The Perks Of Living An Honest Life

Some people are good at deceiving others, while others are unable to lead a lifestyle full of lies. It’s completely up to the individual how you choose to go about living your life, as it is YOUR life.

How you gain fulfillment from life is unique and a different experience for each and every individual.

With that said, you will lie more than once just to save your ass every once in a while. The guilt really eats you alive, though, which then leads to guilt, which often leads to self-destructive behavior.

Honesty is hard to come by, but why lie? After a while, you can never remember or keep up with your lies. You begin steering away from not only being yourself, but you begin to embark on a journey of discontentment and behaviors that are unlike you.

Once you start, it may be hard to stop, depending on how you decide to handle the situation. Best advice? Just don’t.

Chances are you will always slip up and the truth eventually always comes out, even when you do not mean for it to happen and have been working so hard to conceal it. Having an acting gig as a full-time career is great when you are a part of movie productions, but not when it comes to establishing a genuine, happy, and fulfilling life.

You gain so much out of being honest that lies become a distant memory. Honesty also saves you a lot of time, steers you from troublesome events, and allows you to truly embrace the the reality that is placed in front of you.

Lies are messy, and they are a disaster. Hurricanes and natural disasters are dangerous, but so is a life spent living a lie.
Lying steers you away from being able to find yourself, as your lies become your life. Nothing about you becomes genuine, as people will begin losing interest in unproductive habit.

Though honesty may seem more intimidating than meeting your biggest celebrity crush or idol, it is the best form of damage control, if you want to avoid future problems. And, the problems will only become bigger, overwhelming, and uncontrollable.

Do not be selfish and misuse people’s trust. Live a life that you can be proud of, not a life that is completely bogus. I guarantee you will end up being more unhappy than you were before you told the lie to begin with.

Honesty is an act of courage and can be viewed as a reflection of a person. Hold yourself to a higher standard. Do not just stop lying to those around you, but also stop lying to yourself. Unless you are trying to end up lost in the Sahara Desert with no food or water, let the bad habit slip. Even the smallest white lie will catch up with you.

Trying to find your inner happiness? It does not start with lying. Do not fret though, young grasshopper, today is a new day and there’s never an expiration date on changing your habits.

Finally, if you do not want to be lied to than do not spend time lying. Give honesty, and you will receive it.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

White Noise

“Hey! What’s going on out there?” I always seem to be thinking that every time I am home or even outside. There always seems to be SOMETHING happening around us, making it hard to pay attention to the things that actually matter.

What is white noise? You may ask. Well, to me, white noise is anything unnecessary that provides stimulation for individuals. Whether it be drama, or someone spreading malicious rumors, or overhearing someone talking about you behind their back, this is all just a distraction from school, work, or however you are choosing to spend your time.

People can also be white noise, as some individuals may not bring all that much good into your life. Individuals who bring drama, and unnecessary baggage, are included in the category of white noise.

How do you ignore though? I just rub the dirt off of my shoulders and fill my time with meaningful things, which allows me to simultaneously ignore all the meaningless things that will no longer serve a purpose for you in about a week.

Rumors are also what I consider white noise. The game of telephone is a game that people enjoy playing that results in the most epic failure and horrible rumors. The best way to handle horrible rumors, or white noise? Ignore it all and be productive. It almost helps to be so immersed with your life that no one else matters, other than yourself, OF COURSE.

If you are zoned into your own world, you have no time to pay attention to the meaningless bullshark that tends to arise all the time.

These distractions can be seen as challenges, or hard times, or simply confusing. The goals of distractions and white noise is to steer your focus from what really matters to things that will not make a difference in your life in about five years.

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The first step to every issue is to address and acknowledge the problem. As you grow older, there becomes less and less time to acknowledge and internalize the white noise. You soon begin to realize how petty, small, and reckless this white noise is. If you are losing focus of your main focus or goal, this just is a simple reminder that you are paying attention to the irrelevant white noise surrounding you.

Test yourself and become aware of what is going on around you.You need to be aware of what is going on around you, in order to tune out the white noise. It is important that you understand that the outside forces, that you cannot control, should not control how you live your daily life. In fact, these outside forces should just be things you spend less than one millisecond thinking about.

At the end of the day, most of the meaningless “stuff” happening around you does not even concern you, so why care? My best advice is to ignore it and do not care about the people who do not mind their own business. White noise is easily avoidable once you are truly able to comprehend how much belittling is happening, rumors are being spread, bullying is continuing, people talking behind each other’s backs, etc. You should not be listening in the first place, let along caring about issues that do not concern you.

These are the people that we either call haters or bullies, those who succeed and thrive off of bringing you down. Do not let them get to you, EVER! No tear should be wasted over things that cannot be helped. Just let the haters hate, and the potatoes potate.

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Most of the white noise is negative and not productive to be investing your precious time on. Move on and play your musical tunes as loud as ever. In a society focused on white noise, be the 1%, and do not contribute or become the white noise.

 

C’MON DO NOT BE THE WHITE NOISE!

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

“People Need People”

Being alone is amazing sometimes, am I right? Sometimes, an excessive amount of alone time is good for the soul. At times, however, it can be detrimental when you forget about the people who are constantly surrounding you and neglect them.

PEOPLE NEED PEOPLE.

That’s final. People require the support of others, especially the nurturing side of other human beings, in order to find solace and inner peace.

We all pretend to hate people or constantly complain about not having enough friends. Additionally, we also find ourselves repetitively stating the fact that we do not have friends nor do we need them to survive.

Our bodies crave the attention of others and constantly are feeding off of the energies of others around us. In order to maintain a peaceful state of mind, and a healthy one at that, one must have a support system, or a proper group of friends.

We also need negative, toxic people in our lives to constantly remind ourselves that even the negative energies that we are exuding towards each other are necessary in order to live a purposeful life.

All human beings need one another not only to learn lessons, grow, mature, but also to maintain stability. Anything in excess, including being with friends, is detrimental to one’s health.

If you are a social butterfly, like I am, it is incredibly important to find time for yourself. However, I crave the energies of my friends and love being around others, constantly learning and finding the good in all people.

All people survive off of each other, and we need each other more than we think we need. It goes beyond getting test answers from each other, working as coworkers, and technological forms of communication.

The livelihood of human beings are dependent on others, so challenge yourself this month to meet new people, ask how their day is, and exude the utmost kindness to everyone, including strangers.

Ask them what their dreams are, what their passions are, where they are from, etc. It does not matter.People can be both a negative and a positive aspect of your life, however, they are fundamental and a necessity in order to live a life full of happiness, wonder, and love.

Let love in and let love out. People, even the ones who do not vocalize it or think about it, are relying on you more than you know. We all need each other, simple as that.

Whether you choose a crowd that is unfavorable or a favorable crowd, it is up to you. Protect yourself from the inevitable people, such as bullies, toxic humans, those who bring you down, however, show them happiness, love, and kindness.

Those who are unhappy are not the only ones needing extra love and kindness, sometimes human beings can be gifted in hiding their sadness, and lack of love, so naturally, show love and be the love you would like to see in the world. Or, as Mahatma Gandhi says, “Be the change that you wish to see in the world.”

Without others guiding us or misleading us in different directions, life would be boring, meaningless, unstimulated, and impractical.

Do not forget how many people are counting on you EVER. Constantly remind yourself of this every morning, not everyone vocalizes their need for others and their need for love.

Support your own species! Join the movement in building a community filled with love, happiness, and joy.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

The Road Less Traveled

Some days you feel lazy, challenged, a little unmotivated, angry, frustrated, bored, sad, and irate about this crazy world we live in. This is quite alright, actually.

What is your ultimate vice to cover up the guilt, anxiety, and pressures of modern day society? I have countless, and as the saying goes, old habits die hard. I used to cope with the abuse of a variety of illicit narcotics, but now have turned my unexerted, and unlimited energy towards other habits, such as blogging, hiking, coloring, shopping and working full-time.

It is not easy to turn away from your old, toxic habits, as they are cyclical parts of our day-to-day life. The simple act of going to Starbucks every morning and drinking a Venti Caramel Macchiato can be categorized as an old toxic coping mechanism, as none of us really should be drinking 3 shots of espresso in our coffee every day.

The key to success is maintaining composure, and a level-head, when you are stressed. Turning your unexerted stress towards positive habits, such as your health, new found hobbies, staying on top of your school work, and hanging out with positive influences can be a way to take the road less traveled.

You see, none of these old, toxic habits are serving you any good. Though it is alright to slip up a few times, as I have time-and-time again, recognizing, addressing, and acting upon being aware of your old habits is the key to success.

Some days I find myself bored, and unsatisfied with life. I am constantly doing the same thing every day, working full-time, coloring and shopping. I also attend therapy once a week to switch up my routine.

By taking the road less traveled on, and working hard to combat these habits, you will begin to lead a life of happiness and simplicity. All things that every human being craves. The key to understanding why you must take the road less traveled on is thinking about more than “the now.” You must learn to think long-term and think about your long-term goals before deciding to be impulsive and reckless. These small habitual toxic habits that you engage in are a big part of who you are as a person, but learning to persevere through the tough times, especially when you are overwhelmed, is a skill that cannot be taught or mastered. We all make mistakes sometimes.

The road less traveled on is much more difficult and time-consuming than one would hope, which is why it is the route that is traveled on much less. In the long run, however, the outcomes will be enormous, and will be self-fulfilling. The best feeling in the world is learning how much your hard work pays off, even through the thick and the thin. Not every day is easy, and not every day is fun, especially when you’re traveling in the opposite direction than others. Chances are very high that you will feel lost, uncomfortable, vulnerable, unstable, emotional, irate, sad, happy, relieved, etc.

This is all natural. Life is supposed to be challenging, so why not take up the challenge now? It is never too late to change. Today is a new day – another day for you to change.

Validation from others is the reason why others turn their cheek and travel in the most traveled on road. Sometimes we can be prone to take this route, however, take small steps towards change and rewards will come in surplus.

Appreciate the challenge and embrace the challenge. As Nike exclaims, “JUST DO IT!”And, as 2Chainz most famously stated, “I’m different, yeah, I’m different!” Embrace being different and taking a different route than everyone, because no one is the same and the route that they may decide to take is probably drastically different from yours.

Change your perspective ad shoot for the stars, loves. Aim high, work hard, and keep your expectations low. Do not rush the process, as it is a lifelong process. Adapt to your current situation, whatever it may take, and begin there. Make a list of things you wish to change about yourself, and then most importantly, make changes and take action! Actions always speak louder than words.

Lastly, do not do this for anyone other than yourself. After a while, doing the same shit for years becomes a bore. This is simply just a sign that you are growing and maturing. Figuring out what you like and do not like, standing up for yourself, and loving yourself are all things that become incredibly uncomfortable, as you will find yourself spending more and more time alone. Uncomfortable is good – it simply means you found some inspiration to grow, mature, and take action against your old habits.

Do not be so hard on yourself, but take up this challenge, and do things you do not normally do. Make yourself uncomfortable, in order to face the uncomfortability. Remember those who mind, do not matter.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade