Update on 2018

Fourteen days ago, when a new year began dawning on us, I was unsure, uneasy, a little uncomfortable, and stressed. Fourteen days later, I am still a little unsure, a little uneasy, a little uncomfortable, and a little stressed.

However, since the year began, to say that nothing amazing or positive has not come my way would be incorrect, as every day, it seems like something has managed to make me laugh, smile, or even catch me off-guard.

While we can never plan out how our days, let along our years, will go by, I have been doing my best to make my days more meaningful, busy, and full of the things that make me happy.

Towards the end of 2017, I must admit I felt blinded by stressors and circumstances that I could not physically change – and, honestly, I found myself in a somewhat negative headspace. Sometimes, when tasks become overwhelming and life may seem a little more difficult, I find myself stuck, unable to think beyond the walls of my stressors.

While I still continuing to work on realizing that there are things in our lives that we can change to make things better, I continue to remind myself daily that I am doing okay, I have so much to look forward to, and that I have so many wonderful people around me that continue to help me and support me – NO MATTER WHAT.

Over the course of the last 14 days, I have accomplished some of my goals (ALREADY), did some pretty cool things, and have experienced many lovely surprises that have caught me off-guard that I would love to share with you!

  1. To begin the year properly, I made a “2018 Intentions Board,” carefully listing my hopes, dreams, aspirations, and areas in which I woud like to improve. While these are fairly vague, in some aspects, I broke down the board into categories of different aspects and facets of life that are relevant to me. From there, I made goals and resolutions, within the categories, which helps me keep my thoughts, goals, and aspirations more organized. This way of organization helps me vizualize areas in which I would like to improve, and breaks every category into subcategories that more carefully detail exactly how I would like to help myself achieve these new years resolutions. Breaking down your goals and New Year’s Resolutions into “smaller” goals assists me in following through with these plans and goals, as they provide a footmap and steps that I need to take in order to stick by these intentions.
    I am positive, as the year progresses, certain aspects of my 2018 intentions board will change. But, an intention board allows one to give each year a purpose and gives one somewhat of a plan for this upcoming year. Feel free to take a look at my 2018 Intentions Board for a more in-depth analysis of my intentions for this year.IMG_5061

One resolution I specifically set out this year to accomplish was to find another job that made me happier, as I found that I was not happy with my previous job. After tireless months of complaining and finding every excuse in the books not to apply for another job, I knew that I could no longer put this goal aside. The work environment I was apart of did not treat me correctly, was very toxic, and began taking a negative toll on my mental health. I am now happy to say that I have found another job; one that makes me happy, and with a company that appreciates my services. I am very happy with my new job!

2.  Another great opportunity came my way earlier this year, when Warby Parker, an eyeglass company, approached me, after coming across my blog! The best part? Someone on their brand management team reached out to me, after accidentally coming across my blog, and was impressed with the content on here of my blog. Honestly, the fact that someone went out of their way to look over my blog, read my articles, and assess my blog, without me mentioning it, is already an accomplishment for me. Beyond that, it was greatly humbling that they mentioned the fact that they truly would like to work with me, seeing as they enjoyed my blog – THIS WAS ONCE AGAIN HUMBLING.
After coming across my blog, the Warby Parker asked me to help them promote and announce their new Spring 2018 collection. This was quite an honor for me and such a great opportunity! When I started my blog a year ago, I would never in a million years thought that someone, or any company, would approach me to help me promote their brand. While Warby Parker is the first and ONLY company, thus far, to ask me to do something of this manner. As the year continues, I would love to partner up with more companies, bloggers, etc., in the new future, through my blog, as this is something I am very passionate about!Processed with VSCO with c1 presetProcessed with VSCO with c1 preset

3. Other fun things that I have taken apart in this year, includes spending time with my family and cousins, who I am all very close with. Family is very important and I love spending time with them, as they help keep me grounded, focused, and happy. My cousins, who are all around my age, mean the world to me. Beyond that, they gave me a sense of calm and happiness just simply by being around them. I love them all so much!ajskdfjkjaskdlfjIMG_4493Screenshot (401)Processed with VSCO with c1 presetProcessed with VSCO with c1 preset
AND, I have been spending too much time (if that is possible), with my dog, Kiki, who is basically family! img_4853

4. I also made a few trips down to Denver, Colorado, where I did some exploring and found some incredible murals that are pictured below. IMG_4892IMG_4891IMG_4888IMG_4887Processed with VSCO with c1 preset

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4. In addition, I went on my first hike of the year with my brother! We hiked up the infamous Flatirons and got a great workout in! IMG_4944IMG_4951IMG_4960img_4433img_5109
And, we also took a stroll down Pearl Street Mall, visiting the beautifully lit Boulder court house and took a detour into Lush.img_4064img_4088

5. I found some time to engage in some relaxation time, as well! Or, celebrating, whichever you would like to call it!IMG_4547OWLI6026.jpegProcessed with VSCO with f2 preset

6. As if life could not get any better, my parents also surprised me with a new book called “A Book That Takes Its Time,”which is a book about mindfulness. It is not just a regular book, but contains journals, stickers, posters, activities, etc., which I am excited to dive into! While I could not take a picture of every activity, page, etc., I provided a preview below of the content within the book, and tried to showcase the nature of it! I am so excited to dive into it! For those who are interested in purchasing the book, click here! The book is avaible on Amazon for $14.98 and is worth every penny – I would 10/10 recommend.
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7. The conversations I’ve had with my friends, THUS FAR, in 2018, have been nothing short of amazing. While many of my friends are away, live in different states, etc. I have been reconnecting and staying in touch with those around me. I have had some of the funniest conversations, as well as some heartwarming ones. It is always nice to stay in touch with friends and giggle with eachother – even from miles away. I LOVE THEM AND MISS THEM A LOT.img_5118
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8. Lastly, I came across a surprise in my email about a day ago and it was completely unexpected. While I was working my other food-service job, I came across a gentleman (who I unfortunately do not remember), but nonetheless, we must have engaged in conversation when he came into to order his food. “WOW” are the only words that come to mind when I came across this, as there are not many males my age even willing to do something like this, or even speak so kindly towards me. This email, whether I am interested in pursuing him or not, resonated with me, as not many people go out of their way to do this and be so kind. I really do even know how to phrase this – but, let’s just say, this is a pretty incredible gentleman. Needless to say, I am flattered, humbled, and just “WOW.” This email has been one of the kindest surprises that has come my way and I am truly blown away. 

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To say that 2018 has not been treating me well would be a lie, while I still find myself in somewhat of an exsitential life crisis, I have found that there have been many exciting, amazing, surprising opportunities that I have encountered and memories that I have already made. It is crazy to think that this year just started.

Even though 2017 was only fifteen days ago, so much has already begun changing and evolving. Whether or not it is because it is a new year, it is because of good karma, or if it is because I have taken the power to make positive changes in my life, 2018 has thrown me some wonderful, wonderful surprises and I have found myself in a much happier, calm space. Not that my life is much different than it was in 2017, but 2018 has truly handed me some free diamonds and surprises – none of which I ever expected!

I would love to hear how everyone else’s 2017 is going, what you have been doing, the good things that have come your way in 2018, and if you have an intention board to share!
I hope 2018 has been treating you nice, as well 
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xo,

Aichan Tewahade


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2018 Intentions & Resolutions

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We all feel a need and a desire to set intentions for the new year, and as we all know, 2018 is upon us. Since we have 365 days to accomplish goals, better ourself, etc., it is common practice to reset our goals and intentions, as we reflect on our past year.

A new year almost feels therapeutic, as it allows you to not only reflect on our last year, but assess ways in which we can improve, help ourselves, and evaluate where we are in our own life. While we can set new goals and intentions every day if we so pleased, a new year allows us to feel as if we have a fresh start, after the previous 365 days we experienced.

There are many universally common new years resolutions that people to set for the new year, such as being a good person, complaining less, budgeting better, spending time being more happy, spending more time with family and friends, getting healthier, exercising more, getting more involved in your community, etc. These are fairly standard new years resolutions, as well as great building blocks for setting your new years resolutions.

Setting more specific, goal-oriented resolutions that you uniquely and specifically would like to work on, accomplish, etc. is important and will help keep you motivated for the new year. To a certain extent, new years resolutions helps keep one grounded, focused, and gives the year a purpose. While you may not be able to plan every day, as life is completely unexpected and no one can ever predict what hurdles you may come across that year setting resolutions is assisting in mapping out your year, specifically your priorities.

Sometimes, setting specific resolutions can be difficult, as it may require you to look deeper into yourself, forcing you to acknowledge areas that you need to work on, or you may not be happy with yourself about. If human beings can all relate to something, it is that we all have qualities and sides to us that we are not proud of, need to work on, and do not want to show people.

Great new years resolutions also can involve working on specific aspects of your lifestyle, personality, health, etc. Maybe, this year you would like to acknowledge any health issues, lifestyle problems, personality traits, etc. that you struggle with, or would like to work on.

Some goals or resolutions cannot be achieved in a matter of 365 days, and these goals may take years or even a lifetime of work, but setting small goals that help you reach these long-term goals is a great way to begin, especially if you are feeling overwhelmed or it requires a long-term process. Taking small steps to assist in reaching your final goals is extremely gratifying, while it may simultaneously be frustrating.

As I mentioned before, New Years is a great holiday for reflection, and the last thing you want to feel is regretful for not at least attempting to accomplish your specific goals. In fact, you want to look back on your year and be proud of yourself of your accomplishments, and at minimum, be pleased with yourself.

My new years resolutions this year:Continuing my journey towards seeking help for my mental health – This year was difficult on my own mental health and the psychological effects were tremendously difficult to overcome, as it is still a struggle. I have put going to therapy, seeking help, and staying my medication as a backburner. Instead of bottling up what I am dealing with, I need to seize the courage to continue seeking help, as it is a lifelong battle. I vow to start being honest with my therapist and my psychiatrist. I do not want to hold back or continue making excuses. In addition, I want to come to terms with the fact that my diagnoses do not define me, neiither do my prescriptions, neither does my past, and there is nothing to be embarrassed about. I also will stop making excuses for continuing my journey to get healthy and get happy.

  1. Allowing myself to heal/relax – I need to learn how to relax and put myself first. Sometimes, I push myself beyond my own boundaries, barely giving myself time to catch a breathe. I do this in order to avoid my feelings and emotions. This behavior usually blows up in my face. I am hoping that this will lead to a discovery of new hobbies that I can pick up, or start reconnecting with old hobbies. In general though, this year, I want to learn how to balance working hard with relaxing, but mostly learning that it is okay to get bored sometimes. I do not always need to be extremely productive and a super-hard worker, sometimes I need a break too. While I have free time, I want to develop my art skills, start crafting more, and pick up some new hobbies.
  2. Embracing myself – I need to stop explaining myself to others and myself, comparing myself to other people, and letting others opinions of me get me down. I am who I am, and while I am confident in myself most of the time, I need to work on just being comfortable with who I am. I have recently let other people’s opinions of me define me and began believing it; which has almost made me a different person. I love who I am, and while sometimes it is hard, I need to truly begin believing my self worth. This also means that I need to begin embracing my flaws, accepting my mistakes, and deeply looking into them. I will be doing an investigation of both the good and the bad of myself. Hopefully, I can grow in more aspects than one. Similarly, I need to start being confident with where I am with my life and comfortable with where I am in my life. I have been completely questioning myself recently, especially when there is no need. Embracing and loving every aspect of my reality, while it may be difficult, is what I am shooting for this year.
  3. Get Involved In The Community – I have been yearning to start volunteering again, or being a part of my community, both in school and in the Boulder County area. I want to start attending more local events, joining a club, attending more school events, or even volunteering through a non-profit organization. I feel like this is an important aspect of growth and allows you to fully embrace and engage in the community you are apart of. I would love to get to know and get more involved with my school, as well as my community. I would love to also meet more people who may share similar interests, form more bonds, and take advantage of the opportunities in front of me. Volunteering has seemingly been calling my name recently and giving back to the community has been a goal of mine for a while – I just need to take action. I would love to do something involving nature or helping others. Beyond volunteering and getting involved within my local community, I would also like to go as far as staying informed with current, world events, and perhaps in the future, getting involved in volunteering in other countries. I feel like being informed about current events happening around the world is a way to get involved, to a certain extent.
  4. Find A Job That Aligns With My Interests And/Or Majors – I have constantly been working customer-service positions, retail jobs, or food-service positions. I would like to either get a job that aligns with either of my majors, psychology or advertising, or get an internship that coincides with what I am studying. In short, I would just like to work a more serious job, as I feel like I have been holding myself short. In my dreams, I would love to work for a fashion-related company or organization, as well. I have a lot of work to do and many things I must learn to become a master of degrees, but I know I am capable of more than just a customer-service based job. Throughout the year, I vow to apply time-and-time again for positions that better suite my needs and interests, in the hopes I find something that works.
  5. Engage in Physical Activity At Least Three Times A Week – Physical health is extremely important for me, as it serves more than a purpose of staying healthy. It also brings me peace of mind. It is easy to get lazy and neglect your physical wellbeing, as sticking to a strict regiment can be difficult. This is always an area I can improve on. I specifically use hiking as my form of exercise, and while I am open-minded to expanding my physical activities, I would like to hike a minimum of three times a week. The hardest step for me is walking out the door. At some point this year, I would like to do the Manitou Springs Incline trail and hike a 14er. These are some of my hiking goals. I would love to try some new physical activities, as well, such as zumba, hot yoga, skiing, and rock climbing. I also love hula hooping, so I want to start hooping again.
  6. Budget Carefully – As I am entering my early 20s, I am forced to slowly pick up responsibilities, specifically my financially. As I am blessed my parents financially support me with rent, I pay for about everything else in my life. While I work long hard hours, I could have a much more comfortable financial situation, if I choose to spend money less on materialistic things. While I am lucky to have access to FAFSA, I am only allotted so much money, and in some cases, I have to pay out-of-pocket for classes. I need to be much more financially stable and would like to start being conscious of my spending habits. With that said, when it comes to spending money, I would like to work on spending less money on materialistic things, such as  clothes, home decorations, etc., and more on experiences, such as vacations, trips, concerts, etc.
  7. Continue My Education (Finish My College Experience) – While it has not been easy and the rest of my education will be paid through FAFSA, I would like to continue taking the steps to complete my double degree at the University of Colorado. It may not happened the way I wanted to, or in the timeline, that I wished, but I am going to continue working hard in order to complete it. Graduating from the University of Colorado Boulder and receiving a undergraduate degree has been a long-term goal for me. Similarly, I vow to ask for the help I need when I am confused, stay in contact with professors and teacher assistants, work hard by making school work a priority, and to reach out to my advisors when necessary.
  8. Prioritize Spending Time With Loved Ones (No More Toxic Friends) – I used to prioritize spending time and giving my love to those who may not have had the best interests for me. While I have no hard feelings nor regret these old friendships, this year I want to focus on the friendships that are real, raw, and meaningful, with both family and friends.. Prioritizing your time with good company with people that mean well, and have honest intentions with you, is completely underrated. Alotting my time with the important people in my life, and my support system, is what I am aiming to do. Also, I am going to be better about sticking through with my plans with these friends and staying in communication with them. I would just like to treat my amazing friends and family correctly, and with the utmost respect, honesty, and kindness. ALSO, REMEMBER FAMILY IS ALWAYS IMPORTANT.
  9. Be More Honest – You can never be too honest. In some ways, I am too honest, but when it comes to honesty about emotions, I am not honest enough. I want to start learning to be vulnerable and be honest about my emotions this year, because suppressing them has led to some horribly detrimental circumstances. While this has been a long-term goal for me for a while, it is still something I am working on. When I am not honest, I tend to lash out towards the ones who love me, and that is not right. Pushing others away when you are in pain is the last thing one should do, yet it is like second nature for me. I am going to be more honest with communicating my emotions and needs, specifically at times when I need help and support from others. Being honest emotionally for me is difficult, but it is important. I would like to continue working on this.
  10. Travel More – I have not seen the world enough lately and traveling is so therapeautic. I keep saying that I will travel more, but have not followed through. I would like to explore the world more. I do not need to get out of the country, per say, but I would like to see and visit National Parks, National Monuments, and see beautiful things. We are constantly surrounded by beautiful things and we only live once, so I would like to see as much beauty as possible. I am going to make traveling and seeing new places and cultures a priority – THOUGH IT KIND OF SCARES ME.
  11. Sky Dive – I always have one adrenaline-junky activity I do once a year. I am NOT an adrenaline-junky, however, I would love to sky dive. I am extremely terrified of heights and this is something that I would love to do. It has been on my bucket list for a while and I think I am finally ready for it. *Fingers crossed, I actually do it* I mean…everyone’s doing it, right?
  12. Continue Blogging Regularly – This blog is my BABY. I love it and it is my first personal project. In fact, it was my new years resolution last year to start one. While my blog is not at 6 billion followers, I have gained momentum. Scratch that, honestly, the most important part for me is that I have stuck with it. It is extremely difficult for me to stick with something, but this is something I love and spend many hours dedicating time to construct my words, thoughts, and emotions. Blogging means more to me than just putting my thoughts out for the world to hear, it is a way of therapy and something that I am truly proud of. I was always afraid of how many likes I would get and many superficial things. I even wondering and questioned whether any would even bother reading or coming across my material. I like to believe I am a good writer, however, I am SO PROUD to say that I have 66 valuable, amazing followers and my blog has grown so much (IT HAS NOT EVEN BEEN A YEAR!). Having heard feedback and getting likes, I continued with something I honestly was unsure of, but I am believing in my skills. I took a break during the middle of the year, completely avoiding blogging, and now it has become a priority for me. This is something that I have built on my own and I am so proud of it. I am completely humbled by it, as it is something I would consider a passion and a hobby. ANYWAYS I COULD GO ON FOREVER! But, to my lovely, amazing readers and followers, THANK YOU FOR SUPPORTING ME AND THE LOVE! Every read, every click, every like, and every comment means the world to me and helps keep me going. I vow to keep providing valuable content and showcasing my skills, in the hope of developing and maturing my blog. Moral of the story: I want to expand and mature my blog, and create more quality content for my viewers and readers.
  13. Be Healthy – Treat ‘yo self right! Though I am not conscious of my body and have been blessed with an extremely fast metabolism, I know how importance it is to eat correctly and eat right. I vow to drink more water, eat more greens, have meals that have most of the colors of the rainbows, to lay off the sugar, and have a regular sleep schedule. These all change and alter our moods more than we know, and recently, I went vegan (I still do indulge in meat from time-to-time), but generally, I eat vegan and gluten-free foods. My mood and overall wellbeing has changed. I would like to stick to a healthy diet and continue taking care of myself.

These are some of my new years resolutions, goals, and things I would like to focus on. I could write 7,0000 things I would like to do this upcoming year, but this is a general idea.

As the year progreses, I will continue to keep you updated on where I have come, as far as working on my resolutions and goals. I am hoping for a good turn-out, for not just me, but for everyone!

I would love to hear some of your new year’s resolutions are, what your goals are, and what you hope the new year will bring for you!

🥂🎊 🎉HAPPY NEW YEAR! 🎈🎉🍾

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

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Life Hack #16 – Preparing For A New Year

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And, we are ready for takeoff into the new year! Do you still remember when 2017 began and thinking, “Man, where I am going to be at the end of this year? Because, it seems so far away.” Next thing you know, in a blink of an eye, it is onto the next year.

Every year that we are gifted, we have new opportunity to make change, grow, make mistakes, make memories, and flourish.

Often, individuals make new years resolutions, which are specific goals, changes, or accomplishments that they wish to work on and achieve this upcoming year.

In order to prepare new years resolutions, it does require an individual to take a look at their current life situations, or reality, and assessing it thoroughly. Examining where you succeeded, how you succeeded, when you failed, why you failed, as well as examining aspects of your life you need to work on and aspects of your personality that may need improvement. Taking a look in a mirror allows you to set goals that are not only reasonable, but effective and applicable to your life at this very moment. After a close examination, you are more capable of pinpointing specific areas of your life you would like to focus on, during this upcoming year.

Not only does setting goals or resolutions make the year go by faster, but it also gives it purpose.

Look, you have a whole twelve months, if you make it through the entire year. That is 365 days, 8,760 hours, and 525,600 minutes allotted to you each year, so take advantage of this time to set some goals. Personally, I break down my goals into two categories: target goals and action goals. Target goals are more long-term, broader goals, which may take months or years to achieve, while action goals are goals that can defined as short-term goals that are practiced, in order to achieve the target goals. It is important to have both, as defining your action goals make your target goals seem more attainable. Remember, these goals should be applicable to YOUR LIFE, not others.

Acknowledge your losses and successes, breathe, and move on.

While you can treat every day as a new year (technically), while you are setting these goals and carefully examining your life, it is easy to get too hung up on the good and the bad times of your last year. It is important to revisit your year, but the point of entering a new year is to let the past go. I get the nostalgia, or trauma, may be hard to forget, or it may not be something you may not want to forget, but moving on and letting go allows you to enter the new year, without the baggage of last year. Staying hung up or being unwilling to move on is SO LAST YEAR. LET IT GO! Regardless of what happened last year, you have made it into a new year. So, forget about it!

Embrace the new year and celebrate!

Celebrate, people!!! It is a new year and you have made it through another long year of uncertainty, emotions, and ups-and-downs. It is now time to relieve whatever unexerted energy you have built up within you, and realize that no matter how you viewed your year, it is time to celebrate. Getting through an entire year, or even a day, is so tiresome…Celebrating is like giving yourself the pat on the back that you kept forgetting to give yourself. A new year means to TREAT YOURSELF, at least to one night of fun. New Years Eve/New Years Day is the one night of the year where everyone can set aside their problems, worries, and reality to share in some joy, happiness, and fun with total strangers and/or friends. Live it up!! YOLO!!

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Okay, keep in mind, after the New Years Eve and New Years Day festivities are over, we are all forced to go back to our real lives.

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It will not be so hard, as it is painful(ly) (hungover) to get back into our routines.

A gentle reminderYour day on January 01, 2018 will probably be relatively normal. Do not expect your world to completely change in less than 24 hours.

BRING IT ON 2018 – YOU ARE MINE FOR THE TAKING.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade