Daily Dose Of Inspo

“I am about to walk into a new season of my life filled with

abundance.
financial security.
new career. + benefits + salary increase
joy.
love.
peace.
confidence.
purpose.
spiritual growth.
change.
new opportunities.
traveling.
knowledge.
reciprocity.
creativity.
passion.

Claiming it as if it’s already mine.”

The Road Less Traveled

Some days you feel lazy, challenged, a little unmotivated, angry, frustrated, bored, sad, and irate about this crazy world we live in. This is quite alright, actually.

What is your ultimate vice to cover up the guilt, anxiety, and pressures of modern day society? I have countless, and as the saying goes, old habits die hard. I used to cope with the abuse of a variety of illicit narcotics, but now have turned my unexerted, and unlimited energy towards other habits, such as blogging, hiking, coloring, shopping and working full-time.

It is not easy to turn away from your old, toxic habits, as they are cyclical parts of our day-to-day life. The simple act of going to Starbucks every morning and drinking a Venti Caramel Macchiato can be categorized as an old toxic coping mechanism, as none of us really should be drinking 3 shots of espresso in our coffee every day.

The key to success is maintaining composure, and a level-head, when you are stressed. Turning your unexerted stress towards positive habits, such as your health, new found hobbies, staying on top of your school work, and hanging out with positive influences can be a way to take the road less traveled.

You see, none of these old, toxic habits are serving you any good. Though it is alright to slip up a few times, as I have time-and-time again, recognizing, addressing, and acting upon being aware of your old habits is the key to success.

Some days I find myself bored, and unsatisfied with life. I am constantly doing the same thing every day, working full-time, coloring and shopping. I also attend therapy once a week to switch up my routine.

By taking the road less traveled on, and working hard to combat these habits, you will begin to lead a life of happiness and simplicity. All things that every human being craves. The key to understanding why you must take the road less traveled on is thinking about more than “the now.” You must learn to think long-term and think about your long-term goals before deciding to be impulsive and reckless. These small habitual toxic habits that you engage in are a big part of who you are as a person, but learning to persevere through the tough times, especially when you are overwhelmed, is a skill that cannot be taught or mastered. We all make mistakes sometimes.

The road less traveled on is much more difficult and time-consuming than one would hope, which is why it is the route that is traveled on much less. In the long run, however, the outcomes will be enormous, and will be self-fulfilling. The best feeling in the world is learning how much your hard work pays off, even through the thick and the thin. Not every day is easy, and not every day is fun, especially when you’re traveling in the opposite direction than others. Chances are very high that you will feel lost, uncomfortable, vulnerable, unstable, emotional, irate, sad, happy, relieved, etc.

This is all natural. Life is supposed to be challenging, so why not take up the challenge now? It is never too late to change. Today is a new day – another day for you to change.

Validation from others is the reason why others turn their cheek and travel in the most traveled on road. Sometimes we can be prone to take this route, however, take small steps towards change and rewards will come in surplus.

Appreciate the challenge and embrace the challenge. As Nike exclaims, “JUST DO IT!”And, as 2Chainz most famously stated, “I’m different, yeah, I’m different!” Embrace being different and taking a different route than everyone, because no one is the same and the route that they may decide to take is probably drastically different from yours.

Change your perspective ad shoot for the stars, loves. Aim high, work hard, and keep your expectations low. Do not rush the process, as it is a lifelong process. Adapt to your current situation, whatever it may take, and begin there. Make a list of things you wish to change about yourself, and then most importantly, make changes and take action! Actions always speak louder than words.

Lastly, do not do this for anyone other than yourself. After a while, doing the same shit for years becomes a bore. This is simply just a sign that you are growing and maturing. Figuring out what you like and do not like, standing up for yourself, and loving yourself are all things that become incredibly uncomfortable, as you will find yourself spending more and more time alone. Uncomfortable is good – it simply means you found some inspiration to grow, mature, and take action against your old habits.

Do not be so hard on yourself, but take up this challenge, and do things you do not normally do. Make yourself uncomfortable, in order to face the uncomfortability. Remember those who mind, do not matter.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

Growing Pains

Oh, the pains of growing up. What does growing up even mean?

Since turning 21, I have realized that the concept of growing up is absolutely absurd, and extremely difficult, especially in your early 20s. The early years of your 20s are some of the most uncomfortable, yet fufilling years of your life, as you try to navigate through all the bullshark that life ends up throwing your way. Even your parents slowly become distant figures in your life, as they push you to try to make you the most independent version of yourself. You may even find yourself having multiple panic attacks about experiencing quarter-life crisis’s, and will definitely find yourself facing more challenges.

Your early 20s are spent figuring out and discovering that the world is not so black-and-white, and things are never always in your control. Not having control over every aspect of your life is something that you need to realize quick, as you may grow apart from friends, experience anxiety about your future, etc.

Spending time by yourself, just trying to figure yourself out is one of the best ways I have dealt with my uncomfortably, awkward anxiety attacks. Honestly, I did not even have my life mapped out for my 20s, as they always seemed so far away.

With that said,

  1. Speak your mind and utilize your voice.

    The best life advice I have received of coming of age is that you should always speak your mind, and speak it well, and intelligently. Lauren Conrad wrote a similar article on her blog stating 10 things she wished she would have known in her early 20s, and speaking your mind is one of the most efficient ways to maintain healthy friendships, standing up to bullies, etc. Your voice should be used to be heard. Do not let anyone or anything silence you, asking for what you need and want is far from a crime. The worst thing that could come out of asking for something and speaking your mind, is the answer “no,” or a negative comment.

  2.  Spend as much time alone as possible.

    This seems counterproductive and a little depressing, however, the positive benefits of hanging out with oneself plays such a huge role in the process of growing up.

    Finding what you like and what you do not like are some things that come out of hanging out with yourself. Finding independence in a society that places the utmost importance on co-dependence is almost a freeing experience. You are no longer held back by the fear of doing stuff alone, rather you crave doing things alone and find solace in your daily activities.

    Induce your creativity and find new hobbies to partake in. No matter how old you are or how awkward it may seem dating yourself is one of the best ways to make the growing pains a little less painful.

  3. Place importance on your education and obligations.

    Whether you’re in school or not in school, and simply just working, it is important that you make these things a priority in your life, as they play a huge role in your life outside of school. Attend work and school obligations on time and realize how much working hard at aspects of your life will result in ultimate happiness.

You may not be happy, in the moment while you are working hard, however, in the long-run many opportunities may present themselves.
Whether it is setting yourself apart by cleaning the bathrooms at work, picking up coffee for the administrative assistant that you work for, seize every opportunity to set yourself apart from others. Being self-motivated is one of the best attributes to attain, when you are going through the process of growing up.

   4.                             Grasp every opportunity for success that you may come across.

This is incredibly important, as life does not offer too many free lemons for you to make unlimited amounts of lemonade. After a while, the opportunities stop presenting themselves, if you keep denying them. Whether you are grasping an opportunity to make a new friend or grasping a job promotion, work hard for it, try to say “yes,” as often as possible. You do not want to be left with the question “what if?” that will constantly haunt your mind.

5.                          Forget the drama, and do not even leave it for your mama.

Literally, you may fight every one of your so called “good friends,” while you are facing life’s biggest challenge of growing up. Yes, your group of friends will downsize considerably, as you begin to realize that most of the friends you made over the last few years, have become distant enemies or acquaintances. This is quite normal and perfectly alright. However, when it comes to drama, leave it alone and let it be. Do not pay any mind to it, because in a few years, your name will be nothing but an old ghost town. Drama is pointless and a distraction from what really matters. Try to avoid it as much as possible. Leave rumors alone, and do not entertain them.

              6.                              Start a bucket list

Make a bucket list full of your biggest fears, dreams, ect, and most importantly, start checking off the activities you have completed. Bucket lists can almost serve as goals you want to achieve, or just can include fun activities that you can participate in when you have the time. Things like, cliff jumping, graduating college, bungee jumping, starting a blog, traveling to Iceland and finishing a whole entire coloring book are things that are on my bucket list.

           7.                               Find new hobbies or join a club

Forget the partying, after you hit your early 20s, no one even cares to go out every night of the weekend, due to circumstantial obligations. New hobbies, other than partying, can serve as healthy activities that you can utilize when you are feeling super bored. This is not to say that you should not go out at all, but to find a balance between having fun and hobbies. Partying should NOT be your only hobby, as this will not get you very far.

Journaling, coloring, hiking, blogging and shopping are some of my favorite past times, as I try to engage in healthy hobbies every day. Find something you like, and stick with it. If it makes you happy, who cares what you are doing.

Joining a club can also serve as a positive outlet to meet new people and form new friendships. Volunteering is also a fun way to assist your local community, all while spending time doing something positive.

NOTE TO ALL: YOUR EARLY 20s ARE SOME OF THE MOST UNCOMFORTABLE YEARS OF YOUR LIFE. EVERYONE IS GOING THROUGH SIMILAR EXPERIENCES DISCOVERING WHO THEY ARE, WHAT THEY WANT TO DO WITH THEIR LIVES, ETC. We all deal with the uncomfortable growing pains of life. Learn to embrace them and find ways to combat your uncomfortability. This is a crucial time in any individuals life, as we are all learning how to come of age, how to be mature, and how to be independent. Do not let life discourage you. WE ARE ALL GOING THROUGH QUARTER-LIFE CRISES, it’s up to you how you choose to handle it.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade