The first thing that comes to my mind these days is the idea of self-care. Self-care needs to be a priority in every sense of the word, as it always should be a priority. My definition of self-care is quite thorough, but I often find myself neglecting certain aspects of self-care that are not only important to my health, but necessary to maintain inner peace and happiness. Self-care also means allotting yourself time to relax and just do nothing – this is something that I often forget.
Self-care goes as far as making time to relax, practicing hygiene care, eating healthy diet, quitting smoking tobacco, smiling more, staying in touch with yourself and your emotions, taking even more time smile, learning to be alone, doing more thing that you love, staying in touch with close friends, drinking more water than I usually do, exercising regularly, staying away from toxic situations, prioritizing yourself, appreciating myself, and learning to find balance within your my life – honestly, the list goes on.
Life has so much to offer and you can make it really great all the time, if you truly want to. I want to take advantage of every minute, and be productive and do meaningful things all the time.
I am a passionate person and perfectionist that sometimes it inhibits my own views about myself, as well as my productivity. I beat myself every day for not doing EVERYTHING I would want to accomplish, due to an overwhelming amount of passion and general excitement for my surges of creative energy and ideas. My passion sometimes serves as my biggest setback, as sometimes I often push myself too much and beyond my boundaries too an extreme where I am negatively affecting my mental, physical and emotional health. Sometimes my creative energy is off the charts and I am so excited that I get shook beyond belief. Then, I get debilitated by all these creative ideas or dreams that I want to follow through with so bad. Often, I fail to go out of my way to follow through with these goals to the very end, whether it is because I believe that the project will take too much time, or whether it is because it involves more focus, drive, time, and skills than I conceptualized, or whether it is because I believe I may not be capable of doing it. Sometimes, my self-motivation, drive and passion to complete a project or any obligation by myself ends up hurting me.
I need to learn to not let it completely consume my life to an extent, in which I become completely debilitated by my overwhelming amounts passion. I end up not being able to focus clearly, as my creativity runs wild, I have all these projects I want to complete, I lack patience, I seek perfection, as a result of my need for perfectionism, I procrastinate completely the project. Sometimes, I get so consumed by the idea of not being the best. not obsessing over ways I could be better, always knowing that you can produce better work, etc. While fear of not being perfect is a big issue and has lead me to do impulsive, irrational things, I never wanted to admit that it was because I want to invest my entire self into every project, piece of homework, every challenge, every hobby, etc. I truly struggle with this when it comes to things, such as school, grades, being very self-critical, trying to be the best person every day, a fear of not being successful, doubting myself, among other things that truly hold me back.
I have begun taking action on this area of myself I could improve on. I have decided the fear of rejection, the fear of not being the best possible version of myself and the the fear of not presenting myself perfectly to others not hold me back from taking risks. Putting myself out there has brought me some amazing opportunities I would never thought would come my way, however, I still deal with the anxiety, pressures, and insecurities within myself to present myself in the most genuine and “perfect” way. While it has been scary, I decided to truly exert the best efforts I could and can recently to take advantage of all the opportunities that come my way. This is important, because you should never hold yourself back. Reach for the stars by putting yourself out there.
Another struggle is to maximize my ability to time-manage properly, instead of procrastinating and coming up with excuses as to why you did not have enough time. Planning is important and learning to prioritize your priorities is an important skill I am working on. In order to maximize your days, setting weekly plans or setting goals is important in alleviating stress of living in constant chaos. Specifically, my time-management skills need to be centered around prioritizing maintaining a healthy balance of fun, self-care, responsibilities, and handling stressors. I often find myself neglecting one facet of my life, which does not allow me to truly reach my full potential. Having better time-management skills will only allow me to come across many opportunities that I have been trying to pursue, but keep coming up with excuses to set aside. In order to succeed or even accomplish any goals, I must be willing to invest the time and effort it takes to complete the project, or pursue my dreams. This may seem like a silly concept, as it is blatantly obvious, however, dreams can take months, years, or even a lifetime to achieve.
My last thought lingering on my mind is that one of the downsides of my life is that social media is a huge part of my life, as I spend most of my days on social media platforms. Blogging is one of my passions and favorite past times, which requires spending a significant time on WordPress. Similarly, I spend a lot of time exploring Tumblr, Instagram and Facebook for inspiration, which is also essential for pursuing my career goals and dreams. I have also chosen to pursue a career path that makes utilizing social media and spending an enormous amount of time on the internet a priority. While my laptop and my phone are necessary for me to pursue my goals and passions, I end up getting lost in the mix sometimes and it begins consuming my life, as it has a powerful hold on me. When I end up getting too consumed, sometimes I seem to forget to simply LIVE my life, as I live my life through my phone rather than being present. Many of my creative ideas, projects and goals encompass my blog and ways in which I could expand it, which requires me to utilize my technological skills and invest hours, days, and even months consumed by my phone. This can be very detrimental. Not to mention, while I am endlessly killing time on social media or on my phone, I find myself feeling more insecure, wondering what others think about the way I portray myself on social media, or I find myself comparing myself to others. While I use my social media to share things I feel inspired by, promoting my brand, communicating with others, stay connected with family, friends, etc., or simply just to just share something unsubstantial, I have found that recently my numerous hours on social media, or the Internet, has led me to need to take a break from constantly not being present in my life and focusing on what others are doing. I need to be focusing on myself, and while social media and the Internet, mostly serves as a way to find inspiration or find some answers, everyone is succeptible to the dangers of overusing the Internet or social media.
With that said, I have been practicing mindfulness, coloring, working full-time, being creative, spending time with myself, spending time with family, and overall, practicing patience. I have been trying to be kinder to myself and those around me.
I have also slowly been slowing down…
Slowing down has allowed me to think clearly, identify things I would like to change about myself, make better decisions for myself, prioritize my life, remain calm, be more attentive, practice positivity, engage in self-motivation, maintain a more grateful attitude, self-reflect, take risks, practice things that I have been trying to work on, implement ideas, goals, and projects that I have been thinking about, be kinder to those around me, be kinder to myself, and take care of myself.
More random thoughts…
♥ Why is it easy to get frustrated with myself and with life sometimes?
♥ Why does time fly when you are doing stuff that you love?
♥ Why doesn’t money grow on trees?
♥ When will I retire? Can I retire now?
Share any worries, thoughts, opinions, pieces of advice, life lessons, hilarious stories, rants, etc. that have been occupying your thought waves. I would love to hear what has been on your mind 💭💭
What does R&R stand for? Let me answer that question for you. It stands for rest and revive.
Our bodies, which are constantly in motion and working to keep our precious bodies healthy and happy, need time to rest and revive. This is why getting the proper amount of sleep and rest is particularly important. We, as individuals, are programmed to fatigue sometimes, when we are overworked, not getting enough sleep, or not getting sleep at all.
Though we all say that we can sleep when we are dead, this is something that could especially become detrimental towards our health. Studies have shown that without the proper amount of rest, not only are we unable to revive, but we find ourselves gaining weight, losing weight, getting groggy, and getting grumpy. It even from time to time affects our ability to memorize and remember things.
Resting plays a large role in our body, and in order to be that happy and healthy versions of ourselves, we need to be resting every night.
Some days sleeping just does not cut it, in fact, some days I find myself exhausted even after a good night’s sleep. This is our body telling us that we either are stressed, overwhelmed, and perhaps not treating our bodies correctly.
Taking time off, or away from our rigorous schedules, is something that we unfortunately cannot do very frequently, as most of us are in school, or at work all day. It’s truly hard to find time sometimes to rest and revive.
Every day, I try to take about 30 minutes in the morning to revive my system after a night’s rest. I usually simply lay down and look at the not-so-empty walls of my studio apartment, thinking about how lucky I am that I have found time to relax.
Taking a small portion of your day, morning, or afternoon, or evening, to simply just unwind and seperate yourself from your daily stressors plays a huge role in feeling more rejuvenated, happy, and healthy.
We all need to rejuvenate sometimes, and you truly should not be so hard on yourself, if you just can’t seem to move out of your bed. In this fast-paced society, catching a break is truly hard, and sometimes, it leads me to believe that we should all have a vacation period at least once every few months.
Though taking breaks is frowned upon by society, it is one of the most vital ways to stay sane and happy. The idea that we, as individuals, have to constantly be in motion and working, or doing something, is absolutely absurd. I understand the need to want to make the best out of our lives, however, taking time off to relax and revive will leave you in a much better headspace.
Recently, I took a break from school, friends, and even from my full-time job. And, man does time go by fast when you are resting and reviving. Similarly, I also took time to be away from my phone, another stressor that does not allow us to rest and revive ( I actually just broke my phone yet again). I currently am taking a break from all these stressors and simply focusing on reviving myself to get ready for another year of grueling activities.
There’s always time to rest and revive. And, if you’re struggling to find some time to rest and revive, then I would suggest reconsidering your work-load, your personal life, and other aspects of your life that do not seem to be allowing you this freedom.
Take a breath every once in a while, and just breathe. Even if it is only for ten minutes, making time for R&R is underrated, and unacknowledged.
How you spend your time resting and reviving is all up to you, as everyone has different ways they spend time unwinding. I try to utilize my free time journaling, blogging, coloring, hiking, practicing photography and/or napping.
How do you R&R?
Days should be spent learning, and not just the typical textbook learning, but learning from other sources outside of your traditional learning tools. Experiment with expanding your horizons with things you encounter every day, whether it be learning more about people, science, odd topics, the news, etc. Maybe, even learn more about work, or where your even from.
We, as a society, are blessed with technological advancements that allow us to access the most variety of information. We are not limited to the mindless pages of our textbooks; we have our whole universe to learn about.
If learning is limited to our textbooks, we are simply confining our minds from a handful of knowledge. All of our learning at our educational facilities may not cater to all of our needs, values, and general interests. That is okay. Learning things you do not like is also helpful, as you can find it interesting or find it somewhat interesting.
Learning, beyond traditional learning, can be a fun, enjoyable activity, and being informed, and most importantly mindful, about what is going on in our world is important.
We can create our own value systems, morals, and broaden our minds with information that is not given to us directly from our school. Additionally, enjoying what you are learning is something that we can all become a little bit better about, seeing that this kind of accessibility to information of all genres, topics, and sub-topics, is not something that we all are able to attain.
Taking something out of every day and taking interest in something that you enjoy, or do not enjoy, is a life skill that assists in keeping life fun, lively and interesting.
Tap into your curious side and experience, learn and be knowledgeable about learning, and the power of learning. Being knowledgeable and accessing, and processing new information, can be an exciting.
Want to be in the loop? Give learning a try. Utilize your life skills that allow you to access the world, at the ease of your finger tips. The Internet and Google can become your best friends.
Experience some passion towards making your life more wholesome and meaningful. If you truly want to juice the fruit, learning will help you get the juice. I can assure you that!