of the mandalas that I color every day.

There’s also something about shading, choosing a color scheme, and the feeling of accomplishment after choosing something to color, that allows me to release any sort of pent up anxiety, stress, panic, etc.

Similarly, coloring allows individuals to connect back to their childhood, something that I have realized has helped me in many ways. Channeling your childhood, during your adult life, helps keep things light and fun. Coloring has become fun, because I remember how much I enjoyed coloring, and just making art in general, especially as a kid. Your childhood is something that can be taken away from you, or maybe you just got old, however, it’s never too late to uptake your childhood hobbies.

I believe that your childhood plays such an important role in your growth, biochemical makeup, standards, values, etc. This is where you learn how to be a human, how to be good at being a human, societal rules, etc. Most people always complain about how they want their childhood back and want to be younger, but do NOT let age stop you. No matter how old or young, understanding the joys of being a child is something one will never forget. This is because every day is an adventure when you are young. For some reason, incorporating one’s childhood into their day-to-day lives has served a higher purpose and allowed many adults to have a creative outlet, which is something society rarely offers.

Similarly, coloring has been said to have many benefits as an activity, including increased mindfulness, heightened senses, increased attention span, increased attention to detail, overall emotional well-being, increased attention to detail, decreased anxiety, utilization of both the right and the left brain, assists in memory retention, and the ability to channel creative energy. It has also been said to help mood swings.

Not only does coloring have the benefits listed above, but it is also said to heal and assist PTSD patients, ADD patients, ADHD patients, OCD patients, and any average human being. Generally, coloring serves benefits to anyone who partakes in the activity.

Adults should not feel embarrassed to try this new hobby out, as they have come out with coloring books specifically assigned for adults. Lately, you can find coloring books at local grocery stores, gift stores, retail stores, book stores, and even boutiques everywhere. Places, such as Target, Walmart, Walgreens, and Barnes & Noble, sell an assortment of coloring books.

If you are looking for a way to kill time, a new hobby, or just a way to release some creative energy, pick up a coloring book from your local store.

Prices typically range from $4.99 up to $30.99, depending on which retail outlet you decide to purchase your new hobby. The prices on supplies vary, depending on whether or not you are using different mediums, and whether or not you want quality products. Colored pencils, markers, gel pens, and crayons are fun utensils to utilize when coloring. Of course, if you are willing to spend the money, mediums, such as charcoal, acrylic paints, oil pastels, or chalk, may cost a little more than usual. To keep it under a budget, King Soopers, Target, Walmart, etc. have fun, cheap colored pencils that should service those who are in need.

Wondering where to begin? Simply buy yourself a coloring books and some gadgets. If you would rather be with company, try a wine and paint class. Wine and paint class includes people of age coming together and painting, while casually drinking. As if coloring could not be more fun! While these wine and paint classes are not free, it offers a way for adults to connect with other adults and create art. A form of therapy that is underrated and underappreciated.

Art soothes the heart, soul, and mind, as it has helped me slow down my thoughts, and take a break between my busy life.

In this fast-paced society, it is hard to take a minute out of your day to just color for a while, as it is even harder to even catch your breathe. We are all so busy doing whatever society tells us to do. Well, this is society telling you that coloring, and/or art therapy, is the best solution to all your stressors and your problems. It is cheap, easy, and lots of clean fun.

Finally, remember, it truly does NOT matter what your age is, just keep creating and art-ing!

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

White Noise

“Hey! What’s going on out there?” I always seem to be thinking that every time I am home or even outside. There always seems to be SOMETHING happening around us, making it hard to pay attention to the things that actually matter.

What is white noise? You may ask. Well, to me, white noise is anything unnecessary that provides stimulation for individuals. Whether it be drama, or someone spreading malicious rumors, or overhearing someone talking about you behind their back, this is all just a distraction from school, work, or however you are choosing to spend your time.

People can also be white noise, as some individuals may not bring all that much good into your life. Individuals who bring drama, and unnecessary baggage, are included in the category of white noise.

How do you ignore though? I just rub the dirt off of my shoulders and fill my time with meaningful things, which allows me to simultaneously ignore all the meaningless things that will no longer serve a purpose for you in about a week.

Rumors are also what I consider white noise. The game of telephone is a game that people enjoy playing that results in the most epic failure and horrible rumors. The best way to handle horrible rumors, or white noise? Ignore it all and be productive. It almost helps to be so immersed with your life that no one else matters, other than yourself, OF COURSE.

If you are zoned into your own world, you have no time to pay attention to the meaningless bullshark that tends to arise all the time.

These distractions can be seen as challenges, or hard times, or simply confusing. The goals of distractions and white noise is to steer your focus from what really matters to things that will not make a difference in your life in about five years.

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The first step to every issue is to address and acknowledge the problem. As you grow older, there becomes less and less time to acknowledge and internalize the white noise. You soon begin to realize how petty, small, and reckless this white noise is. If you are losing focus of your main focus or goal, this just is a simple reminder that you are paying attention to the irrelevant white noise surrounding you.

Test yourself and become aware of what is going on around you.You need to be aware of what is going on around you, in order to tune out the white noise. It is important that you understand that the outside forces, that you cannot control, should not control how you live your daily life. In fact, these outside forces should just be things you spend less than one millisecond thinking about.

At the end of the day, most of the meaningless “stuff” happening around you does not even concern you, so why care? My best advice is to ignore it and do not care about the people who do not mind their own business. White noise is easily avoidable once you are truly able to comprehend how much belittling is happening, rumors are being spread, bullying is continuing, people talking behind each other’s backs, etc. You should not be listening in the first place, let along caring about issues that do not concern you.

These are the people that we either call haters or bullies, those who succeed and thrive off of bringing you down. Do not let them get to you, EVER! No tear should be wasted over things that cannot be helped. Just let the haters hate, and the potatoes potate.

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Most of the white noise is negative and not productive to be investing your precious time on. Move on and play your musical tunes as loud as ever. In a society focused on white noise, be the 1%, and do not contribute or become the white noise.

 

C’MON DO NOT BE THE WHITE NOISE!

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

“People Need People”

Being alone is amazing sometimes, am I right? Sometimes, an excessive amount of alone time is good for the soul. At times, however, it can be detrimental when you forget about the people who are constantly surrounding you and neglect them.

PEOPLE NEED PEOPLE.

That’s final. People require the support of others, especially the nurturing side of other human beings, in order to find solace and inner peace.

We all pretend to hate people or constantly complain about not having enough friends. Additionally, we also find ourselves repetitively stating the fact that we do not have friends nor do we need them to survive.

Our bodies crave the attention of others and constantly are feeding off of the energies of others around us. In order to maintain a peaceful state of mind, and a healthy one at that, one must have a support system, or a proper group of friends.

We also need negative, toxic people in our lives to constantly remind ourselves that even the negative energies that we are exuding towards each other are necessary in order to live a purposeful life.

All human beings need one another not only to learn lessons, grow, mature, but also to maintain stability. Anything in excess, including being with friends, is detrimental to one’s health.

If you are a social butterfly, like I am, it is incredibly important to find time for yourself. However, I crave the energies of my friends and love being around others, constantly learning and finding the good in all people.

All people survive off of each other, and we need each other more than we think we need. It goes beyond getting test answers from each other, working as coworkers, and technological forms of communication.

The livelihood of human beings are dependent on others, so challenge yourself this month to meet new people, ask how their day is, and exude the utmost kindness to everyone, including strangers.

Ask them what their dreams are, what their passions are, where they are from, etc. It does not matter.People can be both a negative and a positive aspect of your life, however, they are fundamental and a necessity in order to live a life full of happiness, wonder, and love.

Let love in and let love out. People, even the ones who do not vocalize it or think about it, are relying on you more than you know. We all need each other, simple as that.

Whether you choose a crowd that is unfavorable or a favorable crowd, it is up to you. Protect yourself from the inevitable people, such as bullies, toxic humans, those who bring you down, however, show them happiness, love, and kindness.

Those who are unhappy are not the only ones needing extra love and kindness, sometimes human beings can be gifted in hiding their sadness, and lack of love, so naturally, show love and be the love you would like to see in the world. Or, as Mahatma Gandhi says, “Be the change that you wish to see in the world.”

Without others guiding us or misleading us in different directions, life would be boring, meaningless, unstimulated, and impractical.

Do not forget how many people are counting on you EVER. Constantly remind yourself of this every morning, not everyone vocalizes their need for others and their need for love.

Support your own species! Join the movement in building a community filled with love, happiness, and joy.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

The Road Less Traveled

Some days you feel lazy, challenged, a little unmotivated, angry, frustrated, bored, sad, and irate about this crazy world we live in. This is quite alright, actually.

What is your ultimate vice to cover up the guilt, anxiety, and pressures of modern day society? I have countless, and as the saying goes, old habits die hard. I used to cope with the abuse of a variety of illicit narcotics, but now have turned my unexerted, and unlimited energy towards other habits, such as blogging, hiking, coloring, shopping and working full-time.

It is not easy to turn away from your old, toxic habits, as they are cyclical parts of our day-to-day life. The simple act of going to Starbucks every morning and drinking a Venti Caramel Macchiato can be categorized as an old toxic coping mechanism, as none of us really should be drinking 3 shots of espresso in our coffee every day.

The key to success is maintaining composure, and a level-head, when you are stressed. Turning your unexerted stress towards positive habits, such as your health, new found hobbies, staying on top of your school work, and hanging out with positive influences can be a way to take the road less traveled.

You see, none of these old, toxic habits are serving you any good. Though it is alright to slip up a few times, as I have time-and-time again, recognizing, addressing, and acting upon being aware of your old habits is the key to success.

Some days I find myself bored, and unsatisfied with life. I am constantly doing the same thing every day, working full-time, coloring and shopping. I also attend therapy once a week to switch up my routine.

By taking the road less traveled on, and working hard to combat these habits, you will begin to lead a life of happiness and simplicity. All things that every human being craves. The key to understanding why you must take the road less traveled on is thinking about more than “the now.” You must learn to think long-term and think about your long-term goals before deciding to be impulsive and reckless. These small habitual toxic habits that you engage in are a big part of who you are as a person, but learning to persevere through the tough times, especially when you are overwhelmed, is a skill that cannot be taught or mastered. We all make mistakes sometimes.

The road less traveled on is much more difficult and time-consuming than one would hope, which is why it is the route that is traveled on much less. In the long run, however, the outcomes will be enormous, and will be self-fulfilling. The best feeling in the world is learning how much your hard work pays off, even through the thick and the thin. Not every day is easy, and not every day is fun, especially when you’re traveling in the opposite direction than others. Chances are very high that you will feel lost, uncomfortable, vulnerable, unstable, emotional, irate, sad, happy, relieved, etc.

This is all natural. Life is supposed to be challenging, so why not take up the challenge now? It is never too late to change. Today is a new day – another day for you to change.

Validation from others is the reason why others turn their cheek and travel in the most traveled on road. Sometimes we can be prone to take this route, however, take small steps towards change and rewards will come in surplus.

Appreciate the challenge and embrace the challenge. As Nike exclaims, “JUST DO IT!”And, as 2Chainz most famously stated, “I’m different, yeah, I’m different!” Embrace being different and taking a different route than everyone, because no one is the same and the route that they may decide to take is probably drastically different from yours.

Change your perspective ad shoot for the stars, loves. Aim high, work hard, and keep your expectations low. Do not rush the process, as it is a lifelong process. Adapt to your current situation, whatever it may take, and begin there. Make a list of things you wish to change about yourself, and then most importantly, make changes and take action! Actions always speak louder than words.

Lastly, do not do this for anyone other than yourself. After a while, doing the same shit for years becomes a bore. This is simply just a sign that you are growing and maturing. Figuring out what you like and do not like, standing up for yourself, and loving yourself are all things that become incredibly uncomfortable, as you will find yourself spending more and more time alone. Uncomfortable is good – it simply means you found some inspiration to grow, mature, and take action against your old habits.

Do not be so hard on yourself, but take up this challenge, and do things you do not normally do. Make yourself uncomfortable, in order to face the uncomfortability. Remember those who mind, do not matter.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

Ballin’ On A Budget

As you soon begin to realize that money does not simply grow on trees, you will also realize that you have less money to spend on things you enjoy. For me, my joy is coloring books, candles, clothes, shoes, food and accessories.

All these things can be found at just about any retail chain, however, it all depends on whether the price is right.

I have to ball out on a budget, sort of speak, as I am in college and have obligatory payments that I must make.

I try to make purchases that are:

  1. Reasonably Priced – Who knows how much money you have on you, or whether you are just trying to spend your last paycheck. Make sure that the price is right on what you are buying. Take into consideration the pros and cons of making your purchase. Try shopping at places, such as Amazon, Safeway, King Soopers, Walmart, Walgreens, H&M, Urban Outfitters, Ragstock, PacSun, Forever 21, Crossroads Trading Company, Buffalo Exchange, and/or any “buy, sell, and trade” store. If you are feeling conflicted on whether or not to purchase the item, see how much you truly want it and come back later. Chances are you can find better deals online or in-store, if you look hard enough.
  2. Quality Over Quantity – Check to see the condition of the quality of the product. In this case, less is more. This may not be the case for food, however, the quality of your food, aka what you put into your body, is important. In regards to clothing, accessories, and shoes, quality is of utmost importance. You would rather have an item that is made well and will last a lifetime, over clothes that will fall apart on you quickly. Investments in essentials, such as jeans, pants, and basics, are things that directy correlate with the idea behind quality over quantity. Art supplies are best bought in quality if you are pursuing an art career or are truly passionate about the activity.
  3. Skip The Brand Names – In regards to everything I purchase, brand name does not matter to me, just as long as the quality is there. Food does not apply to this rule as buying brand name items from, Kroger, Safeway, and Walgreens make the purchase much cheaper. In terms of clothing, shoes, and accessories, it is the complete opposite. Brand name products, such as, Free People, Steve Madden, Gucci, Fendi, Yves Saint Laurent, Repossi, and Louis Vitton, to name a few, are not essential to your wardrobe. I find that consignment stores and “buy, sell, and trade” stores, such as Crossroads Trading Company, Buffalo Exchange and Plato’s Closet sell brand name items for much cheaper, at an affordable price to the public.
  4. Head Straight To The Sale Section – Ignore the full-priced items and aim to buy things from the sale section. If you look hard enough in the messy sale section of retail stores, such as PacSun, Urban Outfitters, H&M, Ragstock, Crossroads Trading Company, and even Free People you are always bound to find something that is below retail price and a good deal. Scanning the entirety of the sale section helps your wallet and your bank account. Waiting until things go onto sale is something that I do. Keep eyeing what you want, and hopefully, fingers crossed, the item will be set aside on the sale racks for you to buy discounted.
  5. Mall Employee Deals – Take advantage of any deals and discounts you may receive if you work at a mall or a shopping district. Always mention that you work around the area in case you are able to get a discount on regular priced items. Some malls offer amazing discounts, such as 10%-20% discounts on their merchandise. Always ask and mention that to any employee that you encounter in your shopping district.
  6. Patience – Being patient and looking carefully, all while comparing prices is vital. As mentioned above, weigh out the pros and the cons, and see whether or not this is an impulse buy or not. If the item you wish to buy is still there next time you return, then perhaps it’s fate that you should buy the item.
  7. Only Buy Full-Priced Items If You CANNOT STOP THINKING ABOUT IT OR ABSOLUTELY NEED IT – I apply this rule to most of my attire. I refuse to buy anything full price unless I cannot stop thinking about it or actually need the item. Most times, items will always be in stock, unless you wait a few months, especially in regards to retail. In regards to food, do the same. Try to find deals on food items that have a special deal, such as 2 for $7 on an item. Places like King Soopers, Walgreens, Walmart, Safeway, Trader Joes, etc. offer deals on regular priced items. Keep your eyes pealed. Additionally, if you feel as though you will absolutely eat the food, buy it. Make sure to be careful about buying items that you will not eat or use in the future.
  8. Keep Your Eyes Pealed For Additional Discounts & Random Sales – Many retail stores and grocery stores change up their sale and discounted food. Subscribing to online emails allows you to stay updated on current deals that are only for a limited time. Be sure to be aware of them! Shop carefully and smart.
  9. Decide How Much You Want To Spend Ahead Of Time – If you decide a number in your head of how much money you wish to spend a day, you will not only be budgeting, but saving money on the useless crap that fills up our closets, refrigerators, and houses. Shopping is not a sin, however, it is easy for one to get caught up on spending money. Just before you even realize it, all your money is gone. Pulling out a certain amount of cash assists me in budgeting, allowing me only to spend a certain amount of cash.
  10. Sign Up For Their Rewards Program – Sign up for reward programs with as many stores as possible, as you will gain points, while simultaneously spending less money, through the designated program. Most times after a certain amount of money spent at any place, you will receive rewards, discounts, or even gift cards, or free items. Not only are you helping yourself, but you feel less guilty spending money at the location.
  11. Make A List Of Things You Need – This helps, in the case of food, clothing, art supplies, etc. Deciding what you need or truly want is important, so you will not get sidetracked while you are there. All the distractions, especially at the cash register counter, are all items placed strategically so that the customer will spend more money. Go in knowing what you want and need, and always do not hesitate to ask for assistance. A list will allow you to also budget and will give you a general idea of how much money you will be spending. Though this is a little bit harder when it comes to clothing, shoes and accessory shopping, having a general idea of what you are willing to spend and what you are looking for is always key.
  12. Check Out More Than One Store – Look around and be patient with your shopping. Do not just limit yourself to one, single store. Shop around, find deals, compare prices, and find a store that will give you the biggest bang for your buck. I shop around at many retail outlets, being especially selective about prices and the quality of the product. The quality of the product and prices often differ from store-to-store, try to find a reasonably priced retail outlet to get the best deals. Similarly, when it comes to shopping for food, art supplies, interior decoration, school supplies, check out more than one store. All stores are competing with each other to achieve the lowest price for your best dollar. The choices are endless and chances are you will find a place that will satisfy your budget and your needs.
  13. Shop Online – Online stores usually have sales ongoing that most stores do not have. Similarly, the online shops may have more merchandise than that displayed in the stores. Additionally their sale sections are naturally much more organized, with a wider selection. Online sale sections for stores listed above are much more extensive, including more of a variety of the merchandise, than that in store.This list provides a set of rules that you can follow, especially when you are ballin’ on a budget. Save money for all the things you enjoy in life, while also budgeting, and deciphering the pros and cons of the purchase. Shopping smart and hard are always key! Keep your eyes on the prize and realize that deals are out there, as long as you look hard enough.


    xo,Aichan Tewahade

Growing Pains

Oh, the pains of growing up. What does growing up even mean?

Since turning 21, I have realized that the concept of growing up is absolutely absurd, and extremely difficult, especially in your early 20s. The early years of your 20s are some of the most uncomfortable, yet fufilling years of your life, as you try to navigate through all the bullshark that life ends up throwing your way. Even your parents slowly become distant figures in your life, as they push you to try to make you the most independent version of yourself. You may even find yourself having multiple panic attacks about experiencing quarter-life crisis’s, and will definitely find yourself facing more challenges.

Your early 20s are spent figuring out and discovering that the world is not so black-and-white, and things are never always in your control. Not having control over every aspect of your life is something that you need to realize quick, as you may grow apart from friends, experience anxiety about your future, etc.

Spending time by yourself, just trying to figure yourself out is one of the best ways I have dealt with my uncomfortably, awkward anxiety attacks. Honestly, I did not even have my life mapped out for my 20s, as they always seemed so far away.

With that said,

  1. Speak your mind and utilize your voice.

    The best life advice I have received of coming of age is that you should always speak your mind, and speak it well, and intelligently. Lauren Conrad wrote a similar article on her blog stating 10 things she wished she would have known in her early 20s, and speaking your mind is one of the most efficient ways to maintain healthy friendships, standing up to bullies, etc. Your voice should be used to be heard. Do not let anyone or anything silence you, asking for what you need and want is far from a crime. The worst thing that could come out of asking for something and speaking your mind, is the answer “no,” or a negative comment.

  2.  Spend as much time alone as possible.

    This seems counterproductive and a little depressing, however, the positive benefits of hanging out with oneself plays such a huge role in the process of growing up.

    Finding what you like and what you do not like are some things that come out of hanging out with yourself. Finding independence in a society that places the utmost importance on co-dependence is almost a freeing experience. You are no longer held back by the fear of doing stuff alone, rather you crave doing things alone and find solace in your daily activities.

    Induce your creativity and find new hobbies to partake in. No matter how old you are or how awkward it may seem dating yourself is one of the best ways to make the growing pains a little less painful.

  3. Place importance on your education and obligations.

    Whether you’re in school or not in school, and simply just working, it is important that you make these things a priority in your life, as they play a huge role in your life outside of school. Attend work and school obligations on time and realize how much working hard at aspects of your life will result in ultimate happiness.

You may not be happy, in the moment while you are working hard, however, in the long-run many opportunities may present themselves.
Whether it is setting yourself apart by cleaning the bathrooms at work, picking up coffee for the administrative assistant that you work for, seize every opportunity to set yourself apart from others. Being self-motivated is one of the best attributes to attain, when you are going through the process of growing up.

   4.                             Grasp every opportunity for success that you may come across.

This is incredibly important, as life does not offer too many free lemons for you to make unlimited amounts of lemonade. After a while, the opportunities stop presenting themselves, if you keep denying them. Whether you are grasping an opportunity to make a new friend or grasping a job promotion, work hard for it, try to say “yes,” as often as possible. You do not want to be left with the question “what if?” that will constantly haunt your mind.

5.                          Forget the drama, and do not even leave it for your mama.

Literally, you may fight every one of your so called “good friends,” while you are facing life’s biggest challenge of growing up. Yes, your group of friends will downsize considerably, as you begin to realize that most of the friends you made over the last few years, have become distant enemies or acquaintances. This is quite normal and perfectly alright. However, when it comes to drama, leave it alone and let it be. Do not pay any mind to it, because in a few years, your name will be nothing but an old ghost town. Drama is pointless and a distraction from what really matters. Try to avoid it as much as possible. Leave rumors alone, and do not entertain them.

              6.                              Start a bucket list

Make a bucket list full of your biggest fears, dreams, ect, and most importantly, start checking off the activities you have completed. Bucket lists can almost serve as goals you want to achieve, or just can include fun activities that you can participate in when you have the time. Things like, cliff jumping, graduating college, bungee jumping, starting a blog, traveling to Iceland and finishing a whole entire coloring book are things that are on my bucket list.

           7.                               Find new hobbies or join a club

Forget the partying, after you hit your early 20s, no one even cares to go out every night of the weekend, due to circumstantial obligations. New hobbies, other than partying, can serve as healthy activities that you can utilize when you are feeling super bored. This is not to say that you should not go out at all, but to find a balance between having fun and hobbies. Partying should NOT be your only hobby, as this will not get you very far.

Journaling, coloring, hiking, blogging and shopping are some of my favorite past times, as I try to engage in healthy hobbies every day. Find something you like, and stick with it. If it makes you happy, who cares what you are doing.

Joining a club can also serve as a positive outlet to meet new people and form new friendships. Volunteering is also a fun way to assist your local community, all while spending time doing something positive.

NOTE TO ALL: YOUR EARLY 20s ARE SOME OF THE MOST UNCOMFORTABLE YEARS OF YOUR LIFE. EVERYONE IS GOING THROUGH SIMILAR EXPERIENCES DISCOVERING WHO THEY ARE, WHAT THEY WANT TO DO WITH THEIR LIVES, ETC. We all deal with the uncomfortable growing pains of life. Learn to embrace them and find ways to combat your uncomfortability. This is a crucial time in any individuals life, as we are all learning how to come of age, how to be mature, and how to be independent. Do not let life discourage you. WE ARE ALL GOING THROUGH QUARTER-LIFE CRISES, it’s up to you how you choose to handle it.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade