Life Hack #4 – Remember to R&R

What does R&R stand for? Let me answer that question for you. It stands for rest and revive.

Our bodies, which are constantly in motion and working to keep our precious bodies healthy and happy, need time to rest and revive. This is why getting the proper amount of sleep and rest is particularly important. We, as individuals, are programmed to fatigue sometimes, when we are overworked, not getting enough sleep, or not getting sleep at all.

Though we all say that we can sleep when we are dead, this is something that could especially become detrimental towards our health. Studies have shown that without the proper amount of rest, not only are we unable to revive, but we find ourselves gaining weight, losing weight, getting groggy, and getting grumpy. It even from time to time affects our ability to memorize and remember things.

Resting plays a large role in our body, and in order to be that happy and healthy versions of ourselves, we need to be resting every night.

Some days sleeping just does not cut it, in fact, some days I find myself exhausted even after a good night’s sleep. This is our body telling us that we either are stressed, overwhelmed, and perhaps not treating our bodies correctly.

Taking time off, or away from our rigorous schedules, is something that we unfortunately cannot do very frequently, as most of us are in school, or at work all day. It’s truly hard to find time sometimes to rest and revive.

Every day, I try to take about 30 minutes in the morning to revive my system after a night’s rest. I usually simply lay down and look at the not-so-empty walls of my studio apartment, thinking about how lucky I am that I have found time to relax.

Taking a small portion of your day, morning, or afternoon, or evening, to simply just unwind and seperate yourself from your daily stressors plays a huge role in feeling more rejuvenated, happy, and healthy.

We all need to rejuvenate sometimes, and you truly should not be so hard on yourself, if you just can’t seem to move out of your bed. In this fast-paced society, catching a break is truly hard, and sometimes, it leads me to believe that we should all have a vacation period at least once every few months.

Though taking breaks is frowned upon by society, it is one of the most vital ways to stay sane and happy. The idea that we, as individuals, have to constantly be in motion and working, or doing something, is absolutely absurd. I understand the need to want to make the best out of our lives, however, taking time off to relax and revive will leave you in a much better headspace.

Recently, I took a break from school, friends, and even from my full-time job. And, man does time go by fast when you are resting and reviving. Similarly, I also took time to be away from my phone, another stressor that does not allow us to rest and revive ( I actually just broke my phone yet again). I currently am taking a break from all these stressors and simply focusing on reviving myself to get ready for another year of grueling activities.

There’s always time to rest and revive. And, if you’re struggling to find some time to rest and revive, then I would suggest reconsidering your work-load, your personal life, and other aspects of your life that do not seem to be allowing you this freedom.

Take a breath every once in a while, and just breathe. Even if it is only for ten minutes, making time for R&R is underrated, and unacknowledged.

How you spend your time resting and reviving is all up to you, as everyone has different ways they spend time unwinding. I try to utilize my free time journaling, blogging, coloring, hiking, practicing photography and/or napping.

How do you R&R?

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

 

Festies W/ My Besties

Music festival season is upon us, with Weekend 1 of Coachella to kickstart the festival season off just right.

This year’s appropriate festival wear includes:

  1. Two-Piece Matching Set Ensembles: Usually the matching set includes both a top and a bottom matching set, usually incorporating a crop-top and a dress, or a skirt. Ways to wear two-piece matching set ensembles include printed two-piece  sets, velvet two-piece sets, bright vibrant color two-piece sets, and basic two-piece sets, to list off a few ways to sport this relevant trend.
    Two-pieces are also usually light and airy, allowing you to be able to move, be comfortable, and dance your booty off. This trend is meant to bring elegance and comfort into one trend.
  2. Body Jewelry and Chains – Body chains have taken over the festival seen. You can wear them with just about anything from two-piece matching sets to crop tops, and high waisted shorts. They are a great way to accent your outfit and add an effortless, bohemian chic look to your outfit. You can see them sported at festivals everywhere, year-round.
  3. Sheer – Whether it’s sheer lace or a black sheer top, sheer is in. Sporting sheer tops with elegant or fun bandeaus or bralettes is the move this season. Light layering is a big key to festival attire, as the temperature of your own body and your environment may constantly change around you. It is light and airy, another big theme of this upcoming festival wear.
  4. Overalls – Denim, not denim, black, white, skirt, shorts, whatever! Overalls are in and are one of the biggest ways to make a statement, be fun, and be comfortable. This is much more of a minimalist, casual look, but with all the variety of overalls, there is certainly no shortage of ways to make this look more updated. Adding a belt, sporting it with a cute bralette or crop top is a great way to finish this look off.
  5. Bodysuits – There is an endless supply of bodysuits wherever you shop nowadays.
    Whether you want them low-cut, deep-v, high-neck, etc. there’s most certainly a market for this very comfortable, cute trend. Bodysuits are basically the basics of festival attire, as they can be paired with virtually anything, including flowy pants, high-waisted bottoms, skirts, overalls, etc. They come in all varieties, just like plain white t-shirts do. They are timeless, easy to sport, and a definitive “yes” for this season.
  6. Sequins and glitter – These two are always in for festival season. Glitter and sequins allow you to interact with your inner child and channel some fun into your look. Face glitter, glitter roots, face jewelry…these trends are all in this festival season, as they’ve been around for forever. Sequins and glitter are a fun to dress up, or spruce your entire outfit up and can be a complete game changer. Play with glitter and sequins, and of all different colors to achieve a festive look this season.
  7. Fun buns – This season is centered around fun, practical trends that can be worn functionally at a festival, or a concert. Fun buns are always in, in my book. This season they are especially in. You can wear them in a half-up or wear full on two buns, for double the fun. This playful, flirty trend is a great way to make your whole outfit a little more unique, and the best part? Your hair stays out of your face!
  8. Braids – Incorporating french braids or simple braids to your outfit to finish off a look exudes a sporty look, which is in this season. Look out for braided hair, cornrows, fishtails, and french braids this season, as they are making appearances everywhere. Braids are functional, and similar to fun buns, keep your hair out of your face. For a more chic, effortless, sporty look, gravitate towards braids to complete your look.

Naked & Afraid

“How does one be vulnerable?” I constantly ask myself this question every day.

According to Dictionary.com, vulnerable means to be “susceptible to physical or emotional attack of harm. It could also mean a person “in need of special care, support, or protection because of a abuse or neglect” (Dictionary.com).

Based simply off of the definitions associated with the word, one could take away that being vulnerable means being weak, helpless, and an emotional burden.

This is not the case, however.

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Being vulnerable allows those around you to truly understand you, get to know you better, and most importantly, allows more love into your life. Similarly, the more vulnerable you are with yourself and with others, the more you get to know and understand yourself.

The saying “wear your heart on your sleeve” can be directly associated with vulnerability, as those who wear their heart on their sleeve do not put up the emotional walls. These emotional walls and barriers do not allow you to be vulnerable or experience vulnerability.

Expressing yourself vulnerably allows truth and honesty to enter into your life. Truth and honesty is what our soul craves. To live a good, truthful, meaningful life, one must allow their vulnerable side to show.

It truly does not matter how many people you express your vulnerability to, as this does not dictate anything. Similarly, your intentions behind sharing your vulnerable side should always be taken accounted for. Some people only show their vulnerable side, when they need something or are in the works of manipulating someone emotionally. Sharing a part of yourself may make you susceptible to harm or attack, as people may use the information you disclosed privately as ammunition against you. Do not let that discourage you from showing what is beneath your skin.

How you choose to show it is up to yourself, but being vulnerable allows you to connect with people on a much deeper level. Levels of compassion and empathy will also increase with a more vulnerable take on life.

It is not all comfortable, however, as you may let pests into your vulnerable heart and end up getting hurt for being so honest and raw. In fact, being vulnerable at times can make you feel naked and afraid, but embracing the idea that humans as a whole need to let down their guards to find meaningfulness in their life.

When you are in touch with your vulnerable side, you feel inclined to share parts of the ugly, the raw, the happy, and the sad sides of your own life. Being vulnerable allows you to share with others things that allows others to understand why you are the person that you are today, and how you became this way. In fact, vulnerability is the only bridge to build connection with yourself and others.

There are intelligent ways of being vulnerable, as we are most vulnerable during times that we feel low, lost, and afraid. Especially when something monumental happens that changes the very circumstances of your life situation, or something or someone is taken from you, people often find themselves feeling vulnerable. Intelligent ways of being vulnerable include, disclosing information to others, crying, seeking and asking for assistance, filling your day with productive things, etc.

Actions, such as crying, yelling, screaming, or anything malicious and malignant, can be as a result of one who is going through a vulnerable time. They may feel stripped of everything, including their pride, joy, and feel as though they have nothing left.

Even when nothing bad has happened, individuals can still exude vulnerability. Vulnerability is not only shown when things are going south. Sometimes when things are going too well, we also feel vulnerable and uncomfortable.

Dr. Brené Brown says, “vulnerability is the core of shame, and fear, and our struggle for worthiness. But, it appears it’s also the birthplace of joy, of creativity, of belonging, and of love.” Of course, there are always upsides and downsides of being vulnerable, as it can be extremely uncomfortable.

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It is very important for your own emotional well-being to become connected with the side of you that is not weak, but courageous. Being vulnerable shows that an individual is not only courageous, but it shows that one is aware of their current reality.

Small things, such as changing schools, graduating school, starting a new job, having a new school schedule with different classmates, moving to a new town, can force the vulnerable out of you, as these situations are morbidly uncomfortable. Things more extreme, such as death, abuse, etc. will also force the vulnerability out of you.

Allowing your vulnerable side to show may seem more frightening than the actual act of being in denial. In order to make connections, and raw, and real friendships, vulnerability is vital. At some point, after spending so many hours with a person, you show sides of yourself naturally being vulnerable, without even taking it into account.

Most often, we are completely unaware when we are being vulnerable, unless we are bawling uncontrollably. Unknowingly showing sides of yourself to others allows for an intermediate connection, as a person may disclose more vulnerable information as a result of you sharing vulnerable information. This is always a good feeling! In order to feel comfortable, both parties will feel the need to disclose more and more about their life once a sense of trust is built.

Living life vulnerably allows for more hurt, but tear down your emotional barriers and let yourself feel life, just as it is supposed to be felt. Do not be embarrassed, as there truly is nothing to be embarrassed about. Secrets do not make friends, and friends make secrets. It is very healthy to express vulnerability to those around you, as you will often feel a weight lifted off your shoulders.

Audre Lorde says, “…and that visibility that makes us most vulnerable is that which also is the source of our greatest strength.” You are no longer considered weak for being vulnerable, showing pain, etc., in fact, being vulnerable is the most empowering thing you can do for yourself.

Empower the courageous!

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

Growing Pains: Liberate Me

Be the most genuine form of yourself. It’s liberating!

As difficult as it may be sometimes, as we are constantly changing and growing, being the person you are and feel at this very moment is something one must learn to do as we grow into different stages in our lives.

How you genuinely spend your days alone is no one’s business and does not dictate the person you are.

Being genuine means honesty, which is the ultimate form of kindness and genuinity. You will be surprised how much love will be in your life when you begin embracing every bone in your body, and begin being honest with the most important person in your life, yourself.

This genuine person is the real person behind all of your Instagram posts, and perceived outward images.

Who are you when you are all alone?

Who are you today? Who are you tomorrow? Will you be the same person? Will you be happy with yourself?

The amount of love and happiness that will come out of being genuine is incredible. Plus, feeling like you have no shame or anything to hide or lie about is a liberating aspect of unleashing your true self. Unlimited amounts of happiness and love is not hard to attain, if you are living for your own self, free of labels, or societal expectations. This should also bring a sense of stability within your life, as you will not be constantly changing who you are for others. And, any source of stability is a blessing in this world.

Finding yourself at any age and embracing the person you are at this current moment is a hard feat for anyone, including myself.

But what I have learned is that, if you stop basing your image of yourself based on what others are doing or what they think, and do what you truly want to be doing, you can find a genuine sense of self. This applies to any aspect of your life.

Living a life based on what you want others to think of you is toxic. Constantly spend more time embracing yourself and celebrating yourself.

Days may be long and challenging as you try to find out what you truly want in this world, but finding peace within yourself is one way to combat the chaos of our society.

I stand by the idea that anything you do with your friends, you should feel comfortable doing by yourself. Finding that genuine side of yourself will allow you to embrace the idea of independence, find a drive to live your life as you would like to, and allow you to comfortably spend time alone, rather than always in a group setting.

Completely isolating yourself is not the goal of finding yourself. You need to be able to find a balance between being with friends and company, and making time to spend time doing what you love.

You should love every aspect of your life, just as you should love every aspect of yourself.

Embrace your soul and be a soulful, passionate person that you were put on this world to be.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade