Life Hack #30 – S/O To My Squad

Celebrate and shout out your fellow cheerleaders, or your support system, and do this regularly! You can never celebrate and uplift your personal cheer squad too much, as their existence in your life deserves infinite amounts of celebratory praise and appreciation. The more that you continue to acknowledge and to truly appreciate the positivity that their existence brings to your life, the more love and the more growth that friendship will begin to experience. Similarly, the more love and the more appreciation you begin to show the members of your personal cheerleading squad, the more that this individual will begin to shine and the more that this individual will begin actively exuding their best qualities, whether you notice this or not.

Everything about displaying appreciation for your support system presents positive benefits, even if these benefits may not be clearly visible for you to see.
Individuals tend to exude their best qualities and be the best versions of themselves when they are presented with positive, kind reminders of the great things that they bring to the table. In short, individuals tend to react much more positive to positive reinforcement, which can come in the form of compliments, daily reminders, etc., than they react to negativity. This is self explanatory, as human beings are programmed to respond and react in a more positive way when they are offered incentives, such as compliments, gifts, etc.

While it is nearly impossible to actively address every single one of your personal cheerleading squad with appreciation every day, however, it is incredibly important to enforce acts of appreciation for your support system, at least once a week. Tending to your support system is similar to tending to a garden; if you do not water the plants in your garden regularly, or proceed to take care of this garden, the plants in your garden will slowly begin decaying. If you continue to neglect taking care of your garden, it will result in a garden full of feeble, weak, unstable, rickety, and fragile decayed plants, which are far from accountable, let along desireable. Further neglegance over the care of your garden will result in a environment full of weeds, which will only further complicates your life by adding unnecessary clutter that you do not even want to deal with. The goal of a garden is to create an oasis, in which all of the plants are happy, healthy, strong, and stable, which are all adjectives that should describe the members of your support system. Just like your garden, you want your support system to consist of accountable, hearty, and unwavering individuals, as a strong and capable support system allows for the best opportunity for an individual to flourish and to blossom.

The foundation of one’s success rate begins with their support system, or their personal cheerleading squad. The stronger the foundation, the more stable and powerful the support system is.

A support system does not come together in the blink an eye. In fact, casting cheerleaders for your personal squad can take years and try-outs are held numerous times a month, sometimes a day. Try-outs are relentless and you will come across many desireable members for your squad, however, not every member that you cast will end up sticking around. Some cheerleaders that have made the cut for your squad initially may possess the skills and the foundation to be an excellent member of your squad, however, not every individual has the ability to mesh well with your cheerleading squad. As a result of extensive the selection process that goes into the casting process of your permanent cheerleading squad, you will encounter many temporary members, who may cheer for your team only for a short amount of time. This means that you will often find many individuals to quit the cheerleading squad, only supporting you for a temporary amount of time. These individuals are not necessarily “bad,” however, it just means that this individual just may not be the best fit for your cheerleading squad. As a result, their long-term participation on your cheerleading squad is simply out of the question. Some members of your cheerleading squad may serve shorter sentences than others who may hold a more permanent place within your cheerleading squad.

We are always changing, as our lives, so it is only natural that only a small percentage of the potential squad members are able to make the squad every try-out, as the nature, essence, goals, and priorities of the cheerleading squad is constantly changing. The permanent place-holding cheerleaders possess the qualities, patience, acceptance, and attitude to conform, and furthermore, support the cheerleading squad with their utmost ability. Not every cheerleader will possess the skills to successfully mold into the needs of the cheerleading squad, all while providing other benefits to the cheerleading squad that help the squad grow, succeed, fail, struggle, and fight. The ones that possess the love, patience, acceptance and support to hold a permanent place on your cheerleading squad time and time again are the individuals that you should never forget to shower with love, compliments, kindness, compassion, joy, and support. These people that constantly drag their booties to every life event and stand on the sidelines constantly rooting for you to succeed and to win are a rare breed, and should always be kept close to your heart.

Just like your cheerleading is constantly looking out for your best interest, it is important that you reciprocate the favor, by also tending to their needs, wants, and their best interests. After all, you do want your squad at their best, mentally, physically and emotionally.

I guarantee that all the members of your personal cheerleading squad will personally appreciate it, as it is not only polite and kind to treat people as they treat you. People will begin to lose motivation to actively work their bodies to ground for someone who either fails to acknowledge or appreciate all the good that you are doing for them. Within every functional relationship, the idea of a two-way street is always evident. It does feel nice to be recognized for your kind deeds and honest intentions, even though kindness and honest intentions do not require acknowledgement.

It is very important to get to know your personal fan-base. You should seek to form relationships with each and every member of your current squad, as knowledge serves to be a beneficial facet of building the most successful squad for your current reality. By forming personal and intimate relationships with every member of the squad, you can identify strengths and weaknesses, personalities, etc. within your squad. With this information, you can further work to mold your dream squad to showcase their utmost strengths.

Intimacy within a team of any kind functions at its’ most effective pace when members are motivated to work together. A motivation to work together sprouts from knowing, and therefore, trusting the people that have your back. It is safe to conclude that one’s ability to actively and effectively work with others closely is an important aspect in concluding whether or not they are fit to be apart of your squad. Members of your dream team should feel comfortable working with other members of your cheer squad to further benefit you, or otherwise solidify their support system.

It is much easier and comfortable living your life, knowing that you have an entire cheerleading squad behind you, rooting for you and supporting you, in sickness and in health. While it is fundamental to find support within yourself, individuals tend to experience more successful outcomes when they have a strong support system that is willing to work with you, and all your unique needs, wants, comfortability, strengths, weaknesses and your personality and behaviors, to develop a unique, effective cheer routine that caters to your unique existence, your current priorities, needs, and wants, in order to execute the routine in the most successful and most accurate way that they are able to, in order to make you happy, support you, and bring you success and happiness.

You should treat the members of your hard-working cheer squad like they are your family. Your cheerleading squad does not always have to include members of your family, however, it is important to recognize that your cheer squad is your non-biological family. They are very important forces in your well-being, happiness, etc.

No amount of reciprocation of kindness is ever too much. Throwing a themed party to celebrate and appreciate all the members of your metaphoric backbone, or spine, should be mandatory for all individuals, as we do not celebrate people’s existence nearly enough within our society. Your spinal chord, or your support system, is a very important part of your body, as it holds more responsibilities than the President of America. It is so important to take care of your spinal chord – I would even recommend spoiling your squad, especially the good ones. You know who they are!

Pampering and spoiling those you love is not a crime. Showing someone how much they mean to you speaks louder than words, and you should never take advantage of these permanent members of your cheerleading squad. These permanent place-holders on your squad do more than tolerate your existence. In fact, being apart of someone’s support system, or truly caring for another human being, is a full-time job. Their time is so valuable – do not waste their time and energy failing to acknowledge how much they do for you, whether you notice the good that they bring or not.

The way you choose to express and to celebrate every member of your support system is up to you. The size or the grandiosity of the gesture hardly plays a role in how thankful that individual be with your graceful act of appreciation. A little does go a long way, in this case.

Do not be afraid to celebrate, to enjoy, and to appreciate all the good humans that work very hard to keep you happy, healthy, and strong.

SPOIL YOUR RIDE OR DIE HOMIES. IT IS NOT A CRIME!

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

How To Make Work More Fun

UGH. BLAH. BLECH. We all get it….we all hate going to work, and even the idea of working kind of sucks.

Every day that we have to go into work there’s that little voice inside the back of your head telling you to call into work sick, come up with some malignant lie about how your grandmother is dying in the hospital, etc. Here are some ways you can make work a little more enjoyable:

  1. Befriend your coworkers – Being in an environment with friends can make all shifts seem shorter and less grueling. The more friends you are able to make at work, the more enjoyable the job may seem. Cracking jokes and asking your coworkers questions, or simply just treating them like they are your friend, will assist in making work seem more of a fun environment than just a workplace.
  2. Put in 100% effort when going into work – As backwards as this seems, keeping yourself busy with mindless actions can help the day go by faster. Pick up the slack of your other coworkers, and find new things to do around your work space that can help both you and your team.
  3. Think of all the other things you would not be doing if you were not at work – Literally, what else would you be doing/? I know I’m not the only one that does not want to move or crawl out of their bed in the morning just because you have to pee. Most of the population does a version of Netflix and chill, or just hang around doing nothing.
  4. Think of the money you are making – Money, though it does not dictate much, is necessary to survive in this world. Think of all the money you are making, as you contrast, what you would be doing at home not getting paid.
  5. Find a decent paying job that does not require overtime hours to make a living – Being paid strictly minimum wage is rough, especially when the perks are not so enticing. Try finding a job where you can make tips, which will increase your pay just a little more. You could also just find a job that pays more than minimum wage, try shooting for something that may be a reach. Everyone needs to make a living, wherever you decide to work, make sure to weigh out the pros and cons of how much your pay is, and whether you feel as though you are getting paid evenly for the work that you put in.
  6. Try to stay at a job for longer than six months – Constantly trying to find a new job, because you are bored of your other job, or got fired, etc. is draining. Job hunting is a hard feat as it is, and finding the perfect job is not quite realistic when you are just trying to make ends meet. Having to be trained at nine different new things, having to meet new coworkers, having to figure out the ropes of a new job is ultimately tiring. Finding a steady long-term job will help decrease levels of anxiety about every aspect of working. Once you’ve learned the ropes of a new job, stick with it for a while. Sticking with a job can come with rewards, such as bonuses, wage raises, and a great recommendation.
  7. Figure out what you are good at – Figure out what you are good at and stick with it. Find a job that lines up with your interests and is not extremely stressful, because it is not something you excel in. Finding your niche can help set you apart from other workers, and show your team where the best position to utilize you is. Once you’re being put to good use, you will find that the rest of your team will have less anxiety, as you will excel in that position, and the compliments will be flying out the door.
  8. Messing up sucks – This is slightly negative, but you will make mistakes anywhere you work. It is impossible to be perfect, and yes, everyone knows how much messing up sucks. The longer you are with a company, the less likely you are to make mistakes, as you begin to master your work environment. Take the constructive criticisms as what they are, not as a dictator of what you are worth. Similarly, the longer you work somewhere, the easier it is to overcome your mess ups and hopefully joke around about your mistakes in the past.
  9. Communicate with everyone on the team – Learn to communicate with others on your team. The more you communicate, the less likely there will be confusion. Speak with your manager if you are feeling like you are being scheduled too much or too little. If you need a favor, tell your other coworkers what you need from them. Ask, talk, and communicate – these are all things that will make work much less painful.
  10. Be on good behavior around the owner – Being on good behavior in general is a must in making your work experience much more enjoyable. Being in the good graces of your owner or management staff is something that you will realize is vital is maintaining a job, getting good recommendations, etc. Management is who you report to generally if you are beginning a job, they are constantly watching to make sure that you are the right fit for the job. Keep things professional with less jokes, less side banter, less complaining. Focus on your job and doing it right when they are around. This is a time, where knowing your niche and showing off your skill sets will benefit you. Do what is asked of you.
  11. Bring a positive attitude to work – Do not be that person that is always incessantly complaining about doing a job that they applied for, knowing the criteria and what is asked of them. Be positive and bring a good energy to work. This will help time go by faster and help the team maintain a level head if someone is having a bad day. If you started on a bad note, try to recuperate and end things on a good note. Having a good perspective on the idea of working, and trying your best to make it enjoyable with positive energy, will do more than just help your coworkers feel better. It will honestly probably score you more tips. A happy, positive environment is an environment that customers enjoy.