Life Hack #26 – Flake Less

“Flake less. Don’t flake off.”

What I mean by this is that you should attempt to flake out on plans as little of times as possible. Following through with your plans, obligations, or any responsibilities for that matter is one of the best qualities that an individual can have – Not to mention, it sends clear signals that you care. Sometimes, it is understandable that we are unable to make obligations or plans, due to outside factors, but making this kind of behavior a negative thing can make it difficult to maintain stability in any aspect of your life. Being a flake sends clear messages that you do not care and that you’re not accountable, which has many repercussions.

Flaking out on plans, or not being consistent, is hurtful, annoying, and can add on unnecessary amounts of stress onto you.

I can say with conviction that I am a flake. Honestly, it is one of my worst qualities and truly hurts others around me. I can make excuses all I want until I die, but no amount of excuses in the world can make up for how frustrating it is for people to get ahold of me, let along try to hang out with me.

In order to avoid being “that flake,” it is important to understand your schedule, your stress levels, and your energy levels, as well as your tolerance to handle hanging out with another person. Similarly, it is important to make sure you take into account your mood, so you do not end up flaking on plans, due to mood swings.

Don’t make plans unnecessarily – this tends to be my problem, as I would love to make time to spend time with all my loved ones as much as possible, all the time. Be realistic and try to make plans in advance, which are the plans that are harder to flake out on.

Be a responsible planner and allocate your time wisely. Also, be sure to take into account the people whose time you may be wasting when you flake out on plans. In addition, you may be hurting someone’s feelings when you do this, as cheesy as that does not sound. People who go out of their way to make plans with you, do this because they genuinely would like to spend time with you. Obviously, if this is not the case, perhaps flaking out on plans may be in your best interest. If someone is investing their time and their excitement to spend time with you, do not let it go to waste. If plans fall through, try to make it up to them.

If you are planning to flake, and you will know when you are not going to end up leaving your bed, be honest and try to notify as in advance as possible. Try to at least be a respectful flake!

For those who cannot help but be flakey, try to convey this message to others and let them know that you are working on getting better with following through with plans and that they should not wait up unless you confirm the plans. I try to let people around me know this, so at least it is on the table. Likewise, if you are just not truly feeling up to it, let them know honestly. There is no need to come up with some big, elaborate lie.

Striving not to be a flake applies to all aspects of your life, including your professional and academic lives.

Being a flake is selling yourself short. Do not be a short flake – it is not cool.

xo.

Aichan Tewahade

Life Hack #15 – Pay It Forward

With the holidays coming around, this season should serve as a daily reminder to pay it forward, though you should always try to pay it forward.

According to Merriam Webster, the phrase “pay it forward” is defined as, to “respond to a person’s kindness to oneself by being kind to someone else” (Webster). The concept of to pay it forward was first introduced, or memorialized, by Benjamin Franklin, in a letter he wrote Benjamin Webb in 1784, where he displayed confidence and support in Webb, by lending Webb money for his business, as a result of his previous good character and manners he had displayed towards Franklin. In this case, Franklin places his trust in the hands of someone who had previously shown him good deeds, lending him money, as a way to pay it forward.

While this is just one example of the concept of paying it forward, there are many ways to pay it forward this season, or just in general, without it involving money.

The action of paying it forward, or expressing love towards others, should come from the heart. This act should make you feel good! And, while people may not always be kind in every situation, showing any form of kindness or compassion, including saying “thank you,” holding the door for someone else, passing along a compliment, smiling, or showing gratitude are small ways to pay it forward.

Regardless of how you are feeling about life, making others feel good should always be a priority in your life. Making others around you miserable by choice is just not a sustainable life.

I have seen great acts involving paying it forward. Recently, a teenager walked into my place of work with someone, who appeared to be her grandmother. The teenager requested that the elderly woman order whatever she pleases, and let me be real, our menu is not the cheapest. So, the elderly woman proceeds to place an order for a gyro meat plate, and I ask, just as I ask every other customer, if she would like to add three falafel balls for an extra $1.50, and the woman hesitates. The young teenager speaks over the elderly woman, stating confidently, “yes, why not? Let’s just add three falafel.” So, I continue to make the order, and while I am checking the two ladies out at the cash register, I ask if either of them would like a drink. The teenager exclaims, “let’s make it a large mint tea lemonade,” and our fresh mint tea is also the most expensive item on the menu. I proceed, regardless. The final price comes to be about $20, including tax, and the teenager quickly hands me cash. I ask if she wants any taziki or tahini sauce with her plate, and the teenager looks at the woman, and she nods, so I grab her some extra sauces and put it in a bag, with her white pita bread. I thought nothing of this, until the old woman forgets her drink. I immediately react, grabbing the drink and sprinting out the door. I see them outside the store, sharing a conversation. I quickly interrupt, I apologize for interrupting their conversation, and I hand the elderly woman her drink. During their exchange, I hear the young teenager say, “Now, enjoy your meal and have a wonderful, wonderful day!”

I am in shock and so humbled by this random act of kindness, as the elderly woman so gratefully exclaims, “Thank you so much, dear! You are a wonderful person.” I am so humbled and feel every warm emotion go through my body, as I had just witnessed such a beautiful, selfless act of kindness. As the teenager, who so kindly and graciously helped this elderly woman, begins to walk away, I have nothing to say, but, “wow, you are truly a wonderful human being. Thank you for your kindness! Keep being amazing!” 

I was left speechless, as acts like these are so rare these days, or often overlooked, or underappreciated. I even felt good after witnessing such a monumentally selfless act of love and kindness. After witnessing that, I personally realized that I should be kinder towards people, and express and act upon the act of love and kindness that exists in this world. It is true, ladies and gentlemen, love and happiness is contagious.

The feeling you get after being kind, just out of the purest intentions, is something that cannot be explained. I try to practice random acts of kindness every day, as some acts of kindness, we are even blind to. The world is much kinder to you than you perceive sometimes, just look at it with a positive perspective. Showing your love and appreciation back to the world is a great way to feel good and make others feel good.

These acts of kindness do not always need to involve money, while I do find that tipping my favorite servers, hosts, and fellow customer-service/food industry folk a little extra is one of my favorite ways to practice kindness. 

Money does not always have to be the case. Surprising someone with coffee or a small treat is always nice, but a simple, “how are you?” or “I appreciate you” text counts, as well. Paying it forward is just expressing gratitude and kindness to those around you, strangers or not, and somehow, subtly or not subtly, letting them feel good or reminding them that they are awesome. Even your presence is sometimes the only Christmas gift, or act of kindness, someone needs. Big or small, paying it forward is important!

Since this is the season of giving, why not practice your giving skills in full-force? You are kind of being forced to anyways! Try to be a little more kind towards the people around you, once again, strangers or not. Surprise someone with a compliment, or give someone a dollar. Do you craft or have any artistic abilities? Give someone a drawing or art project that you did. Love candy? Carry around some candy and hand it out to some strangers or your friends. Next time you walk by a stranger, try to smile and wave. Do you have any extra clothes or canned food around? Try to donate them to a charity, food drive, or clothes drive. Have any extra free-time? Try to volunteer your services this season. Do you have great coworkers you love? Write them a note about how much you love and appreciate them, or maybe bring in some cookies to work. Have a phone? Text your loved ones that you love them and appreciate them, and if you don’t have a phone, try emailing them that. Have a mouth? Say “thank you” to someone who does something kind for you, or just use some manners. Maybe, you could even hold the door for someone else. Do you have ears? Maybe listen to someone problems, and invest your time in trying to offer others your advice and wisdom.

Paying it forward is simple and something that you should get in the habit of year-round. There are so many ways that one could pay it forward this season, so try hard to challenge yourself to make others around you feel good and happy. Sometimes, your act of kindness could be the highlight of someone’s day and you would have no idea. Imagine catching someone off-guard by doing something so great, even if it is a small act, and that becoming the highlight of someone’s day. It is amazing.

Kindness and love are such important values to hold by your side. Watching love and kindness happen right in front of your eyes is an even more incredible view, and something that cannot be explained so simply. The purest and rarest memories you will ever have is when you are doing something kind, as a result of someone else having shown love and kindness. The concept of paying it forward emphasizes the endless cycle of kindness and love, as people often act out of kindness, as a generosity of having encountered kindness.

Christmas means you practice the act of giving, so try to get into the spirit and make it a lifelong habit to partake in. Kindness trumps all, including hate, and this world needs more love and kindness.

♡ Be the kindness you wish to see in the world, and show the people some love ♡ We all need it ♡

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

Life Hack #13 – Act Distracted

In order to run away from our problems, we distract ourselves, right? These behaviors are innate, or come naturally, to us, as we all develop avoidance techniques to avoid doing things we do not want to do, or think about.

The extremity in which we take avoidance is up to us, and depends on a lot of factors, including how severely the situation impacted our lives, timing, being prepared for the incident, etc. Avoidance behaviors can extend to developing a drug habit to simply just watching endless amounts of animal videos. It all just depends on the situation. Avoidance can come in the form of positive habits, as well, as they can also be seen as coping mechanisms.

The key to staying afloat is developing strong coping skills, which, in the end, may take a lifetime. In order to develop strong and healthy coping skills, it requires you to get to know yourself. Everything these days seems to be about getting to know yourself, but in order to find out what you truly like, in order to replace old, poor, and broke habits, this is a requirement. Avoiding or dealing with uncomfortable situations already sucks, so why replace a old, broken habit with another old, broken habit that you DO EVEN LIKE?

As you continue learning more and more about yourself, you slowly begin developing coping skills that you can use to avoid situations, in which you do not feel comfortable. However, avoiding forever is not healthy either – as this can become severly unhealthy for an individual. Finding hobbies or activities, such as our school work, joining clubs, volunteering, coloring, cleaning, hiking, running, swimming, working, etc. all count as coping mechanism skills to handle the unique stressors in our life. The great thing about coping mechanism skills is that we can grow and build on them, starting off as just a doodler, I am now a self-proclaimed, full-time color guru. I love coloring!

In order to avoid, for example, having to hear someone say rude things about you, instead of grabbing the nearest bottle (unless it’s water, juice, or non-alcoholic), maybe you grab a book instead. We all have excuses to act distracted, whether it be a upcoming test, avoiding a frenemy, or just life being stressful.

The key to upkeeping these activities and staying distracted from the white noise is finding things that ACTUALLY WORK FOR YOU and enforcing them into your life. While this may not be easy and you may find yourself falling back into old, nasty habits, as soon as you begin scheduling these things in and truly thinking about your actions before you proceed, you will find that there is plenty of room for these activities in your life. Being bored is a choice – you have a choice about the way you feel and how you would like to proceed making you feel better. Short-term satisfaction feels great in the moment, but does it truly last? The first and final answer is “no.”

In order to truly feel the satisfaction that you crave from life, you must exert the amount of effort you wish to receive back. This cliché most of the time is correct, IN THE LONG-TERM. Long-term goals are not supposed to be easily reached, as they will take a LONG time to truly engrain in your mind, in order to master the coping skill.

The best times to act distracted: when you feel your heart rate rising, your thoughts are beginning to race, and you find yourself in a pickle.

While being distracted has its’ negative connotation, sometimes you can find mindfulness in your distractions. Sometimes dwelling on our thoughts and problems obsessively is not the best way to handle life, and EVERY SINGLE INDIVIDUAL HAS A UNIQUE, MASTERED WAY TO AVOID, AND THEREFORE, HANDLE THEIR PAINFUL THOUGHTS AND LIFE.

The realest challenge about this is sticking with it and wanting to do it for yourself. At first, doing things for others may seem easy, but after a while, your true colors do show. Do these distractions for yourself and you will find permanent fufillment in these activities.

Coping mechanisms skills are important, as our lives will not be a breeze forever. We will hit bumps in the road quite frequently and we will need to find ways to deal with this. The path you take, healthy or unhealthy, is ultimately up to you. The amount of power you have over your life is incredible; you have the ability to control every action and reaction you make towards life. To abuse this priviledge, while it is common, is a waste. Do not spend your ENTIRE life wasting it with mindless, unmeaningful things, but fill it with the mindful, meaningful experiences you deserve.

Feed your soul the new hobbies and activities it needs to flourish. Do not let your precious skills be put to waste! Or, do let the fear of trying something new, get in the way of staying distracted. Once you have learned how to actively and productively distract yourself, there is truly no stopping you, OTHER THAN YOU.

Who knows…these distractions could lead to new opportunities, friendships, memories, and experiences. You have no idea that your little hobby or obsession can take form as, as it could be something that could whisp you off your feet.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

Life Hack #12 – Study Tips

Whether you’re juggling a job and attending a university, one universal trait that college students can commune on is the ability to maintain a strong semester. It’s tiresome, even those who attend universities with a quarter system, or perhaps a trimester system. It’s extremely difficult to maintain your strong momentum, starting and ending strong without getting lazy. It is just as easy to begin the semester strong as it is to end the semester on a week note, and vice versa, of course. At some points, you have meltdowns because another universal ideology that all college students universally share is that you want the best grade possible – whether it be a D, barely passing, or an A, being an successful student. While grades do not define you, in order to graduate from your undergraduate or graduate college, you must pass your classes. Let me be the first to say that getting good grades does not only make it financially fulfilling, but also personally fulfilling.

Finals and midterms seem like the most popular time to have these so-called “mental breakdowns,” as you have simply lost what seems like all of your motivation or care, snd finding yourself not wanting to keep up the excellent effort you have been putting forward. I am suggestible to these year-round, no matter how many classes I am taking, I am stressed because I want the best grade possible, without making silly mistakes.

Silly mistakes, such as forgetting a assignment, not being prepared for a midterm or exam, are things that should not hold you back. As my brother once told me, college is a numbers game – you do not want to a zero on your grade report. It is always beneficial to turn in “wrong work,” or an incomplete assignment, than it is to not turn it in at all. Zeros are bad – way worse than a 30%, which i have received in my collegiate career, because mythology goes that grading in college is much different than high-school and that great grades are harder to attain. My dad keeps telling me that I just need to pass the class, but another tip he told me was to study smart, stop obsessing over details.

Interestingly enough from the guy who gave me a mug that says “hardwork never killed anyone, so why try?” (aka my dad), I thought this was good advice. While it is important to do readings (yes, as you begin upper division classes reading is important as fudge), sometimes long readings and lectures cannot be fully consumed and it is important to learn to note the most important aspects of the articles. Details are important, but understanding and soaking up the material is much more manageable for studying and learnig purposes. Similarly, you can always go back to looking over details. Do remember to take good notes the first time however on your readings, lectures, videos, etc., so when reviewing them you do not need to re-read the entire document. Another important key to long readings and lectures is to do a portion of reviewing every day if possible. This will make finishing strong much easier, as you have been going over the material already.

Staying on top of things, not people, is the most important aspect in achieving your academic goals for your school year. Stay focused and keep the ball moving, not even letting a bad grade get in your way. As my friend told me today, hard work reaps benefits so do your best to constantly remind yourself of your end goal, which will lead to so much self-fulfillment you can sleep at night, or most nights.

Also, staying on top of things does not mean constantly procrastinating, but being able to meet the due date. As noted before, do a reasonable amounts of work every day to complete your weeks assignments, and perhaps you could also try to jumpstart ahead. Being ahead is never a bad thing, as long as you stay updated on the current information. So, do not forget to review current materials from your current lecture, while simultaneously working ahead.

A truly helpful tip is to try to go beyond memorizing the material and applying it to real life examples, or other classes. In order to truly succeed, internalizing information and truly understanding concepts is essential, or simply more self-fufillling. It most certainly takes more time to spend time understanding and digesting the material, but in the long-run, especially during finals week and midterms, it is important to understand the material beyond simple definitions.

An important aspect of success is tests, or exams. I will recommend making notecards, if it is applicable for the test. Perhaps, even utilizing Quizlet on your mobile phone or on your laptop. I find it easier for myself to write them out or utilize Quizlet on my phone. For those of you who are not familiar with Quizlet, it is an application that allows you to make digital notecards, allowing you to test yourself and play memory games with the terms or phrases that you are attempting to study. Since we spend so much time on our mobile applications, we may as well utilize an application that lets us study practically 24/7. Constantly reviewing notecards, through Quizlet mobile or online, or simply just reviewing your handwritten notecards will serve as completely beneficial in your memory skills. Quizlet is great, because it allows you to play games with your allotted terms and concepts noted on your notecards.

Word to the wise, for tests and exams, not only is it important to not cram, but it is important that where you study and where you take the exam is quiet, and most importantly, you are comfortable. Whether it be with a friend, alone at the library, etc., find somewhere where you can feel safe to study. For me, I enjoy renting out an individual study room at my local university library, studying at home alone – I find these places great environments to stay productive, as much as possible. Try to spend at least one day a week at the library, honestly, I would suggest more days. The more frequently you begin attending the library, the more likely you are to complete and do better academically. While studying at home, you are prone to many distractions and the library just forces you to sit there. If a library is not your scene, try a local coffee shop or a local library (not your school library), visiting these options allow for more ability to concetrate with much less distractions, because even the school library can get overwhelming seasonally.

Yes, it will suck in the moment, but I am taking it millisecond by millisecond, at the moment. Pushing myself beyond levels that I never knew I could be pushed to, but I do school for myself and try to make learning as enjoyable as possible. Sometimes, this is a problem as we all want to absorb all the material possible, but do not have time.

A grand, old, classic tip is to look at your syllabus ahead of time, staying updatd on current assignments, in order to know when things are coming up. I suggest looking at the entire syllabus, or maybe a month’s worth of work, and grabbing a planner and writing all this information down. Knowing what is to come ahead and when it is coming up is important and lets you plan ahead before the assignment is due. Maybe, once again, you can get a head-start on an assignment. Planners and calendars are reccommended.

This is when good time-management and prioritizing comes handy. Of course, sometimes circumstances come up, but it should be our goal to finish our obligations, whether we enjoy them or not. We signed up for them. Prioritizing is an extremely important lifeskill I am still learning. It is incredibly difficult, as time-management and priorities go hand-in-hand. I usually try to prioritize my hardest, most rigorous assignments immediately over smaller, less difficult assignments. This has proved to be the most efficient. Also, if you have smaller assignments that can be finished in a short amount of time and lack utter concentration – start them and try to complete them. This takes a lot of stress off your plate. Beginning assignments early and breaking them down is basically the underlying concept behind time-management. A to-do list or a calendar are useful to have around to remind you of what you need to get done for the week, or the month. This is also where planning gets involved. Planning, another important aspect of life, allows you the freedom to have a little less stress in your life, as you can plan obligations, schoolwork, etc. visually for yourself. Visual aids of things that need to get done allow you to tackle one thing at a time. If I have a lot on my plate, I make it a goal to at least accomplish 3 things off of my to-do list, minimum.

While you may spend hours grinding it at out on all your subjects, do not forget to eat, stay hydrated and take study breaks. These are all important in retaining information. Similarly, try to get your sleep schedule on a proper cycle, as that plays a big role in mood, behavior, and your academics. Sleep is important, as it recharges our internal batteries, just like good food does.

Also, think about laying off the booze and picking up some more sober activities. While a couple glasses of wine or a few beers never hurt anybody (this is a lie statistically – so, I apologize), there’s no need to go all out. These intense celebratory festivities can be partaken much less frequently and toward the end of the semester. Do not get me wrong – I am not not condoning partying. I love a great glass of red wine or a Kolsch, but I am simply not going to the club every night until 2 a.m. Talk about taking a toll on your bodily functions, life, responsibilities, mood, behavior – to. name a few. Lay off for a little, and save these times as celebrations. There’s no real reason you must be partying every night – it is possible and it is fun, but it just makes school that much more harder and stressful for me, at least.

You know how when you party you meet random strangers? I find this experience useful in classes, as they are utilized as a way to get to know the strangers, or other students, I will be spending the next few months learning from, sitting next to, etc. Think about it, as if you were in a party environment, drunk or sober. You usually form bonds with random strangers, this can be come extremely beneficial to have companions in class. In contrast to having friendships with strangers for one night, or one hour, you can build a relationship with fellow peers, who can help one another with school and life problems. It’s a 2 in 1 package deal that no one can pass op on.

Can you say relationship with professor – And, no i. do not mean an intimate one. I mean building a relationship with both the professor and the teacher assistant is also a vital key to maintaining consistency with your studies. Not only do you get to know them personally, but having access to resources who are willing to help is an incredible opportunity we need to utilize.This service is especially helpful when you are not understanding a concept within the class. Similarly, it shows effort in your part that you are trying beyond the means of jus the lecture, notes and books. Professors do not expect everyone to understand everything and they are there to help – they are very similar to academic advisors who provide resources of help about one’s degree, among other things. You should also build relationships with them and visit them at least once a semester. They offer free guidance and can help you finish your undergraduate degree in the most efficient way. Do not forget to utilize these people – they are your best friend. Friends are not generally afraid to ask other friends questions, are they? So, neither should you.

These are my tips for how to get through the tough times of college and I hope you enjoy!

What are your suggestions for succeeding in academics? Let me know.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

5 Times Hannah Montana’s Songs Taught Me How To Live Life

How many times have you disregarded Hannah Montana as your mentor? I bet you have not internalized the lessons and the messages that her music portrays. Hannah Montana is my mentor and continues to teach me more and more about how I should live my life.

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  1. Nobody’s Perfect
    • “Nobody’s perfect, you live and you learn it,” she sings. Hannah Montana nailed it, as we are all obsessed with the idea of being perfect self, based on our own values, beliefs, morals, and expectations. While our idea of perfectionism is relative to each person, we all share the general idea that we want to be the most successful and happy versions of ourselves. However, life does not work like that, otherwise, life would be fairly boring and fairly perfect. If everything and everyone was perfect, what would be have to work for and live for? We need to face adversity in order to live our most fufilling lives. Most situations in our lives will not turn out perfectly, nor will we, as human beings. But, this is okay! She tells us that it is okay for us all to make mistakes, because “everybody makes mistakes.” In addition to all these lessons, she reminds us to be gentle with ourselves, as expecting ourselves to be perfect at all times is irrational.
      • So, “next time you feel like it’s just one of those days, when you just can’t seem to win…if things don’t turn out the way you planned figure something else out…Don’t stay down, try again, yeah!” Talk about motivating! Hannah Montana, or Miley Cyrus, as she is known to most, is right. Figure something else out, do not stay down! The longer you stay down, the harder things will be to fix. Regardless of that, NOBODY IS PERFECT. Challenge our society and accept the imperfections of life, and figure out another way around the obstacle you are facing. If Hannah says that we are not perfect, and that it is okay not to be perfect, because no one else is perfect, IT MUST BE THE TRUTH. Learn it, believe it and live it. WOOOOOOO!
  2. Life’s What You Make It
    • “Life’s what you make it, so let’s make it right – MAKE IT RIGHT!” Hannah Montana chants this throughout the entire song, and the chorus is indeed right, as life is what you make it. Instead of making it left, or making it wrong, or not fun, Hannah Montana encourages us to make the best out of life, as the power is in our hands! Even when a situation is not the way we planned, as individuals, we have the power to make the best out of every situation, if we so please to. If we want to make our life left, or not fun, then we also have the power to do this, as well. As human beings, we control most aspects of our lives, or at least the way we can react to them.
      • “Don’t let no small frustration ever bring you down!
        No, no, no, no
        Just take a situation and turn it all around.” Basically, this song is an anthem to teach us that the power of our the reality of own lives are in our own hands. This is a lot of power to turn things around. Do not let the small frustrations, bring you down! Find another way around this obstacle we call life, and keep it positive.
      • “Life’s what you make it, SO LET’S MAKE IT ROCK!!!!” Never forget this!!
  3. The Best Of Both Worlds
    • “You get the best of both worlds…
      Chill it out, take it slow, then you rock out the show.
      You get the best of both worlds
      Mix it all together, and you know that it’s the best of both worlds.” While we are not rockstars like Hannah Montana & Miley Cyrus, we are made up of multiple components of “self,” within our selves. Crazy, right? This song teaches me to learn to balance having fun and “chillin’ it out, and taking it slow.” It is important to find a happy medium, as we all know that Hannah Montana transforms into Miley when she wants to chill it out and take it slow. We can all experience the best of both worlds, if we can carefully execute our decision making process and prioritize correctly, incorporating our responsibilities and our fun. The best life we live is when we are able to live the best of both worlds within our own world. Maybe, we do not rock it out on stage like Hannah Montana, or see Orlanda Bloom at a movie premiere, but we still do know how to PARTY, or have fun. If you do attend movie premieres and rock out on stage like Hannah Montana, then more power to you – this song probably relates to you very closely. Just like Miley must find a balance within her two lives, we must find a balance within our life, juggling our fun times with our responsibilities.
  4. Rockstar
    • This one is a personal favorite. We’ve all had a crush, who may not pay as much attention to us, even though we all deserve all the attention in the world. Hannah Montana teaches us not to wait around for these fools, who we try to dress up for and look cute for. But, Hannah Montana, once again teaches us that, well…we might just be a rockstar. So, who cares about these losers, am I right?
      • “I’m unsual, not so typical, way too smart to be waiting around. Tai chi practicing, snowboard champion, I could fix flat on your car…I might even be a rockstar.” We all fall for someone, who truly does not know who we are and barely notices, and that is okay. But, Hannah Montana empowers us all by telling us that we are much cooler than these people try to define us as (A.K.A. unnoticeable). What if we were all rockstars like Hannah Montana? We all are rockstars, FOR SURE, but maybe we don’t perform on stage like Hannah does. That is okay – our self worth should not be based on what we think these imbeciles think we are. We are actually much cooler than we are even being acknowledged as!! Hannah Montana achieves the greatest form of empowerment. Do not wait for these loonies to notice you, because you are worth much more than waiting around for them to notice you. Focus your attention on those around you who already think you are just as cool as you are!
  5. The Climb
    • “But, I keep trying, gotta keep my head held high. There’s always going to be another mountain, I’m always going to want to make it move. Always going to be an uphill battle, sometimes I’m gonna have to lose. Ain’t about how fast I get there, ain’t about what’s waiting on the other side. It’s the climb!” This is one of Hannah Montana’s most beautiful pieces, as it MOSTLY puts me to tears. It is quite motivating, as she belts out that no matter what challenges we face, we must keep fighting and keep going. She emphasizes that it does not matter how fast we accomplish our goals, but to keep pushing past our insecurities and the challenges we face, in order to achieve our goals and dreams. In order to get through life, we need a thick skin and need to be able to move past all the challenges we are faced with. Sometimes, we do not always win, even though we may be fighting the good fight. This is okay – you may be knocked down, but do not give up!!
      • “The struggles I’m facing, the chances I’m taking, sometimes might knock me down, but NO, I am not breaking. I may not know it, but these are the moments that I’m gonna remember most, yeah. Just gotta keep going!” She teaches us to “stay strong and keep pushing on,” as life is a tireless battle when you are fighting for your dreams. Keep believing in yourself, no matter if you are winning or losing. The idea of this song is genuinely beautiful and very substantial, as we all need reminders that achieving our dreams and goals is not an easy feat. Whenever you are feeling insecure or unsure about your life, just continue battling – we are all warriors!OK FOR ALL YOU DIE HARD HANNAH MONTANA FANS, I KNOW THE CLIMB IS TECHNICALLY PERFORMED BY MILEY CYRUS. Just know that “The Climb” deserves to be recognized. AND, IT WAS IN THE HANNAH MONTANA – SO SHUSH.

These are some of my all-time favorite Hannah Montana songs that have taught me to live the life I live. I try to enforce all these lessons into my life, in order to live the PHENOMENAL LIFE I LIVE!! WOOOOOOO! Hannah Montana is not underrated, or just for kids. Hannah Montana/Miley Cyrus has some important ideas she is trying to spread, so join me on the journey of uncovering all the lessons that her songs depict. Hannah Montana lives on! SHE IS A LEGEND! SHE IS MY MENTOR!!!

WOOO!! YEAH! YEAH! YEAH!

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

P.S. The links to the official Hannah Montana/Miley Cyrus’ musicc videos are accessible for convenient viewing, just with the click of the song title. So, if you are feeling nostalgic, click on the name of the song and the official video will come up!
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Life Hack #10 – Juggling Act

How do you find balance in this world? How does one maintain a healthy, mind, body and soul with all the stressors and responsiblities we face?

Here’s a cliche, “You need to find balance in your life.” I interpret this as managing your time to healthily find time for yourself, while maintaing your responsibilities and your stressors. This is something that we all struggle with, as we have circumstances, such as deadlines, due dates, and daily obligations. Most of us work hard and often forget the detrimental affectst of not finding balance within your life.

Balance can include:

  1. Balancing spending time alone – Relax, spend time with yourself, and RELAX. Do your activities and hobbies you enjoy, or simply lay in bed. Paint your nails, read a book, and pamper yourself. Constantly being by yourself, or intentionally isolating yourself, can become detrimental to your health, so try to once again find a happy medium of both spending time with others and yourself. Of course, you should always put your needs, especially involving self-care, first. After all, this your life and your health we are talking about. However, spending time alone allows for one not to just get to know yourself and allows you to simply relax. You may also begin to acquire the skill of being indepedent. In a sense, you learn to hold your own. Being an independent person is something  that you need to survive and be successfully happy as a human being, not saying that it will always be comfortable though.
    In this sense, you also need to learn to take care of yourself and put yourself first. Make sure that your health (mental and physical) needs are being met, making time to practice exercise, eating well, stay hydrated, establish a healthy sleep cycle, in order to avoid an overall, panic attack. In this sense, learning to spend time with yourself is very important. If you are not taking care of yourself and spending time with yourself, this could lead to detrimental effects that may have affect you in long run, and NOT BENEFICIALLY.
  2. With that said, spending time with friends is extremely important – Isolation and avoidant behavior may leave you feeling lonely and alone, and it is not healthy. People need people, whether they are friends are not. Human beings thrive off of the energy that others expend, whether you know it or not. Spending too much time with friends and becoming codependent on eachother is not healthy either, so learn to set boundaries with your tribe and do not consume all your time with your friends. The more codependent you become on others, the more toxic the relationship becomes. As I mentioned before, independence is an important aspect of growing up and a vital quality to live the best life possible. Codependency almost leads to fear of doing activities without any companions, which is not a healthy habit to develop. While friends are important, it is also supremely important to find a balance with prioritizing yourself and making time for your friends, as these are both important aspects of learning the balancing act of life.

    So, another instance when finding balance comes into play…

  3. Make sure to find time to spend time doing fun – Overworking yourself and consuming your time completing these obligations is impressive and your duty. But, letting your life become these obligations will lead to a path that may cause more harm than benefits. Do not forget admist your obligations that it is important to make time to have fun. Having fun, outside of work or school, is important, as everyone deserves a break to have a little fun. It keeps one happy, more motivated, but requires the skill of planning. On your days off of school or work, try to utilize these days to do something that YOU LIKE TO DO, that may not be considered an obligation. Planning a trip with friends or simply going to Happy Hour every once in a while can help one maintain a healthy state of mind.
  4. Make sure to complete your obligations and work hard – This is an counterargument to the previous statement. Obligations are obligations , and my definition of an obligation is something that you must complete. It is not an option, it’s simply something one must do. Yes, we have our hard days and feel helpless to the fact that live is hard, however, missing and avoiding obligations by prioritizing fun also has its cons. You must learn to embrace your daily obligations, and it’s ultimately up to you whether or not you will complete them. Unfortunately, life can not be as forgiving as we would like it to be sometimes. In addition, one must work hard in order to achieve your goals and hard work builds character. Work hard at whatever obligation you are doing, because it is more fufilling and rewarding to produce exceptional work, leading to exceptional results that will favor you. Life, unfortunately, does not hand us everything on a golden, glittery plate, so if you want to TRULY achieve your long-term, or even your short-term goals, it requires more effort and commitment from you as an individual. Not to mention, why live a mediocre life when you could live a fufilling, more successful life working hard?I don’t know about you, but I thoroughly enjoy working hard. It is not for others, but for myself. Exerting 100% into everything that you do leaves you with no regrets, even if your results may not turn out the way you want it to be. While a rigorous schedule can serve as a positive factor, constantly living a life of rigor, such as overworking, for an extended period of time with no breaks will lead to an absolute meltdown. As I mentioned before, utilize your planning skills and try to find balance within your work, school, etc. obligations. Constantly being on overdrive, while it is impressive and may lead to successful results, truly affects one’s mental wellbeing. While we all have our lazy days, try your hardest to challenge yourself and exert the most effort capable. I promise, if anything, you will experience fufillment.

I can not juggle very well, or at all, but hopefully, we can develop some core strength and find some balance within our lives. Who said juggling would be easy?

Try to discover your inner Yin & Yang.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade