Life Hack #26 – Flake Less

“Flake less. Don’t flake off.”

What I mean by this is that you should attempt to flake out on plans as little of times as possible. Following through with your plans, obligations, or any responsibilities for that matter is one of the best qualities that an individual can have – Not to mention, it sends clear signals that you care. Sometimes, it is understandable that we are unable to make obligations or plans, due to outside factors, but making this kind of behavior a negative thing can make it difficult to maintain stability in any aspect of your life. Being a flake sends clear messages that you do not care and that you’re not accountable, which has many repercussions.

Flaking out on plans, or not being consistent, is hurtful, annoying, and can add on unnecessary amounts of stress onto you.

I can say with conviction that I am a flake. Honestly, it is one of my worst qualities and truly hurts others around me. I can make excuses all I want until I die, but no amount of excuses in the world can make up for how frustrating it is for people to get ahold of me, let along try to hang out with me.

In order to avoid being “that flake,” it is important to understand your schedule, your stress levels, and your energy levels, as well as your tolerance to handle hanging out with another person. Similarly, it is important to make sure you take into account your mood, so you do not end up flaking on plans, due to mood swings.

Don’t make plans unnecessarily – this tends to be my problem, as I would love to make time to spend time with all my loved ones as much as possible, all the time. Be realistic and try to make plans in advance, which are the plans that are harder to flake out on.

Be a responsible planner and allocate your time wisely. Also, be sure to take into account the people whose time you may be wasting when you flake out on plans. In addition, you may be hurting someone’s feelings when you do this, as cheesy as that does not sound. People who go out of their way to make plans with you, do this because they genuinely would like to spend time with you. Obviously, if this is not the case, perhaps flaking out on plans may be in your best interest. If someone is investing their time and their excitement to spend time with you, do not let it go to waste. If plans fall through, try to make it up to them.

If you are planning to flake, and you will know when you are not going to end up leaving your bed, be honest and try to notify as in advance as possible. Try to at least be a respectful flake!

For those who cannot help but be flakey, try to convey this message to others and let them know that you are working on getting better with following through with plans and that they should not wait up unless you confirm the plans. I try to let people around me know this, so at least it is on the table. Likewise, if you are just not truly feeling up to it, let them know honestly. There is no need to come up with some big, elaborate lie.

Striving not to be a flake applies to all aspects of your life, including your professional and academic lives.

Being a flake is selling yourself short. Do not be a short flake – it is not cool.

xo.

Aichan Tewahade

Life Hack #15 – Pay It Forward

With the holidays coming around, this season should serve as a daily reminder to pay it forward, though you should always try to pay it forward.

According to Merriam Webster, the phrase “pay it forward” is defined as, to “respond to a person’s kindness to oneself by being kind to someone else” (Webster). The concept of to pay it forward was first introduced, or memorialized, by Benjamin Franklin, in a letter he wrote Benjamin Webb in 1784, where he displayed confidence and support in Webb, by lending Webb money for his business, as a result of his previous good character and manners he had displayed towards Franklin. In this case, Franklin places his trust in the hands of someone who had previously shown him good deeds, lending him money, as a way to pay it forward.

While this is just one example of the concept of paying it forward, there are many ways to pay it forward this season, or just in general, without it involving money.

The action of paying it forward, or expressing love towards others, should come from the heart. This act should make you feel good! And, while people may not always be kind in every situation, showing any form of kindness or compassion, including saying “thank you,” holding the door for someone else, passing along a compliment, smiling, or showing gratitude are small ways to pay it forward.

Regardless of how you are feeling about life, making others feel good should always be a priority in your life. Making others around you miserable by choice is just not a sustainable life.

I have seen great acts involving paying it forward. Recently, a teenager walked into my place of work with someone, who appeared to be her grandmother. The teenager requested that the elderly woman order whatever she pleases, and let me be real, our menu is not the cheapest. So, the elderly woman proceeds to place an order for a gyro meat plate, and I ask, just as I ask every other customer, if she would like to add three falafel balls for an extra $1.50, and the woman hesitates. The young teenager speaks over the elderly woman, stating confidently, “yes, why not? Let’s just add three falafel.” So, I continue to make the order, and while I am checking the two ladies out at the cash register, I ask if either of them would like a drink. The teenager exclaims, “let’s make it a large mint tea lemonade,” and our fresh mint tea is also the most expensive item on the menu. I proceed, regardless. The final price comes to be about $20, including tax, and the teenager quickly hands me cash. I ask if she wants any taziki or tahini sauce with her plate, and the teenager looks at the woman, and she nods, so I grab her some extra sauces and put it in a bag, with her white pita bread. I thought nothing of this, until the old woman forgets her drink. I immediately react, grabbing the drink and sprinting out the door. I see them outside the store, sharing a conversation. I quickly interrupt, I apologize for interrupting their conversation, and I hand the elderly woman her drink. During their exchange, I hear the young teenager say, “Now, enjoy your meal and have a wonderful, wonderful day!”

I am in shock and so humbled by this random act of kindness, as the elderly woman so gratefully exclaims, “Thank you so much, dear! You are a wonderful person.” I am so humbled and feel every warm emotion go through my body, as I had just witnessed such a beautiful, selfless act of kindness. As the teenager, who so kindly and graciously helped this elderly woman, begins to walk away, I have nothing to say, but, “wow, you are truly a wonderful human being. Thank you for your kindness! Keep being amazing!” 

I was left speechless, as acts like these are so rare these days, or often overlooked, or underappreciated. I even felt good after witnessing such a monumentally selfless act of love and kindness. After witnessing that, I personally realized that I should be kinder towards people, and express and act upon the act of love and kindness that exists in this world. It is true, ladies and gentlemen, love and happiness is contagious.

The feeling you get after being kind, just out of the purest intentions, is something that cannot be explained. I try to practice random acts of kindness every day, as some acts of kindness, we are even blind to. The world is much kinder to you than you perceive sometimes, just look at it with a positive perspective. Showing your love and appreciation back to the world is a great way to feel good and make others feel good.

These acts of kindness do not always need to involve money, while I do find that tipping my favorite servers, hosts, and fellow customer-service/food industry folk a little extra is one of my favorite ways to practice kindness. 

Money does not always have to be the case. Surprising someone with coffee or a small treat is always nice, but a simple, “how are you?” or “I appreciate you” text counts, as well. Paying it forward is just expressing gratitude and kindness to those around you, strangers or not, and somehow, subtly or not subtly, letting them feel good or reminding them that they are awesome. Even your presence is sometimes the only Christmas gift, or act of kindness, someone needs. Big or small, paying it forward is important!

Since this is the season of giving, why not practice your giving skills in full-force? You are kind of being forced to anyways! Try to be a little more kind towards the people around you, once again, strangers or not. Surprise someone with a compliment, or give someone a dollar. Do you craft or have any artistic abilities? Give someone a drawing or art project that you did. Love candy? Carry around some candy and hand it out to some strangers or your friends. Next time you walk by a stranger, try to smile and wave. Do you have any extra clothes or canned food around? Try to donate them to a charity, food drive, or clothes drive. Have any extra free-time? Try to volunteer your services this season. Do you have great coworkers you love? Write them a note about how much you love and appreciate them, or maybe bring in some cookies to work. Have a phone? Text your loved ones that you love them and appreciate them, and if you don’t have a phone, try emailing them that. Have a mouth? Say “thank you” to someone who does something kind for you, or just use some manners. Maybe, you could even hold the door for someone else. Do you have ears? Maybe listen to someone problems, and invest your time in trying to offer others your advice and wisdom.

Paying it forward is simple and something that you should get in the habit of year-round. There are so many ways that one could pay it forward this season, so try hard to challenge yourself to make others around you feel good and happy. Sometimes, your act of kindness could be the highlight of someone’s day and you would have no idea. Imagine catching someone off-guard by doing something so great, even if it is a small act, and that becoming the highlight of someone’s day. It is amazing.

Kindness and love are such important values to hold by your side. Watching love and kindness happen right in front of your eyes is an even more incredible view, and something that cannot be explained so simply. The purest and rarest memories you will ever have is when you are doing something kind, as a result of someone else having shown love and kindness. The concept of paying it forward emphasizes the endless cycle of kindness and love, as people often act out of kindness, as a generosity of having encountered kindness.

Christmas means you practice the act of giving, so try to get into the spirit and make it a lifelong habit to partake in. Kindness trumps all, including hate, and this world needs more love and kindness.

♡ Be the kindness you wish to see in the world, and show the people some love ♡ We all need it ♡

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

Life Hack #13 – Act Distracted

In order to run away from our problems, we distract ourselves, right? These behaviors are innate, or come naturally, to us, as we all develop avoidance techniques to avoid doing things we do not want to do, or think about.

The extremity in which we take avoidance is up to us, and depends on a lot of factors, including how severely the situation impacted our lives, timing, being prepared for the incident, etc. Avoidance behaviors can extend to developing a drug habit to simply just watching endless amounts of animal videos. It all just depends on the situation. Avoidance can come in the form of positive habits, as well, as they can also be seen as coping mechanisms.

The key to staying afloat is developing strong coping skills, which, in the end, may take a lifetime. In order to develop strong and healthy coping skills, it requires you to get to know yourself. Everything these days seems to be about getting to know yourself, but in order to find out what you truly like, in order to replace old, poor, and broke habits, this is a requirement. Avoiding or dealing with uncomfortable situations already sucks, so why replace a old, broken habit with another old, broken habit that you DO EVEN LIKE?

As you continue learning more and more about yourself, you slowly begin developing coping skills that you can use to avoid situations, in which you do not feel comfortable. However, avoiding forever is not healthy either – as this can become severly unhealthy for an individual. Finding hobbies or activities, such as our school work, joining clubs, volunteering, coloring, cleaning, hiking, running, swimming, working, etc. all count as coping mechanism skills to handle the unique stressors in our life. The great thing about coping mechanism skills is that we can grow and build on them, starting off as just a doodler, I am now a self-proclaimed, full-time color guru. I love coloring!

In order to avoid, for example, having to hear someone say rude things about you, instead of grabbing the nearest bottle (unless it’s water, juice, or non-alcoholic), maybe you grab a book instead. We all have excuses to act distracted, whether it be a upcoming test, avoiding a frenemy, or just life being stressful.

The key to upkeeping these activities and staying distracted from the white noise is finding things that ACTUALLY WORK FOR YOU and enforcing them into your life. While this may not be easy and you may find yourself falling back into old, nasty habits, as soon as you begin scheduling these things in and truly thinking about your actions before you proceed, you will find that there is plenty of room for these activities in your life. Being bored is a choice – you have a choice about the way you feel and how you would like to proceed making you feel better. Short-term satisfaction feels great in the moment, but does it truly last? The first and final answer is “no.”

In order to truly feel the satisfaction that you crave from life, you must exert the amount of effort you wish to receive back. This cliché most of the time is correct, IN THE LONG-TERM. Long-term goals are not supposed to be easily reached, as they will take a LONG time to truly engrain in your mind, in order to master the coping skill.

The best times to act distracted: when you feel your heart rate rising, your thoughts are beginning to race, and you find yourself in a pickle.

While being distracted has its’ negative connotation, sometimes you can find mindfulness in your distractions. Sometimes dwelling on our thoughts and problems obsessively is not the best way to handle life, and EVERY SINGLE INDIVIDUAL HAS A UNIQUE, MASTERED WAY TO AVOID, AND THEREFORE, HANDLE THEIR PAINFUL THOUGHTS AND LIFE.

The realest challenge about this is sticking with it and wanting to do it for yourself. At first, doing things for others may seem easy, but after a while, your true colors do show. Do these distractions for yourself and you will find permanent fufillment in these activities.

Coping mechanisms skills are important, as our lives will not be a breeze forever. We will hit bumps in the road quite frequently and we will need to find ways to deal with this. The path you take, healthy or unhealthy, is ultimately up to you. The amount of power you have over your life is incredible; you have the ability to control every action and reaction you make towards life. To abuse this priviledge, while it is common, is a waste. Do not spend your ENTIRE life wasting it with mindless, unmeaningful things, but fill it with the mindful, meaningful experiences you deserve.

Feed your soul the new hobbies and activities it needs to flourish. Do not let your precious skills be put to waste! Or, do let the fear of trying something new, get in the way of staying distracted. Once you have learned how to actively and productively distract yourself, there is truly no stopping you, OTHER THAN YOU.

Who knows…these distractions could lead to new opportunities, friendships, memories, and experiences. You have no idea that your little hobby or obsession can take form as, as it could be something that could whisp you off your feet.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

Life Hack #12 – Study Tips

Whether you’re juggling a job and attending a university, one universal trait that college students can commune on is the ability to maintain a strong semester. It’s tiresome, even those who attend universities with a quarter system, or perhaps a trimester system. It’s extremely difficult to maintain your strong momentum, starting and ending strong without getting lazy. It is just as easy to begin the semester strong as it is to end the semester on a week note, and vice versa, of course. At some points, you have meltdowns because another universal ideology that all college students universally share is that you want the best grade possible – whether it be a D, barely passing, or an A, being an successful student. While grades do not define you, in order to graduate from your undergraduate or graduate college, you must pass your classes. Let me be the first to say that getting good grades does not only make it financially fulfilling, but also personally fulfilling.

Finals and midterms seem like the most popular time to have these so-called “mental breakdowns,” as you have simply lost what seems like all of your motivation or care, snd finding yourself not wanting to keep up the excellent effort you have been putting forward. I am suggestible to these year-round, no matter how many classes I am taking, I am stressed because I want the best grade possible, without making silly mistakes.

Silly mistakes, such as forgetting a assignment, not being prepared for a midterm or exam, are things that should not hold you back. As my brother once told me, college is a numbers game – you do not want to a zero on your grade report. It is always beneficial to turn in “wrong work,” or an incomplete assignment, than it is to not turn it in at all. Zeros are bad – way worse than a 30%, which i have received in my collegiate career, because mythology goes that grading in college is much different than high-school and that great grades are harder to attain. My dad keeps telling me that I just need to pass the class, but another tip he told me was to study smart, stop obsessing over details.

Interestingly enough from the guy who gave me a mug that says “hardwork never killed anyone, so why try?” (aka my dad), I thought this was good advice. While it is important to do readings (yes, as you begin upper division classes reading is important as fudge), sometimes long readings and lectures cannot be fully consumed and it is important to learn to note the most important aspects of the articles. Details are important, but understanding and soaking up the material is much more manageable for studying and learnig purposes. Similarly, you can always go back to looking over details. Do remember to take good notes the first time however on your readings, lectures, videos, etc., so when reviewing them you do not need to re-read the entire document. Another important key to long readings and lectures is to do a portion of reviewing every day if possible. This will make finishing strong much easier, as you have been going over the material already.

Staying on top of things, not people, is the most important aspect in achieving your academic goals for your school year. Stay focused and keep the ball moving, not even letting a bad grade get in your way. As my friend told me today, hard work reaps benefits so do your best to constantly remind yourself of your end goal, which will lead to so much self-fulfillment you can sleep at night, or most nights.

Also, staying on top of things does not mean constantly procrastinating, but being able to meet the due date. As noted before, do a reasonable amounts of work every day to complete your weeks assignments, and perhaps you could also try to jumpstart ahead. Being ahead is never a bad thing, as long as you stay updated on the current information. So, do not forget to review current materials from your current lecture, while simultaneously working ahead.

A truly helpful tip is to try to go beyond memorizing the material and applying it to real life examples, or other classes. In order to truly succeed, internalizing information and truly understanding concepts is essential, or simply more self-fufillling. It most certainly takes more time to spend time understanding and digesting the material, but in the long-run, especially during finals week and midterms, it is important to understand the material beyond simple definitions.

An important aspect of success is tests, or exams. I will recommend making notecards, if it is applicable for the test. Perhaps, even utilizing Quizlet on your mobile phone or on your laptop. I find it easier for myself to write them out or utilize Quizlet on my phone. For those of you who are not familiar with Quizlet, it is an application that allows you to make digital notecards, allowing you to test yourself and play memory games with the terms or phrases that you are attempting to study. Since we spend so much time on our mobile applications, we may as well utilize an application that lets us study practically 24/7. Constantly reviewing notecards, through Quizlet mobile or online, or simply just reviewing your handwritten notecards will serve as completely beneficial in your memory skills. Quizlet is great, because it allows you to play games with your allotted terms and concepts noted on your notecards.

Word to the wise, for tests and exams, not only is it important to not cram, but it is important that where you study and where you take the exam is quiet, and most importantly, you are comfortable. Whether it be with a friend, alone at the library, etc., find somewhere where you can feel safe to study. For me, I enjoy renting out an individual study room at my local university library, studying at home alone – I find these places great environments to stay productive, as much as possible. Try to spend at least one day a week at the library, honestly, I would suggest more days. The more frequently you begin attending the library, the more likely you are to complete and do better academically. While studying at home, you are prone to many distractions and the library just forces you to sit there. If a library is not your scene, try a local coffee shop or a local library (not your school library), visiting these options allow for more ability to concetrate with much less distractions, because even the school library can get overwhelming seasonally.

Yes, it will suck in the moment, but I am taking it millisecond by millisecond, at the moment. Pushing myself beyond levels that I never knew I could be pushed to, but I do school for myself and try to make learning as enjoyable as possible. Sometimes, this is a problem as we all want to absorb all the material possible, but do not have time.

A grand, old, classic tip is to look at your syllabus ahead of time, staying updatd on current assignments, in order to know when things are coming up. I suggest looking at the entire syllabus, or maybe a month’s worth of work, and grabbing a planner and writing all this information down. Knowing what is to come ahead and when it is coming up is important and lets you plan ahead before the assignment is due. Maybe, once again, you can get a head-start on an assignment. Planners and calendars are reccommended.

This is when good time-management and prioritizing comes handy. Of course, sometimes circumstances come up, but it should be our goal to finish our obligations, whether we enjoy them or not. We signed up for them. Prioritizing is an extremely important lifeskill I am still learning. It is incredibly difficult, as time-management and priorities go hand-in-hand. I usually try to prioritize my hardest, most rigorous assignments immediately over smaller, less difficult assignments. This has proved to be the most efficient. Also, if you have smaller assignments that can be finished in a short amount of time and lack utter concentration – start them and try to complete them. This takes a lot of stress off your plate. Beginning assignments early and breaking them down is basically the underlying concept behind time-management. A to-do list or a calendar are useful to have around to remind you of what you need to get done for the week, or the month. This is also where planning gets involved. Planning, another important aspect of life, allows you the freedom to have a little less stress in your life, as you can plan obligations, schoolwork, etc. visually for yourself. Visual aids of things that need to get done allow you to tackle one thing at a time. If I have a lot on my plate, I make it a goal to at least accomplish 3 things off of my to-do list, minimum.

While you may spend hours grinding it at out on all your subjects, do not forget to eat, stay hydrated and take study breaks. These are all important in retaining information. Similarly, try to get your sleep schedule on a proper cycle, as that plays a big role in mood, behavior, and your academics. Sleep is important, as it recharges our internal batteries, just like good food does.

Also, think about laying off the booze and picking up some more sober activities. While a couple glasses of wine or a few beers never hurt anybody (this is a lie statistically – so, I apologize), there’s no need to go all out. These intense celebratory festivities can be partaken much less frequently and toward the end of the semester. Do not get me wrong – I am not not condoning partying. I love a great glass of red wine or a Kolsch, but I am simply not going to the club every night until 2 a.m. Talk about taking a toll on your bodily functions, life, responsibilities, mood, behavior – to. name a few. Lay off for a little, and save these times as celebrations. There’s no real reason you must be partying every night – it is possible and it is fun, but it just makes school that much more harder and stressful for me, at least.

You know how when you party you meet random strangers? I find this experience useful in classes, as they are utilized as a way to get to know the strangers, or other students, I will be spending the next few months learning from, sitting next to, etc. Think about it, as if you were in a party environment, drunk or sober. You usually form bonds with random strangers, this can be come extremely beneficial to have companions in class. In contrast to having friendships with strangers for one night, or one hour, you can build a relationship with fellow peers, who can help one another with school and life problems. It’s a 2 in 1 package deal that no one can pass op on.

Can you say relationship with professor – And, no i. do not mean an intimate one. I mean building a relationship with both the professor and the teacher assistant is also a vital key to maintaining consistency with your studies. Not only do you get to know them personally, but having access to resources who are willing to help is an incredible opportunity we need to utilize.This service is especially helpful when you are not understanding a concept within the class. Similarly, it shows effort in your part that you are trying beyond the means of jus the lecture, notes and books. Professors do not expect everyone to understand everything and they are there to help – they are very similar to academic advisors who provide resources of help about one’s degree, among other things. You should also build relationships with them and visit them at least once a semester. They offer free guidance and can help you finish your undergraduate degree in the most efficient way. Do not forget to utilize these people – they are your best friend. Friends are not generally afraid to ask other friends questions, are they? So, neither should you.

These are my tips for how to get through the tough times of college and I hope you enjoy!

What are your suggestions for succeeding in academics? Let me know.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

5 Times Hannah Montana’s Songs Taught Me How To Live Life

How many times have you disregarded Hannah Montana as your mentor? I bet you have not internalized the lessons and the messages that her music portrays. Hannah Montana is my mentor and continues to teach me more and more about how I should live my life.

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  1. Nobody’s Perfect
    • “Nobody’s perfect, you live and you learn it,” she sings. Hannah Montana nailed it, as we are all obsessed with the idea of being perfect self, based on our own values, beliefs, morals, and expectations. While our idea of perfectionism is relative to each person, we all share the general idea that we want to be the most successful and happy versions of ourselves. However, life does not work like that, otherwise, life would be fairly boring and fairly perfect. If everything and everyone was perfect, what would be have to work for and live for? We need to face adversity in order to live our most fufilling lives. Most situations in our lives will not turn out perfectly, nor will we, as human beings. But, this is okay! She tells us that it is okay for us all to make mistakes, because “everybody makes mistakes.” In addition to all these lessons, she reminds us to be gentle with ourselves, as expecting ourselves to be perfect at all times is irrational.
      • So, “next time you feel like it’s just one of those days, when you just can’t seem to win…if things don’t turn out the way you planned figure something else out…Don’t stay down, try again, yeah!” Talk about motivating! Hannah Montana, or Miley Cyrus, as she is known to most, is right. Figure something else out, do not stay down! The longer you stay down, the harder things will be to fix. Regardless of that, NOBODY IS PERFECT. Challenge our society and accept the imperfections of life, and figure out another way around the obstacle you are facing. If Hannah says that we are not perfect, and that it is okay not to be perfect, because no one else is perfect, IT MUST BE THE TRUTH. Learn it, believe it and live it. WOOOOOOO!
  2. Life’s What You Make It
    • “Life’s what you make it, so let’s make it right – MAKE IT RIGHT!” Hannah Montana chants this throughout the entire song, and the chorus is indeed right, as life is what you make it. Instead of making it left, or making it wrong, or not fun, Hannah Montana encourages us to make the best out of life, as the power is in our hands! Even when a situation is not the way we planned, as individuals, we have the power to make the best out of every situation, if we so please to. If we want to make our life left, or not fun, then we also have the power to do this, as well. As human beings, we control most aspects of our lives, or at least the way we can react to them.
      • “Don’t let no small frustration ever bring you down!
        No, no, no, no
        Just take a situation and turn it all around.” Basically, this song is an anthem to teach us that the power of our the reality of own lives are in our own hands. This is a lot of power to turn things around. Do not let the small frustrations, bring you down! Find another way around this obstacle we call life, and keep it positive.
      • “Life’s what you make it, SO LET’S MAKE IT ROCK!!!!” Never forget this!!
  3. The Best Of Both Worlds
    • “You get the best of both worlds…
      Chill it out, take it slow, then you rock out the show.
      You get the best of both worlds
      Mix it all together, and you know that it’s the best of both worlds.” While we are not rockstars like Hannah Montana & Miley Cyrus, we are made up of multiple components of “self,” within our selves. Crazy, right? This song teaches me to learn to balance having fun and “chillin’ it out, and taking it slow.” It is important to find a happy medium, as we all know that Hannah Montana transforms into Miley when she wants to chill it out and take it slow. We can all experience the best of both worlds, if we can carefully execute our decision making process and prioritize correctly, incorporating our responsibilities and our fun. The best life we live is when we are able to live the best of both worlds within our own world. Maybe, we do not rock it out on stage like Hannah Montana, or see Orlanda Bloom at a movie premiere, but we still do know how to PARTY, or have fun. If you do attend movie premieres and rock out on stage like Hannah Montana, then more power to you – this song probably relates to you very closely. Just like Miley must find a balance within her two lives, we must find a balance within our life, juggling our fun times with our responsibilities.
  4. Rockstar
    • This one is a personal favorite. We’ve all had a crush, who may not pay as much attention to us, even though we all deserve all the attention in the world. Hannah Montana teaches us not to wait around for these fools, who we try to dress up for and look cute for. But, Hannah Montana, once again teaches us that, well…we might just be a rockstar. So, who cares about these losers, am I right?
      • “I’m unsual, not so typical, way too smart to be waiting around. Tai chi practicing, snowboard champion, I could fix flat on your car…I might even be a rockstar.” We all fall for someone, who truly does not know who we are and barely notices, and that is okay. But, Hannah Montana empowers us all by telling us that we are much cooler than these people try to define us as (A.K.A. unnoticeable). What if we were all rockstars like Hannah Montana? We all are rockstars, FOR SURE, but maybe we don’t perform on stage like Hannah does. That is okay – our self worth should not be based on what we think these imbeciles think we are. We are actually much cooler than we are even being acknowledged as!! Hannah Montana achieves the greatest form of empowerment. Do not wait for these loonies to notice you, because you are worth much more than waiting around for them to notice you. Focus your attention on those around you who already think you are just as cool as you are!
  5. The Climb
    • “But, I keep trying, gotta keep my head held high. There’s always going to be another mountain, I’m always going to want to make it move. Always going to be an uphill battle, sometimes I’m gonna have to lose. Ain’t about how fast I get there, ain’t about what’s waiting on the other side. It’s the climb!” This is one of Hannah Montana’s most beautiful pieces, as it MOSTLY puts me to tears. It is quite motivating, as she belts out that no matter what challenges we face, we must keep fighting and keep going. She emphasizes that it does not matter how fast we accomplish our goals, but to keep pushing past our insecurities and the challenges we face, in order to achieve our goals and dreams. In order to get through life, we need a thick skin and need to be able to move past all the challenges we are faced with. Sometimes, we do not always win, even though we may be fighting the good fight. This is okay – you may be knocked down, but do not give up!!
      • “The struggles I’m facing, the chances I’m taking, sometimes might knock me down, but NO, I am not breaking. I may not know it, but these are the moments that I’m gonna remember most, yeah. Just gotta keep going!” She teaches us to “stay strong and keep pushing on,” as life is a tireless battle when you are fighting for your dreams. Keep believing in yourself, no matter if you are winning or losing. The idea of this song is genuinely beautiful and very substantial, as we all need reminders that achieving our dreams and goals is not an easy feat. Whenever you are feeling insecure or unsure about your life, just continue battling – we are all warriors!OK FOR ALL YOU DIE HARD HANNAH MONTANA FANS, I KNOW THE CLIMB IS TECHNICALLY PERFORMED BY MILEY CYRUS. Just know that “The Climb” deserves to be recognized. AND, IT WAS IN THE HANNAH MONTANA – SO SHUSH.

These are some of my all-time favorite Hannah Montana songs that have taught me to live the life I live. I try to enforce all these lessons into my life, in order to live the PHENOMENAL LIFE I LIVE!! WOOOOOOO! Hannah Montana is not underrated, or just for kids. Hannah Montana/Miley Cyrus has some important ideas she is trying to spread, so join me on the journey of uncovering all the lessons that her songs depict. Hannah Montana lives on! SHE IS A LEGEND! SHE IS MY MENTOR!!!

WOOO!! YEAH! YEAH! YEAH!

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

P.S. The links to the official Hannah Montana/Miley Cyrus’ musicc videos are accessible for convenient viewing, just with the click of the song title. So, if you are feeling nostalgic, click on the name of the song and the official video will come up!
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Life Hack #10 – Juggling Act

How do you find balance in this world? How does one maintain a healthy, mind, body and soul with all the stressors and responsiblities we face?

Here’s a cliche, “You need to find balance in your life.” I interpret this as managing your time to healthily find time for yourself, while maintaing your responsibilities and your stressors. This is something that we all struggle with, as we have circumstances, such as deadlines, due dates, and daily obligations. Most of us work hard and often forget the detrimental affectst of not finding balance within your life.

Balance can include:

  1. Balancing spending time alone – Relax, spend time with yourself, and RELAX. Do your activities and hobbies you enjoy, or simply lay in bed. Paint your nails, read a book, and pamper yourself. Constantly being by yourself, or intentionally isolating yourself, can become detrimental to your health, so try to once again find a happy medium of both spending time with others and yourself. Of course, you should always put your needs, especially involving self-care, first. After all, this your life and your health we are talking about. However, spending time alone allows for one not to just get to know yourself and allows you to simply relax. You may also begin to acquire the skill of being indepedent. In a sense, you learn to hold your own. Being an independent person is something  that you need to survive and be successfully happy as a human being, not saying that it will always be comfortable though.
    In this sense, you also need to learn to take care of yourself and put yourself first. Make sure that your health (mental and physical) needs are being met, making time to practice exercise, eating well, stay hydrated, establish a healthy sleep cycle, in order to avoid an overall, panic attack. In this sense, learning to spend time with yourself is very important. If you are not taking care of yourself and spending time with yourself, this could lead to detrimental effects that may have affect you in long run, and NOT BENEFICIALLY.
  2. With that said, spending time with friends is extremely important – Isolation and avoidant behavior may leave you feeling lonely and alone, and it is not healthy. People need people, whether they are friends are not. Human beings thrive off of the energy that others expend, whether you know it or not. Spending too much time with friends and becoming codependent on eachother is not healthy either, so learn to set boundaries with your tribe and do not consume all your time with your friends. The more codependent you become on others, the more toxic the relationship becomes. As I mentioned before, independence is an important aspect of growing up and a vital quality to live the best life possible. Codependency almost leads to fear of doing activities without any companions, which is not a healthy habit to develop. While friends are important, it is also supremely important to find a balance with prioritizing yourself and making time for your friends, as these are both important aspects of learning the balancing act of life.

    So, another instance when finding balance comes into play…

  3. Make sure to find time to spend time doing fun – Overworking yourself and consuming your time completing these obligations is impressive and your duty. But, letting your life become these obligations will lead to a path that may cause more harm than benefits. Do not forget admist your obligations that it is important to make time to have fun. Having fun, outside of work or school, is important, as everyone deserves a break to have a little fun. It keeps one happy, more motivated, but requires the skill of planning. On your days off of school or work, try to utilize these days to do something that YOU LIKE TO DO, that may not be considered an obligation. Planning a trip with friends or simply going to Happy Hour every once in a while can help one maintain a healthy state of mind.
  4. Make sure to complete your obligations and work hard – This is an counterargument to the previous statement. Obligations are obligations , and my definition of an obligation is something that you must complete. It is not an option, it’s simply something one must do. Yes, we have our hard days and feel helpless to the fact that live is hard, however, missing and avoiding obligations by prioritizing fun also has its cons. You must learn to embrace your daily obligations, and it’s ultimately up to you whether or not you will complete them. Unfortunately, life can not be as forgiving as we would like it to be sometimes. In addition, one must work hard in order to achieve your goals and hard work builds character. Work hard at whatever obligation you are doing, because it is more fufilling and rewarding to produce exceptional work, leading to exceptional results that will favor you. Life, unfortunately, does not hand us everything on a golden, glittery plate, so if you want to TRULY achieve your long-term, or even your short-term goals, it requires more effort and commitment from you as an individual. Not to mention, why live a mediocre life when you could live a fufilling, more successful life working hard?I don’t know about you, but I thoroughly enjoy working hard. It is not for others, but for myself. Exerting 100% into everything that you do leaves you with no regrets, even if your results may not turn out the way you want it to be. While a rigorous schedule can serve as a positive factor, constantly living a life of rigor, such as overworking, for an extended period of time with no breaks will lead to an absolute meltdown. As I mentioned before, utilize your planning skills and try to find balance within your work, school, etc. obligations. Constantly being on overdrive, while it is impressive and may lead to successful results, truly affects one’s mental wellbeing. While we all have our lazy days, try your hardest to challenge yourself and exert the most effort capable. I promise, if anything, you will experience fufillment.

I can not juggle very well, or at all, but hopefully, we can develop some core strength and find some balance within our lives. Who said juggling would be easy?

Try to discover your inner Yin & Yang.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

Filling In The Blank Spaces

So, recently, I have taken a hiatus from blogging all together, as the stressors of both being a full-time student and a full-time employee has taken over my life. The last four years of my life have been extremely confusing and extremely difficult to deal with, as I was faced with having to deal with a lot more trauma than I even have come to remember. Now, I am sitting here four years later, kind of laughing about the trauma I had encountered, but slowly realizing the incredible impact it has made on my life.

To say this year has been easy IS A COMPLETE FALSE STATEMENT. I thought 2017 was going to be my year, and while it has been a year to remember, it will be remembered as a year that I will never forget.

To be a little clearer about trauma, over the course of the last 3 years, I have lost a total of 10 companions, all near and dear to my heart, a loss of a bunny. The loss of each and every soul really took a toll on me, as death is still something I am not able to comprehend. Speaking of near death experiences, at one point, I believe March 2015, I had my life threatened in front of my eyes. I also witnessed my best friend’s life threatened right in front of my eyes – not kidding, we made a close interaction with a gun and a knife. To say that I have processesed and made peace with the fact that a gun and knife was millimeters away from my own body would be a lie. Similarly, having to watch my best friend experience the same thing is something I try not to remember.

There were of course other instances of abuse, too many for me to remember, that I experienced in that portion of my life, but I prefer not to go into detail about that. Similarly, I faced spouts of cyberbullying and bullying and harrassment of all sorts – it was an intense last four years to say the least.

I am not victim, just speaking outloud.

Of course, going through every extreme detail of my life events would take a lifetime, especially with what had happened over the course of this short time span. To put it into perspective, it was more than a rollercoaster ride, filled with what seemed like more bumps than smooth pathways. But, honestly, these are all just memories in the past, why should they matter now? Why are they coming back to haunt me again, and again?

Honestly, my best coping mechanism is usually repression and avoidance techniques, usually overworking myself beyond my limits and avoiding my friends and family. Also, I am a firm believer of repressing my emotions and expressing my pain in forms of humor, rather than asking for help. WHILE THESE ARE GREAT AND ALL, ONE MUST FACE THEIR DEMONS AT SOME POINT AND THEY WILL FOLLOW YOU.

I guess it took me a while to settle down, because now, after FOUR YEARS, I am just now dealing with the reprucussions of my life experiences, experiencing things that have led me to spend days crying on end, so anxious I do not know what to do, and trying to find myself beyond on that clutter. It’s funny, though – I think about all these traumatic things now and have found myself baffled at how long I pushed these feelings aside. I am not a very emotional person, or one who speaks about their emotions. Due to my upbringing, I really believe that it does not matter whether it is a bad day or a good day, I will still outwardly appear and present myself like nothing is wrong. I am sure after my lengthy 12-hour panic/anxiety attacks, I probably do not appear as put together, but I sure pretend to do so, and TO THE BEST OF MY ABILITIES. However, looking back on it now, I do regret not seeking or speaking out very openly about these experiences, whether it would have been from self-doubt, embarrassment, or fear. BUT, SERIOUSLY, I SPEND DAYS WONDERING WHEN THIS PAIN AND AGONY WILL GO AWAY. TIME IS SUPPOSED TO HEAL EVERYTHING, BUT UGH. (*INSERT EVERY CUSS WORD POSSIBLE*) I am not going to lie I do feel like the craziest bitch in my town, and while this may not be true, I do feel this way.

As I am NOW even more confused than when I was in any of those instances, I have realized a few things about trauma and dealing with your emotions in a healthy way. (Yes, there is a point to this blog post, I promise).

Here are ways you can rub some dirt into your wounds, when you are feeling vulnerable:

  1. SPEND TIME WITH YOURSELF- BUT, NOT TOO MUCH TIME – this is where I go wrong all the time. Too much time by yourself can put you in a dangerous state of overthinking, which can lead to irrational thoughts or behaviors, even paranoia. Reflecting on your reality, or your past, can be healthy as you are able to revisit memories and experiences. This can help you get to know yourself better, as that is always important when dealing with a hard time.
  2. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH LOVE – This is also difficult for me, as I try to be the most independent, strong person for me and my loved ones. The strength of love and friendship goes very far with the process of healing, and dealing with traumatic experiences, or even a bad day, is easier with company sometimes. The great thing about good company and friends is that they will love you NO MATTER WHAT. Even if you are a complete looney, or at least feel like one, this does not matter for your true friends, they will be there for you every step of the way. THIS IS SOMETHING I TEND TO FORGET.
  3. DO SEEK HELP, OR AT LEAST TELL SOMEONE ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE EXPERIENCING – No, this does not mean that you need to seek a psychiatrist, a mental hospital, ect. But, perhaps therapy or just telling your parents or close companions about what you are experiencing will help alleviate the stress of having to deal with things on your own. Perhaps, they can provide you with some guidance or advice, or simply just be there for you. KEEPING THIS SHIT INSIDE OF YOU IS TOXIC AND WILL TURN OUT TO BE A BIGGER CHALLENGE YOU NEED TO OVERCOME. STOP PROCRASTINATING!!!
  4. DO NOT FALL OUT OF RESPONSIBILITIES – While it is important to take time to heal, completely isolating yourself from work, school, or family responsibilities will not help the situation. Exposure, while it may be hard on the inside and outside, is the best way to deal with anxiety or stress sometimes. Exposure helps me realize that I am capable of a lot more than I even imagined.
  5. BE KIND TO YOURSELF – You are an amazing composition of the most unique and incredible genetics that you could ever ask for, whether you know it or not. You possess qualities and strengths that are completely unique to you, and you are not any less significant if you end up having to deal with these problems. YOU DO NOT NEED TO BE YOUR VERSION, OR ANYONE ELSE’S VERSION OF PERFECT, BECAUSE THAT IS NOT POSSIBLE.
  6. BRANCH OUT AND FIND NEW HOBBIES (AKA ADVENTURE/EXPERIMENT WITH YOUR LIFE) – Just because it may not be the easiest time for you, uncomfortability is always something beautiful, because most often you are forced out of your comfort zone, which usually leads to finding new hobbies or passions you may have. This sense of “new” can replace the “old” feelings that you fealt, as a result of your bad day or experiences. Try something fun or out of the ordinary!
  7. PAY IT FORWARD – This one truly resonates with me. Not feeling so great about yourself? Try making someone else’s day better and pay it forward with a smile, kindness, happiness, or a joke. Help someone else out. This most definitely is one of my favorite ways to get out of my jams.
  8. STAY AWAY FROM THE NEGATIVITY – Yes, so cliche. I know. But, truly, staying away from negative things that can cloud your judgement and your own personal happiness is important. Falling into new habits that are beneficial, though they may be unfamiliar and uncomfortable, is something that will end up helping you in the long run. It may not even just be bad habits, but bad things that trigger you. The most important thing is to try your best to develop ways to handle being triggered, but if you can avoid circumstances where you know that it will lead to bad decisions, stay away from these, PLEASE. These negative reinforcers are only distractions – simplify your own life.

As I continue breathing another day, I will not say that every day is easy – in fact, most days are hard, as I deal with flashbacks, nightmares, extreme shakes, extreme stress sweats (which smell so bad), and deal with horrible social anxiety, among other things. Every day I wake up though, knowing that there is a reason I am still here and knowing that I am loved. We all have to spend time healing and getting to know ourselves, and through repression and constant negative distractors I was able to escape my reality. To be honest, my reality was very, very scary for me at one point, and it still is.

It takes a huge amount of courage every day to wake up and face your world, so never forget to give yourself a pat on the back. And, do not forget to cherish those beautiful moments that make you smile when you haven’t smiled for a while, or laugh when you haven’t laughed for a while. Just like the bad experiences, good ones are important too. So, admist the difficulty, try to see beyond what is bothering you and try to make your day as a best as you can. THIS CAN BE HARD AND TIRING, BUT DO NOT BELIEVING.

BECAUSE, YOU CAN DO IT.

As I continue battling my own inner demons, I will hopefully get back to religiously blogging, and through my own struggles, can be a glimmer of hope for those who may be dealing with some hard times. WE ARE IN IT TOGETHER.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

 

 

Life Hack #6 – Look Back At It!

Every once in a while, it is important to take a step back, look at the life you have created for yourself, and your current reality, and count your blessings. They say, “never look back,” but sometimes looking back is alright, in moderation, of course!

Do not spend too much time lingering on the past, but sometimes it can truly be rewarding and exciting to take a look at how far you have come, even in the last few days. Every day, we should be growing, learning, and experiencing, and as a result, growing and learning from our experiences. Or, at least that is what I think.

Looking back can in a sense put a positive, motivating perspective and incentive in front of you, as you take a look back at how much the small steps to making changes are making a difference. You have incentives to continue growing when you look back, as we all want to keep growing and adapting to becoming the best versions of ourselves.

Looking back not only allows us to build incentives to continue growing, but it also provides us a sense of awareness. As you look back on things you may consider errors, or things you may have been successful at, or maybe things you want to change about yourself, you build a sense of awareness for not only yourself, but an awareness of others and your daily environments. Looking back on things can truly allow you to unlock your brain, allowing you to access your deepest thoughts. Two of the biggest things that scare individuals of all ages and genders is the past and the future. While looking back can be seen as not being mindful, I think that it is healthy to reminisce or not reminisce about things that have occurred in the past.

Once again, looking back for too long will not only strain your neck, but it can be damaging towards your personal well-being. You do not want to stay hung up on the same issues for years – you want to be able to move on and leave some baggage behind. I believe in a healthy moderation that looking back can allow you to truly access some repressed memories and feelings, and in return, allow you to move forward. Sometimes, in order to move forward, you must go backwards.

If you do not spend time addressing things that you are simply putting off, the burden of holding your emotions in and addressing the issue will build up inside of you. In turn, you will face some long-term consequences from this behavior. As much as we wish to simply silence our worries and fears for the future and the past, I have learned that this is simply impossible. This can mean taking two steps back when you were making progress, to even just simply speaking about the past. As humans, we will all face hardships in our pasts that we barely speak of and experience failures; these are inevitable parts of life. Allowing myself to personally access memories of the past that I have been repressing for years, was one of the most healthiest things I could ever do. Some people do not like talking about their past or their hardships, and I am one of those people. I spent many years repressing this information and my emotions, which in turn led to many self-destructive behaviors and a lack of stability within my life, as I had picked up negative coping mechanism skills. However, by falling back and looking back, I was able to move forward, continue growing, and continue challenging myself every day. Looking back at it can be challenging, but sometimes it is the only way to move forward.

Do not let your past haunt you, but be willing to speak about it to your nearest source of trust and learn to handle your past with care, and with a positive, motivating outlook. Taking a step back every once in a while to recognize your past and how much you have grown is an amazing feeling. Sometimes, the past may be filled with harsh, crude memories, but do not let it cloud your mind. Unlocking your past is one of the most proactive ways of moving forward, because as I said before, you need to look back, in order to move forward. Ignoring your past, which may or may not have included hardships, will lead to a life full of a lack of self-awareness, a lack of motivation, and will lead to behaviors that may become detrimental to your life. Do not dwell too long on your past, but spend time acknowledging it for however long feels necessary. This is important in the game of growth and personal happiness. Looking back serves more purpose than one.

I just took a full month to simply look back at how far I have come in the last few days, even the last six months, and the growth is exponential. I truly think the most rewarding part about thinking about the past is looking at my own personal growth, and not ignoring the things that I need to work on in different aspects of my life. I may need to work on a lot of things, as we are all human, however, I have more of a sense of the importance of getting in touch with my past. We all need something to compare ourselves to something, and while comparing ourselves to others is not a viable option, our past-version of ourselves is a great viable option.

Though you may not acknowledge it, even in the last 24-hours you have changed a little bit, just due to the fact that you have gained more experience just by living. The growth may not be exponential or noticeable, but humans are constantly changing, adapting and growing just simply by living out their daily routines. Sometimes, we like to compare our current version of ourselves to a version of ourselves from years ago, or even days ago. This is a good game you can play with yourself. Thoroughly examining your past during various points in your life, and asking yourself questions about what you used to be like, who your friends were, what your hobbies were, etc. allows you to gain a certain understanding about the kind of person you are, the kind of company you keep, what is important to you, what your skills are, etc. It truly allows you some time to think about your priorities, as well, among other positive things. In addition, it allows you to gauge what aspects of your life you have grown in, as well as, to acknowledge areas where improvement is needed or has not been made. Please, do not even bother trying to compare yourself with others. If you maybe see traits in others that you may respect or would like to work on, than that is different. When comparing yourself to a past version of yourself, a great tip is to think of the most ideal, or a loosely perfect, version of yourself. What do you see? Do you see a positive, outgoing person? A more secluded, happier version of yourself? Do you see a person constantly surrounded by people? What are traits you would like to exude and work on? These are all questions you can ask yourself. The more you examine yourself and continue to experience, the more answers you will get for yourself

Being self-aware allows for less surprises in the long-run, as certain behaviors or tendencies that may be negative or positive will soon become acknowledged, and hopefully allow for some room to change. This self-awareness extends onto others, as you become more self-aware about the way you make others feel. If you are constantly negative, acknowledging and changing that habit will not only make you feel better, but it will also make others feel better. I believe that being self-aware allows you to become the most comfortable, most confident version of yourself. This comfortability and confidence will exude onto others. Note that the sooner you are happier with yourself, the sooner you can begin making others exceedingly joyous.

Gauging your past should be done with a trusted source, and also a person who can emotionally, physically, and mentally be present, who also is able to help. Some situations in our past are bigger than you, your friends, and even your parents. That is okay, though. There are resources out there that allow you to seek professional help, if that is what is needed. Also, seeing a therapist is something I would recommend to anyone, because who does not love blowing off some steam? I certainly do.

The real question now is why not look back @ it?

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

Job Interview Protocols

The whole process of getting a job can be long and tiring, sometimes I want to quit after looking at the application or my resume. This is normal though!

Sometimes, we are all lucky enough to get a job interview after submitting a completed application. The application or resume process is honestly much easier, however, the job interview is key. The interview is a way for your potential employer to get to know you more personally, and succeeding at the job interview can be confusing, difficult, and sometimes it can even be easy.

Here are some protocals for your job interview that will at least give you better odds that you will either get a second interview, or potentially the job.

  1. Dress Appropriately – A job interview is one time when you should truly be worried about whether you are dressed appropriately. You need to dress the part and present yourself exceptionally, so they can form an opinion of whether you are taking the job seriously. The way you dress should reflect the job position you are applying for, and you should present yourself accordingly. Regardless of the kind of job, you should always dress formally. Business casual is okay for more relaxed working environments. Formal is always key and owning a blazer or two would not be such a bad idea. Do not wear cleavage-bearing tops, form fitting items, sheer items, and maybe try a button-up and some loafers. Dressing nicely is also a form of respect, showing whether you truly value the job, so it could come off as a poor representation of your self. Plus, it is quite rude to be under-dressed. In addition to not being undressed, you do not want yourself wearing anything too extravagant. Keep it simple, and use mellow tones – this is not a fashion show. You need to come off as clean, dressing wildly has its’ places, but that is not at a job interview.
  2. ORAL HYGIENE – This one is self-explanatory. Since you will be formally meeting someone, it is important that you brush your teeth right before your interview. No, it does not mean that job interviews are the only time you should brush your teeth. But, you do not want to be radiating weird smells from the leftover tuna you ate right before the interview. As I said above, keep it clean, in every sense and form of the word. You do not want to give them any reasons not to want to talk to you. This one kind of goes on without saying that it’s important that you present yourself neatly. Just try to be hygienic…the last thing you need is the way your smelling to be distracting them from the real deal, YOU.
  3. Research, Research, Research – Even if this is your dream job and you may know everything about this company you have received a job interview opportunity with, it is very important to do some background research about the company. Also, looking at the company’s website gives you an idea about their brand, their purpose, and allows you to be educated about facts that you can resource during the interview. This may seem like over-the-top, but making sure you are at least aware of where you will be working and their brand is something that you should prioritize. Plus, interviewers generally love when you have gone out of your way to get to know more about the position – it shows dedication and self-motivation.
  4. Actually listen and be attentive during the interview – No, this is not the time to be spacey and dozing off. You need to be listening to what the interviewer is saying, as they can reference old questions, be expecting you to remember things, etc. It’s also simply rude not to listen and pay attention to the interviewer. So, give them your full and uninvited attention. A great communication skill I’ve learned to utilize during interviews is repeating what they said, so I can confirm whether I was actually listening to everything that they said. If you forgot, it is okay to ask. Just try to keep it to a minimum, but asking them to repeat a question is not a crime. Being attentive means that you are also acknowledging what they are saying without interrupting them, so nodding your head occasionally and using assuring words, such as “right,” “I see,” and “yes” are appropriate.
  5. Print Off A Resume – This is something that in the current day and age is not really essential, but it can show a form of professionalism. Remember, they are basing their decision off of your outward professionalism. It shows that you are prepared and are responsible, just in case they have lost your resume or have to pull it up. Just be prepared for everything.
  6. PRACTICE (EVEN IN THE MIRROR) – Practicing exceptional communication skills is vital. Practice speaking calmly, and softly to yourself in order to prepare yourself for the interview. I also recommend engaging in eye-contact throughout your interview, so practicing in the mirror is essentially like practicing in front of someone else. You do not realize how awkward you can get under pressured social situations, so it may alleviate some stress to practice things that you can say. Make an effort to practice your communication skills in mirror, so you can also observe yourself while you practice. Make sure you look as natural and calm as possible. Being fidgety, playing with your hands, and slouching over are things that you want to avoid, especially during the interview. If you observe yourself doing any of these things, try to make a point of it to practice.
  7. Google Potential Interview Questions & Have Answers Prepared – Always be prepared. These days you can Google just about anything and get a thorough answer to all your questions. Knowing what your interview could entail and what questions are potentially asked is a good way to avoid being caught off guard by challenging questions. There are many blogs that discuss potential questions for every field of work. This is truly helpful and helps me feel prepared and more aware about questions that they will be asking. Not all the questions will be asked that you researched, but you get a general idea.
  8. Figure Out What Your Biggest Weakness Is and Somehow Make It Positive – I find that disclosing your biggest weakness is the hardest. During an interview, it is your time to shine, so it just does not seem right to be talking about things that are degrading about yourself. Try your hardest to make this “negative” trait positive and try to come up with a creative answer. You are even welcome to Google answers that others have used. I do this and it truly helps. Also, most interviews always include this question, so this question is half the battle.
  9. Go Over Your Resume & Employment History – Employers always ask questions about your previous jobs. So, going over your resume the night before or prior to the interview will be helpful. They will often ask questions encompassing your job duties from your past jobs, and ask questions about how you can relate these duties into this job. You will not skip a beat if you do this! Employers always, always ask questions about your previous employment, so be sure to review.
  10. Show Up 10-15 Minutes Early To The Interview – Use these 10-15 minutes to not only appear responsible, timely, and dependent, but it also gives you time to review what you are going to say, calm down, or catch a breathe or some air after sweating. Whatever you have to do, even if it is brushing your teeth or changing into new shoes, showing up early allows you to truly calm down. I know I hate feeling rushed and I can never think straight if I am constantly thinking about how I am not early enough. Showing up at least 10 minutes early shows courtesy and shows that you respect the time of the interviewer. Beyond that, it shows that you are responsible, reliable, and have good time-management skills.
  11. Try To Be Composed and Natural – Try your hardest to remain calm, composed and natural during your interview. This is your time to show off and show them your personality. Try not to show your nervousness as much as possible, and try to treat it like a conversation with a stranger. The more interviews you go through, the more natural it will become…NOT! It is always scary for everyone, so try your hardest to leave your fears in the waiting room and conquer this interview. Toot your horn a bit, after all you’ve made it this far!xo,Aichan Tewahade

Life Hack #5 – The Power of Positive Thinking

Even on your hardest days, positive thinking and actions are always encouraged. It’s true life gets difficult, forcing us to dig even deep down within us to even find the positive in your life. Positive thinking may be difficult on even the best days, as it’s easy to complain and forget to count our own blessings. But, we are human.

Today, I encourage you to continue to dig deep and challenge yourself. I find that I am most positive when I am giving something new a try, or simply just challenging myself. Trying something new to me is something that truly challenges me.

Lately, however, life gave me a shock up my spine; things got difficult and I had to find lots of courage and strength to get through many of my days. Finding small, unique positive aspects of my days were really important to me and helped the days go by much quicker and happier.

I feel that when you are challenged and in difficult situations, you realize how much even the smallest things matter to you and it truly forces you to become a more positive version of yourself. Even the smallest things these days make me happy. The hard times allow you to truly become the grateful, positive version of yourself you want to be, as you recognize all the beautiful things that you took for granted the last few days.

I promise you though, that a positive way of life is much more meaningful and fun version of living. Why not find the light at the end of the tunnel and make it possible for your life to be better and more meaningful? A constant state of complaining, and an unwillingness to want to make things better is not a relevant way of living these days. Similarly, positivity challenges you, forcing you to think of good thoughts and radiate positive emotion, rather than letting your brain get flooded by negative thoughts.

Negativity is an inevitable part of life, but a willingness to make things better and better yourself is key. You can be extremely successful being negative – do not get me wrong, but do you want to live like that?

When life really challenges you, it really does rain and pour. But, instead of approaching it with more negativity try combating with positive energy. The way I see it the more you are positive, the more positive outcomes that will come of it.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

Life Hack #4 – Remember to R&R

What does R&R stand for? Let me answer that question for you. It stands for rest and revive.

Our bodies, which are constantly in motion and working to keep our precious bodies healthy and happy, need time to rest and revive. This is why getting the proper amount of sleep and rest is particularly important. We, as individuals, are programmed to fatigue sometimes, when we are overworked, not getting enough sleep, or not getting sleep at all.

Though we all say that we can sleep when we are dead, this is something that could especially become detrimental towards our health. Studies have shown that without the proper amount of rest, not only are we unable to revive, but we find ourselves gaining weight, losing weight, getting groggy, and getting grumpy. It even from time to time affects our ability to memorize and remember things.

Resting plays a large role in our body, and in order to be that happy and healthy versions of ourselves, we need to be resting every night.

Some days sleeping just does not cut it, in fact, some days I find myself exhausted even after a good night’s sleep. This is our body telling us that we either are stressed, overwhelmed, and perhaps not treating our bodies correctly.

Taking time off, or away from our rigorous schedules, is something that we unfortunately cannot do very frequently, as most of us are in school, or at work all day. It’s truly hard to find time sometimes to rest and revive.

Every day, I try to take about 30 minutes in the morning to revive my system after a night’s rest. I usually simply lay down and look at the not-so-empty walls of my studio apartment, thinking about how lucky I am that I have found time to relax.

Taking a small portion of your day, morning, or afternoon, or evening, to simply just unwind and seperate yourself from your daily stressors plays a huge role in feeling more rejuvenated, happy, and healthy.

We all need to rejuvenate sometimes, and you truly should not be so hard on yourself, if you just can’t seem to move out of your bed. In this fast-paced society, catching a break is truly hard, and sometimes, it leads me to believe that we should all have a vacation period at least once every few months.

Though taking breaks is frowned upon by society, it is one of the most vital ways to stay sane and happy. The idea that we, as individuals, have to constantly be in motion and working, or doing something, is absolutely absurd. I understand the need to want to make the best out of our lives, however, taking time off to relax and revive will leave you in a much better headspace.

Recently, I took a break from school, friends, and even from my full-time job. And, man does time go by fast when you are resting and reviving. Similarly, I also took time to be away from my phone, another stressor that does not allow us to rest and revive ( I actually just broke my phone yet again). I currently am taking a break from all these stressors and simply focusing on reviving myself to get ready for another year of grueling activities.

There’s always time to rest and revive. And, if you’re struggling to find some time to rest and revive, then I would suggest reconsidering your work-load, your personal life, and other aspects of your life that do not seem to be allowing you this freedom.

Take a breath every once in a while, and just breathe. Even if it is only for ten minutes, making time for R&R is underrated, and unacknowledged.

How you spend your time resting and reviving is all up to you, as everyone has different ways they spend time unwinding. I try to utilize my free time journaling, blogging, coloring, hiking, practicing photography and/or napping.

How do you R&R?

xo,

Aichan Tewahade